commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mixed Signals
This is horrible advice. Sometimes relationships only work in a certain setting. Not everyone you meet or fuck is going to work as a life partner. Not every connection or situation has the potential for real life, day in day out love. Some relationships can only work long distance. Or tortured.
It seems like this works for him. Maybe he's a very independent person. He likes being on his own, but he also likes the idea of this woman. He likes having someone to write to and to adore, fantasize from a distance - but is well aware that he's not able to love this person in a real life, day to day environment. To say this person is damaged because he doesn't fit into the relationship role that any "normal" person would is so fucked up. There is no normal. There isn't just one way to have a relationship.
If this woman thinks about it, they've had a passionate, steamy, tortured love affair for 12 years (a successful relationship by modern standards). OF COURSE IT WAS EXPLOSIVE! They had been edging those orgasms for over a decade. But to think that the unique circumstances of their romance could ever be converted into a day to day relationship is naive. Maybe that's just not how they work. She should be happy for the special relationship she has with this man. Date other people. Get married. Have kids. And stay in contact with your rugged fuck buddy. Let him be that relationship in your life and be happy with it. And love him. Love him from where you are. Love him even if you fall in love with someone else. Because I guarantee you, whatever magic and beauty she feels for this man only exists in the current arrangement.
Nov 3, 2012
commented on Divers Fight to Outlaw Octopus Hunting in Puget Sound
@63 - Boooooo hoooooo. Actions have consequences. I lost my job. I lost my school. Blah blah blah. That octopus lost its life. Such priveledge to think that the quality of your life is in any way more important than the life of another being. Get over yourself.