commented on Savage Love
Wait, wait, wait.
So BABB's girlfriend "can't last as long" and then after she has an orgasm he just keeps pounding away for another 30 minutes during which she is not aroused?
WTF. I mean I guess maybe she doesn't have more than one orgasm? The real question is, why not?
Pro tip: if after she comes once you continue doing things that turn her on, it is likely that the whole endeavor will be more fun for everyone.
commented on The Rent Hike
This is such an interesting thing to think about - basically nothing like our current dramatic increase in urbanism and urban population density has ever happened before, so it's silly to think that anyone automatically knows how we (as a species? as a society?) should handle it.
I mean, yes - market forces are real, and if there is someone who will pay more for something than you will, that person will probably get it. Not sure that's a great thing, but it is a thing, and not one for which there's a good solution.
It's kind of astounding on some level that we haven't had a big huge national or international conversation about Where To Put People So Things Still Work. Or actually maybe we did and I just missed it, totally possible. Right now it seems like we're trying to put the population density of the future into the housing spaces of the past, and everyone is shocked - SHOCKED! - when it doesn't work out easy as pie.
Dec 29, 2012
commented on The Quiet Rise in DIY Abortions
The medically-induced abortion pill (prostaglandin and/or antiprogestogen) is NOT the "morning after pill" (estrogen/progestin), which indeed would not work to terminate an established pregnancy.
Dec 22, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Shopping Spree
I think it's okay to not enjoy masturbating in front of someone. People are different and have different sexual responses; some people do not enjoy being watched. And while such a person might or might not be willing to give it a try for a partner, it's totally possible that he or she would continue not to enjoy being watched, and that the masturbation would fizzle out or end up being a (fake) performance.
And yes, doing something together is different from being watched.
All that said, Dan's suggestion seems like a good way to try to learn to like it.
Dec 18, 2012
commented on Congrats, Guys! Suck It, Haters!
@14 the only strong correlation that I know of is a strong negative correlation between "cohabitation before marriage" and "staying married". It doesn't mean anything in any particular case, of course. You really can't accurately predict based on duration of dating or extent of cohabitation how long a marriage will last. Gottman can predict the end of a marriage, but he does it based on observation of interaction, which makes more sense.
Nov 22, 2012
commented on On Audiobooks vs Regular-Type Books
I listen to audiobooks while working with my hands. Carpentry, knitting, sewing, cleaning, gardening, etc. I have also listened while riding the bus. I don't like having headphones in while walking or running, I don't think it's safe; music while I'm running early in the morning when there's no traffic is a recent compromise, and audiobooks are much worse for taking my attention away from the world around me.
Nov 20, 2012
commented on Today in Affurmative Action
@11 If you really would like to have more cats, it's worth talking to a behaviorist. Sometimes there is something that cat be done for an angry cat.
Nov 1, 2012
commented on Would You Like to Know Why I'm Wrong?
65/66 - I don't think I am confused. It seems like you may be? I haven't actually read the proposed laws (not really relevant to me just now), but I gather from discussion here that the law would prohibit driving with a THC level above a certain cutoff. Not sure how this would be tested - but that's a different question. Anyway, my statement was based on the assumption that it is THC itself that is regulated for driving.
It is clearly stupid to have THC metabolites as the measured parameter for DUI, so I assume nobody has proposed that.