Oct 19 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Post-Marital Counseling.
"Open for discussion" means you have to be willing to discuss it, not that you have no stated goals or expectations. "No rules or contracts" would preclude a monogamous marriage. LW's husband doesn't seem to understand language or logic. Tell him he opens the discussion or you open the door and walk out.
Sep 29 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Tweet Storm of Excellent Advice.
@16: Yeah, that's also important. Listening and caring about what the other person says is a lot more interesting than plotting the next step of some pickup strategy in your head while pretending to pay attention.
Sep 29 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Tweet Storm of Excellent Advice.
@14: It's actually the only advice that ever works, but people don't like to hear it because it means they have to do some work. Be more interesting means DO INTERESTING THINGS. Hanging out on bodybuilding forums and Red Pill and bitching about bitches and whining about not getting laid is utterly boring. Travel, learn languages and other useful skills, do projects, find things that are more important than hooking up, make friends, be creative, DO things. Even if it doesn't get someone a partner, it will make their life a lot more enjoyable.

And Haley explains why the direct approach is more effective @15. Nothing says insecurity and unattractiveness like someone who doesn't have the guts to be honest.
Sep 29 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Tweet Storm of Excellent Advice.
And it seems blatantly obvious to me that if you want people to be interested in you, you have to be interesting. Paying money to learn some scoring-obsessed hookup strategy from a PUA is not going to help with that.
Sep 29 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Tweet Storm of Excellent Advice.
I can't count how many times I've seen this conversation online:

A: I can't get a date, why won't any bitches talk to me?
B: why not ask your female friends for advice?
A: what? I don't talk to women unless I want to fuck them.
Sep 7 Chase commented on Savage Love.
There's a very obvious reason why gay cuckoldry might appear to be less common, and why jealousy often seems to work differently for homosexual couples than it does for het couples, so obvious that I'm surprised Dan hasn't mentioned it (maybe it's homo-normativity):

When someone in an actual straight couple has sex with a third, the uninvolved partner is extremely unlikely to want to have sex with their rival, who they see only as competition. With gay or lesbian couples (or couples where there's a bisexual dynamic), any feelings of competition or betrayal may be complicated or even over-ridden by attraction for the rival. It need not have anything whatsoever to do with babies; the story Dan tells about his reaction to being cheated on is much less common for straight couples, simply because they're not gay.

The unusual thing about gay cuckolds is not that they're turned on by their partner having sex with someone else, it's that they don't want to have sex with the guest star themselves.
Aug 19 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Quick Hits.
Bad advice from Dan on the roommate thing (in the podcast). You don't shit where you eat, and you don't fuck around where you sleep. Part of managing sustainable open relationships is being smart about identifying good (low drama potential) playmate candidates. A roommate who's *already* worried he'll develop romantic feelings if they have sex is not a good risk.
Aug 6 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Punting.
There's a crucial difference between Sugar's situation and WGHA's that Dan completely missed in his haste to jump on his predictable "infidelity is no big deal" hobby horse: in Sugar's case her boyfriend abjectly apologized; the LW's inconsiderate POS boyfriend "goes back and forth between taking responsibility and not thinking it's a big deal" and doesn't seem to "realize exactly what he did wrong". Forgiving someone for an infidelity is one thing, but first they have to demonstrate genuine remorse, and this drunken jackass is a child who's just upset that he got caught and doesn't understand why open relationships need dumb rules anyway. He doesn't sound at all ready for an honest relationship.

WGHA also says "I don't think it would be difficult to find someone who didn't do this." Maybe in Dan's world it is, but it shouldn't be, but at the very least she deserves a boyfriend who takes their relationship and her feelings seriously. And isn't an alcoholic.

Fichu nails it @8 and @9. Can we have her take over the column?
Aug 5 Chase commented on It Would Be Helpful If We Stopped Lying About How Much Hillary Clinton Lies.
As for lying about Clinton lying, there's no need for that. We have the Inspector General's report and factcheck.org to demonstrate it for us:

Aug 5 Chase commented on It Would Be Helpful If We Stopped Lying About How Much Hillary Clinton Lies.
@64: The Authorization gave Bush "specific statutory authorization" (as required by the War Powers Resolution) to "use the Armed Forces of the United States as he determines to be necessary and appropriate" to defend the US against Iraq or to enforce UN resolutions against Iraq. There were no restrictions placed on him except for the standard restrictions required by the WPR, namely that he make regular reports to Congress. Clinton voted against the Levin amendment, which would have authorized Bush to use force only if Iraq defied subsequent UN demands regarding the inspections process (inspections that in fact began and were still ongoing when the invasion began). She chose instead to support the Republican version of the bill, which had no such stipulation and allowed him to invade at will. That's as close as anyone's gotten to a "blank check" since the last Congressional declaration of war in 1942.

I'm not ignoring her attempt to have it both ways at the time, that's entirely in keeping with her character. She also said she voted for the AUMF "with conviction" and stated as late as 2007 that she did not consider her vote a mistake. Once the invasion had begun she voted for a resolution expressing "unequivocal support" for the President's "decisive action". That's not the least bit indicative of someone who was expecting the AUMF to be used only after diplomatic options were exhausted. Where was her outrage at being betrayed? There was none, because the whole thing was a charade and anyone honest knows it.

Finally, if you don't think the American invasion of Iraq constitutes a war crime, then you are a very Good German indeed. Kofi Annan (who knows a fair bit more about this than you do) has plainly said that the war was illegal. It was a clear violation of the UN charter.