commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Too Drunk To Swing
Blackouts are a screaming red flag for anyone who wants to use booze. The Received Wisdom is that almost no one but an alcoholic CAN reach the blackout stage. Normal people with throw up or lose consciousness before they can hit a high enough blood alcohol level.
Other drugs mess up that truism. And the binge-drinking/rape-culture guzzling standards are such that the chance of blacking out is maximized.
Its perfectly possible to have conversations you can't remember, AND spend time in the bathroom puking within a short space of time.
commented on Savage Love
YIGI...No individual man (except for oil-sheiks and republican campaign donors) is going to have a large enough personal sample to make sweeping generalizations.
He sounds as if he's out of the loop socially, and been exposed to some resentful memes from pop-culture.
I've gone through stretches of being non-orgasmic with a new partner. Except for the physical discomfort (yes, they get sore, no they don't turn blue) it was kind of fun to work around it and get me responding to things she could do to and with me. If you're with some rude asshole, maybe its better to find out right off the top.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Being A Couple & Sleeping in Separate Beds Is Cool, Too
Experience from both ends of this. With my spouse, separate rooms were a skidmark on the asphalt of the marriage. My snoring was the ostensible reason, but she snored louder than I do.
With my more recent ex, we remained in the same bed for years after we stopped being partners. Separate covers made this more bearable, as she was always cold and I was always hot.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: We're Not Moving To Canada (Yet)
Stand and fight? The Stein craybabies I'm exposed to are still rationalizing, and already working toward a second term for the Big Cheeto.
He is doing just what he said he would do, and what the goddam' Republicans have been promising to do for decades. If I see another 'vanity candidate' voter express shock and surprise at Trump's lawlessness, or his appalling appointments. I want to beat them over the head shouting: Then why did you vote for him?
'Progressives' learned nothing from 2000, so we got 2004. Any 'fight' that's left in Americans will be tested in 2018. Low turnout, vote-suppression, bathroom bills to pull out the white-trash hate-vote. Are we going to act like we've grown some brains?
commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up
Since virtually all heterosexual women invest more time in avoiding being hit on by creeps than they do observing likeable folks; does everyone else get issued a magic 8ball with which to magically discover their 'liking?'
Essentially, every public space is polluted with Trumpy, PUA-ish Kreepy Doods. And women aren't going to have any 'safe space' in which to exercise any positive interest they might fee.
So we should all just stay home and pull the covers over our heads while guzzling ice-cream...
Dec 27, 2016
commented on Savage Love
What did they mean by 'hall pass?' And what does the rest of the world mean by it?