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Oct 30, 2013 Dynomite commented on Savage Love.
Are dresses/skirts gender-identified?
No, not necessarily.
If I see an androgynous or feminine-featured person wearing a skirt will I assume they are/identify with being female?
Yes. Though I will happily correct myself if told otherwise.

GNAY hopefully understands that and will not get self-righteous about people making that assumption.
Oct 25, 2013 Dynomite commented on I, Anonymous.
I thought every writer knew to never ask family or friends for feedback... It will almost never be 100% honest.
Sep 24, 2013 Dynomite commented on Savage Love.
I kind of understand LOFD, sort of. I live in a coastal community that is notorious for surfers/hippies, and a large chunk of the people here (especially in their 20's and early 30's) are between jobs or they're only working to fund their passion, not they're working AT their passion.
I can totally respect that and do enjoy talking to everyone, but I find it very difficult to relate to people on a deeper level that aren't as driven and career-oriented as myself.
That being said, upbringing, social status, and income levels are not something you should use as a rubric for friends or dating.
Sep 10, 2013 Dynomite commented on Savage Love.
And for SLAM, if she and her boyfriend have already explored and experienced anal, she could explain she wants to be dp'ed by him using the dildo on her while they are having anal. Even if the dildo isn't massive the dp sensation might suffice for that 'stuffed' feel.
Sep 10, 2013 Dynomite commented on Savage Love.
@4 There was no mention of a threesome, and considering the LW wanted to wear a strap-on I doubt it was intended as a threesome.
Oct 3, 2012 Dynomite commented on Savage Love.
@17 Not to play the "blame the media" card, but women are sort-of conditioned to chase after assholes. Movies and TV shows almost preach to us that we can "change" these assholes with our affection and then they will be, like, totally the best boyfriends ever.
Jul 11, 2012 Dynomite commented on I, Anonymous.
@2 Believing that loving a child isn't a completely selfish act is a nice thought, sure, but ultimately false. Having kids is one of the most selfish acts we can do. That doesn't mean it is necessarily a bad thing, sometimes that selfishness manifests itself in good, giving, parenting, other times it manifests in self-centered and negligent parenting.

That being said, I like this I,A. Kind of reminds me of the scene from Speed where the buggy is (thankfully) full of soda cans but goes SOARING.
Jul 5, 2012 Dynomite commented on I, Anonymous.
Wow. Your current boyfriend is either an insecure twat or is getting fed up of you talking about your ex all the time... Guaranteed.
On that note, you're an insecure twat.
May 17, 2012 Dynomite commented on Savage Love.
@68 Maybe I wasn't clear, I think having certain things you are set against whether they come from bad experiences in the past, or an unexplainable bad feeling at the thought of doing them (like your example of flicking water in the face), all of that is perfectly acceptable. We all have little things we would never do.
What I think is ridiculous and should 'revoke your GGG card' is putting your foot down and saying "No, I could never do any S&M or inflict pain in any way". The two (or more) individuals that are involved need to work together to find a compromise where both are happy with the decision so the giver doesn't feel like they are hurting the other person but the receiver can still get off.
I agree, being GGG is all about being open and receptive to talking about and trying new things. So saying no to all forms of S&M to me, at least, is not GGG without even trying to find a method that works for both people.
May 16, 2012 Dynomite commented on Savage Love.
Forgot to add, the important thing is the people working together to help the giver to separate a little slap and tickle in the bedroom from getting the pulp beat out of you, and that is the responsibility of both parties.