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Oct 21, 2014 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
I like your advice to SICK: "wash toys with hot water and soap before reuse." But you have to be careful how you do this. A friend of mine put multiple dildos into her dishwasher (for hotter water than her hands could take in the sink). Unfortunately, she forgot about them until a few days later when her mother came to visit, went to the dishwasher for a clean coffee mug coffee and found a bunch of dildos in a variety of sizes and colors. Mom's reaction was heard at some distance!
Oct 23, 2013 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
Great column, Dan. I have a comment regarding the last item, "HATE CRIME."

I always try hard to be tolerant of all kinds of people, no matter what opinions they hold and/or express and no matter how much I disagree or am shocked or appalled by their idiocy and/or hate. As I always say, it takes all kinds of stupid to make a world. But there are times, especially when I hear about a "shitbag" (your word) like the one at the Values Voter Summit, when I have to wonder if that person is just asking for someone to rip his leg off and beat him to death with it!

There. I'm glad I got that out of my system.
Sep 4, 2013 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
A very interesting column today. I particularly liked your response to TOES, and your response to BARK made me laugh out loud. Thanks!
Jul 25, 2013 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
I think the phrase, "opportunistically heteroflexible," is absolutely inspired. It also made me laugh out loud. Thanks again, Dan.
May 9, 2013 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
Please tell Bisexual But Bipartisan that the definition of a "compassionate conservative" is someone who takes away your food stamps and then tells you how sorry he or she is that your children are starving!
Jan 9, 2013 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
In your great response to TRIOS, you noted that, "discussions of throupledom all seem to begin with the assumption that coupledom is a self-evidently more stable arrangement." It is obvious to me, and I hope it is to many others, that a structure with three legs will ALWAYS be more stable than a structure with only two legs, which has to lean against something else in order to stand. (Think of the difference between a three-legged stool and a ladder.)
Dec 6, 2012 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
I believe that "poly" is neither an orientation nor an identity. I think it is a style of living one's life that one adopts or not. Many people in monogamous (or even monogamish) relationships fall for another but choose not to make a long-term triad or quad. Many people who like the variety may look for others who similarly like the variety to make groupings of more than two. But this is a choice of how to live one's life. A poly gay man still looks for other gay men to share his life. A poly straight man still looks for multiple women to share his life, or other women and men. It is how they choose to live their life and how to express their sexuality. But loving multiple people at once is not the same as loving same sex or loving opposite sex. It may be a WAY of loving others, but it is not the WHY.
Sep 20, 2012 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
I have been told that there are a number of food items, like parsley, that can change and improve the taste of a man's cum. Perhaps Randy's cum just doesn't taste good to his girlfriend. The easiest fix for that is to start consuming foods that make his cum taste better. If that doesn't work, he can always move on to more complicated solutions, but this one involves no more than a trip to the grocery store!
Aug 16, 2012 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
I have to wonder what BUMMED would do if he ever found a girlfriend who was so open to different sexual activities that she would stick HER OWN finger up his ass and help him cum! Would he think she was a slut because she touched his ass, or would he have the sense to just thank whatever god or goddess sent him such a GGG partner?! Could it be that part of his problem is his need to label?
Aug 1, 2012 muzyqman commented on Savage Love.
The second I read that "'Chick-fil-A" is an obvious synonym for "pegging'," I thought to myself, "that IS obvious." It was one of those forehead-slapping, eye-opening instances that brought clarity to something going on the world around me. Thanks for that.