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Jul 5, 2013 lucifermourning commented on SL Letter of the Day: Ewww, Gross!.
i was surprised the way Dan didn't pick up on the fact that he throws in the 'guy-on-guy stuff' in the second half, as though that isn't kind of a bigger deal.

i think i'm pretty GGG, and my reaction to a partner wanting to cross-dress in bed was 'sure, we can try that'. but i am 100% monogamous and absolutely not interested in sharing - so any wish to act out fantasies involving another person, male or female would be 'hell no.'

if some form of non-monogamy is important to this guy, that's fair enough, but he needs to remember that that is a big deal, even for a woman who could get on board with cross-dressing.
May 10, 2011 lucifermourning commented on You Don't Own Your Car.
it seems to me that the article isn't saying everyone can live car-free.

rather the opposite - the problem is that American lifestyles and infrastructure make this impossible. if there were more bike paths and showers at offices, for example, more people could cycle to work.

a lot of people are really defensive, as though this is a personal attack, rather than an attack on the system!

as someone who is car-free after moving overseas, i love the low stress, compared to having to have a car in the US. but it's only possible because of the excellent public transport.
Jan 30, 2011 lucifermourning commented on Sarah Palin: She's Good For Something.
wow. this is incredibly sexist and offensive.
i can't stand Sarah Palin, but can you imagine anyone talking this way about a male politician?
Dec 3, 2010 lucifermourning commented on Savage Love.
@123: Thanks :)

i think i just reacted really strongly to Dan's response to the first letter, as it is such a common attitude - there is something WRONG if you don't orgasm, as though sex isn't valuable without it.

it doesn't bother me often, but it's one of those niggling itches that comes up when i read stuff like this.

normally, i think dan's fab.
Dec 3, 2010 lucifermourning joined My Stranger Face
Dec 3, 2010 lucifermourning commented on Savage Love.
i'm a woman who doesn't orgasm except through masturbation, and the last thing i want is for my husband to hassle me about it.

when we first got together, i told him this, and it did bother him, but he got over it. because i really enjoy sex. without orgasms.

the orgasms i do have are okay, but i don't find much difference between "peaking" on my own and almost getting there (but not quite) with other people. i don't find orgasms mind-blowing or amazing, just kind of nice.

so no, i really don't care about having them. i like my sex life.

do i have some kind of issue? maybe, and maybe eventually i'll go talk to a doctor or a therapist.

but the only thing that makes me think that way is the constant pressure in "the media" and the general cultural ambience that says there's something wrong with not orgasming. that's what makes me feel bad, and think there's something wrong with me.