5:58 PM yesterday
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Here's my thing: Ask a black woman (for instance, Jill Scott) how she feels seeing a black man with a white woman. The answer may be polite, but it won't be positive. The weirdness: my brother only dates white women, and both of his daughters are biracial. My nearest first cousins both married white people and also have biracial kids.
So I guess what I'm saying is that I'm kind of split.
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"I don't do colonial."
I say it a lot to white guys that have Mandingo fantasies. The conflict between consensual objectification and fetishistic tokenism doesn't get very far with me.
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Stranger things have happened. Me, I never have male therapists. That's a hard and fast rule. I'm gay. I know that not even most male therapists are anything but straight and professional ethics are something of a block (not to mention that I'm just not wreck-your-career attractive), but that's not the point. I need to not have even the remote possibility of invoking any kind of paternal situation. At all. That brings up a lot of ussyes that I simply don't have in therapy with women.
I remember being in my first Body Electric workshop and all the participants were asked to refrain from having contact with the leaders and all the other participants for one year. IT'S EVERYWHERE.
Now I'm done making it about me for no reason at all.