Jul 21 Chase commented on Savage Love.
@43: Not an exact equivalence, but not far off. Perhaps a better example would be to borrow from an explanation popular with bisexuals and ask how a red-headed woman should respond to a brother-in-law who said he missed fucking redheads.
Jul 21 Chase commented on Savage Love.
@38: Ah, right. Thanks for the sanity check. Yeah, whatever happened to that Dan?

@41: Yup. Gender swaps have other uses. I don't think the answer would be "haha, yeah I bet. So, uh, how about them Sounders?"
Jul 20 Chase commented on Savage Love.
@27: Gah! You're absolutely right, of course, and I even knew that, but I swear I've seen Dan say something similar. Maybe I was thinking of this:

And remember this going forward too: when you're with someone who sends mixed signals, disregard the signals that appeal to your vanity and/or hopes ("cannot imagine me not being in his life as he loves me and he doesn’t want to break up") and accept at face value the signals that break your heart ("he has been thinking about the future and more and more of his future plans have just involved him alone"). The upsetting signals are invariably the truth and the appealing signals almost always turn out to be an an inch of vanilla frosting spread over a big piece of shitcake.
Jul 20 Chase commented on Savage Love.
Two misses this week, Dan.

HELPME needs to listen to a younger, wiser Dan: "When someone tells you who they are, believe them". Move on, already. And maybe talk to someone about why you don't think you deserve a partner who loves you instead of a distant memory.

BIL should say "dude, you're married to my sister, I don't want to talk about sex with you." His brother-in-law is way out of line. BiDanFan has a good suggestion about asking if they have an open relationship, but it shouldn't go any further than that. Family is off limits.
Jul 19 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Boyfriend Experience.
(Not LW, obviously, it's too late for her.)
Jul 19 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Boyfriend Experience.
DON'T HAVE KIDS.
DON'T HAVE KIDS.
DON'T HAVE KIDS.
DON'T HAVE KIDS.
DON'T HAVE KIDS.
Jul 18 Chase commented on Make America Great Again It Stop.
"Live stream" seems especially appropriate. "Hot liquid stream" would be even better.
Jul 17 Chase commented on Savage Love.
"Monogamous and Proud" is a bit like saying "White Pride" or "#AllLivesMatter".
Jul 15 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Touchy-Feely Potential Fiancé.
Not sure why her sexual identity is relevant, but if his creepy behavior was all from two years ago (and not post-surgery-epiphany) and he owns up to it, seems like this is a solvable problem.
Jul 15 Chase commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Touchy-Feely Potential Fiancé.
@1: She says she's "hetero-amorous", so she's one of the many women who are sexually attracted to other women but only have romantic feelings for men.