Feb 16 Chase commented on Rachel Maddow: Something's Up Between Jill Stein & Putin.
@24: It's a lot easier to blame Clinton's loss on a big conspiracy between the Russians and the Greens (and the FBI, the Bernie Bros, etc) rather than examine things that could've been helped like Clinton's failure to campaign in Wisconsin or Michigan or rural Pennsylvania, the fact that Obama was playing golf the Saturday before the election because the campaign hadn't scheduled him to do anything, the fact that the campaign ignored operatives in Michigan and elsewhere who were warning them that they were in trouble, the fact that the DNC spent millions of dollars on GOTV in Chicago and New Orleans simply because they were afraid of losing the popular vote, or Clinton's failure to come up with a coherent message beyond "it's my turn", "I'm a woman", and "thank God I'm not Trump".

Clinton lost 10 times as many 2012 votes as Stein gained in Wisconsin. And people keep conveniently forgetting that Johnson was running too, about 3x stronger than Stein and pulling votes away from Trump. But I guarantee you we're never going to see Dan address that because hey, fuck reality, let's blame the Greens again for our own failings. The Russians may have done some shady shit, but they didn't make the Clinton campaign act like a bunch of arrogant morons.

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Feb 15 Chase commented on Savage Love.
@19: it would be "taking—or rather, not taking—many for the team". And yeah, agreed agreed agreed.
Feb 15 Chase commented on Savage Love.
"Kink apps"? Which ones? If Dan is referring to Fetlife, it's neither an app nor particularly useful for dating. I assume there must be other options I'm not aware of? (AFF, also not an app but also seems more for swingers than kinksters).
Feb 14 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Facebook Stalking Pharmacist Questions His Ethics.
If someone who had seen my private medical information - name, home address, prescriptions - started trying to hit on me outside of work (in person or online, doesn't matter), I would call the fucking police and get a restraining order immediately. Even in the most innocent case, they've already proven themselves to be terrible at basic boundary management.
Feb 14 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Facebook Stalking Pharmacist Questions His Ethics.
There's this really adorable guy I've been following around my neighborhood. I just want to cut his cute little body up and keep it in my freezer so I can savor eating up every little bit. What is the protocol here?
Jan 7 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Snooper Boyfriend Keeps Snooping Through Passed Out Girlfriend's Phone.
BiDanFan got it @31 and nocutename got it @38. (I like the fish analogy. And the banana.)

Non-monogamy seems to work fine for many gay male couples, enough that it might even be more commonly practiced than monogamy. Apparently it works well for Dan (or he's trying really hard to convince himself - or Terry - that it does). But most people in the world at large aren't comfortable with the idea of a non-monogamous relationship, by temperament or otherwise, just as the majority of people wouldn't be comfortable with exchanging their heterosexual relationship for a homosexual relationship. Suggesting that an unusual solution that worked for you is likely to work for people who are different from you, in a different situation than yours, is bizarrely unhelpful.

Some non-monogamous people do seem to be color blind when it comes to monogamy. "Good communication and emotional support" *are* important - does texting a potential hookup while pretending to be monogamous, stonewalling, rejecting your partner sexually, failing to initiate yourself, and complaining about lack of sex indicate that either of those things is remotely present? No. Nor does snooping in your partner's phone or trying to catch them in the act of cheating. Non-monogamy is almost never the magic bullet for a situation like this - instead it's much more likely to turn the drama up to 11.

There's far better advice given in almost every comment in this thread. My guess is that usedtobeotter2 @5 is right: she's trying to get him to end it for her, in which case he should take the hint and GTFO. But I'm more curious about Dan's problem than the LW's. Is he feeling ornery? Is he fed up with answering questions that have obvious answers? Is he posting drunk again? Is he trolling the commenters here? Is he unhappy in his personal life? Does he need a sabbatical? Or is he just broken by the Cheetoh Nazi? I'm going to assume he was just being a smartass since this relationship sounds pretty unsalvageable. So I responded in kind.

(If you're trying to read my comment as homophobic, you may be projecting, you aren't paying attention, or you're looking for enemies you don't have.)
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Jan 6 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Snooper Boyfriend Keeps Snooping Through Passed Out Girlfriend's Phone.
I mean, I've seen Dan give worse advice, but only about politics.
Jan 6 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Snooper Boyfriend Keeps Snooping Through Passed Out Girlfriend's Phone.
Dan's original draft:

Q: "I think my girlfriend might be cheating on me. What should I do?"

A: "Have you tried being gay? Gay people don't care about bullshit like monogamy. Maybe give that a spin, it worked for me. Problem solved."
Jan 3 Chase commented on Buffy the Psych Prof: Someone You Should Follow On Twitter.
I look forward to the impending demise of Twitter like I used to look forward to Christmas. And I look forward to the day when Dan has to shut up about Twitter almost as much.
Jan 3 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Newly Engageed Woman Debates Confessing Bullshit "Infidelity" Or Keeping Mouth Shut.
I agree with biggie and nocutename. If you really think your fiancé would contact the other man's wife or otherwise react really badly, that's a huge red flag (either for him or your opinion of him).