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May 5, 2012 Adam_west commented on SL Letter of the Day: STFU, BTFO.
@10 actually we don't even know number 2. She clearly didn't hear from her friend about the sleeping with the ex. It could also just be rumour and bullshit.
Jan 4, 2012 Adam_west commented on Savage Love.
@22 I completely agree, there is such a difference between cheating and monogamish, and I think lumping the two together is really counterproductive.

@18 I agree with your definitions, it is exactly how I saw these terms and was also surprised that some of the letters were included. If this is about 'looks monogamous but isn't and still married ' then thats fine, but why not be more clear on the definitions?
May 18, 2011 Adam_west commented on Parvaz on Being Held in Syria: "The first night I was there, they took me out blindfolded and handcuffed into a courtyard...".
@13 so your solution is that we should just get no information from states when they decided to crackdown? That is really stupid. Media plays a massive, and essential, role in international pressure and intervention. Reporters risk their lives to bring us news from these places and it is not just to get a story! I am genuinely amazed you would think that.
May 18, 2011 Adam_west commented on SL Letter of the Day: Too Soon.
@61 I'm sorry, but anyone who uses the internet for hooking up has to be aware that there are loads of people bullshitting, and/or masturbating over the discussion, without any intention of going through with whatever they are talking about. Therefore people don't, or shouldn't, get invested into something until it is actually going to happen, and before that stage there is a huge amount of vetting where it can fall through for any number of reasons.

For all you, or the husband, know those bi women he is talking to are middle aged men, masturbating over it just like he is.
May 17, 2011 Adam_west commented on SL Letter of the Day: Too Soon.
Snap. Always refresh.
May 17, 2011 Adam_west commented on SL Letter of the Day: Too Soon.
@40 There are plenty of true things that we don't say given certain situations in order to not be insensitive to someone else's pain. It is a bit rich to try and take the moral high ground regarding "breeding" while being so unnecessarily callous towards another person, who you know is likely to read the comments.
May 17, 2011 Adam_west commented on Westboro Baptist to Protest Slutwalk.
amazing... I know I am late to this post but I can not help but comment. The problem with Aardvark's argument is not just the logic, which I think 67 dealt with, but the factual basis of the argument. I have never seen any evidence, scientific or anecdotal, that suggests dressing provocatively in anyway increases the chance of being sexually assaulted, there is just no evidence for this. Therefore the car analogy is just not comparable.

"i see slutwalk as a sea of frantic over-sensitive women bitching and moaning. not very persuasive" - well I think you have to have some sort of basic rationality to be persuaded, so you are not really the target audience. Also, it is not just about changing perceptions (that a woman should be able to sleep with as many men she wants without ever been forced into sex and that dressing provocatively in no way means you have responsibility for being raped) but it is also about clubbing together and showing mutual support for one another, support for people who are unfairly judged or blamed for being raped and a message that as a society we should not stand for it, the rapists are 100 % responsible, not the victims.

It is amazing that in this day and age it is even required at all, but people like aardvark are living evidence that it is.
May 17, 2011 Adam_west commented on SL Letter of the Day: Anti-Social Lubrication.
@24 I dont think you quite got me. I this were someone asking about anal sex would you advise to just throw some lube on and get fucking? no, because when it comes to anal sex everyone is aware that prep time is normally required, normally in addition to lube. I think there is a perception that vaginas are made for fucking, so just go ahead. Yes, vaginas and assholes are not the same, but I think there is a case to be made about preparation, which can be in addition to lube. In no way did I suggest that anyone should feel guilty or inferior about their lubrication levels.

I think if someone has to ask whether they should use lube or not it suggests a level of inexperience, hence my advice. If the motivation for not using lube is because it makes the BF insecure, or because he believes she should produce all the lubrication, then I agree with Dan, DTMFA.
May 16, 2011 Adam_west commented on SL Letter of the Day: Anti-Social Lubrication.
This may sound a bit obvious, but are they having any foreplay? I think you can loosen and moisten things up quite effectively if the bf gives it enough time and attention rather then just thrusting it in. Maybe even have an orgasm before trying penetration?

As everyone else has said, there is nothing wrong with using lube.
May 16, 2011 Adam_west commented on Advice Cop.
I completely agree with the advice the social Qs guy gave. He said he thought it was wrong, and identified the wrong part. If you didn't order it then it may well not be the pizza you want, but it makes no sense not to either pay or give back the pizza when the mistake is realised. Ultimately the pizza guy made the mistake, but you have to be a pretty callous person to make them pay for it like that.

Not everyone has to be an asshole Dan. I enjoy your assholery, but he has a different kind of column.