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Frederica Bimble
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Mar 27 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
That troll, 'Hunter78', is STILL on here.

Mar 25 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
I can't stand when wishy washy people write 'cough, cough' in their sentences. Own your words. Say what you mean. No one can hear you and you aren't writing a movie script where a person would say the line out loud after coughing. It's just lazy. If you're going to write a strong statement, then own it or don't write it at all.
While I'm on it, the other one is to write a really solid post and make some valid points in it, only to tack on at the end, 'just saying'. There is no need for the 'just saying' because again, if your words come from a place of understanding and support for others then those who agree are going to be just as clued up and those who 'debate' and 'argue' are going to do so whether you do the written descriptive equivalent of covering your head with your hands or not.
So, those who do those lazy communication techniques, knock it off. Just say what you mean and if you can't handle that others disagree then maybe you ought not be saying it at all.
Mar 25 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
@66 - straight men do that same thing to women as well. It took me decades to see what was going on but now, in my older years, I find it insulting and frustrating to meet people when I work temp jobs or volunteer and when I strike up a conversation with a straight man, they immediately will shoe horn the ol' 'my girlfriend' this or 'my wife that', not because there's a reasonable and logical reason to mention them but to 'throw me off' or to 'let me down gently'. I look pretty young for my age (or so people keep telling me and won't let me forget!) and I have even had young men approach me and say such things as 'you know he has a fiancée, right?' when they saw me having a laugh or walking to the train with a work colleague. I don't bother being nice to men anymore because none of them want friendship. They just want to feel like every woman thinks they're god's gift. Hence, now, in my older years, I am now single, alone and don't see any chance of having someone in my life. It would be great if any of the men I've met in the past 5 years or so were grown up enough to respect a woman for what she had to offer: laughter, wisdom from many years and experience in life and friendship. I know better than to reach out anymore.
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Mar 25 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
@23 I agree and I picked up on that almost immediately. He's cheating and now anything that she tries to do to get them back on track, financially, in the direction of saving for a home is going to cause him to explode.
Mar 25 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
@23 I agree and I picked up on that almost immediately. He's cheating and now anything that she tries to do to get them back on track, financially, in the direction of saving for a home is going to cause him to explode.
Mar 25 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
@12 Which is exactly 'why' the letter shouldn't be aggressive. He's looking to have a peaceful life not act like a child responding to a 'fight'.
Jan 14, 2012 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
Letter 1 - Boo hoo, some people are gay and some people hate gay people, deal with it!
Letter 2 - no such thing as a 'fuck buddy.' It's called a 'relationship' so stop fooling yourself.
Letter 3. I didn't get the 'controlling' aspect that so many people are getting to with the 3rd letter. I'd say she is most likely playing around with him but he's, surprise, surprise, another non-communicative dude who'd rather moan to an advice column instead of talking to his partner. She doesn't sound like she deserves all the abuse directed at her but the boyfriend certainly sounds whiney. In fact, the letter sounds like Dan has been the unsuspecting participant in their role playing!
Jan 14, 2012 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
#14 - Back to trolling, eh? You have so much hatred for women it is astonishing. Get some help because whatever you've had in your past isn't a reason to abuse others and from the tone of your post, somewhere, there is a woman putting up with your shit. No woman deserves to be spoken to like what you've written. Grow up, kid.
Jan 4, 2012 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
32 - "Maybe the guy who didn't get caught after four years, is married to a withholding witch who's sexual inactivity was very emasculating for him emotionally. You don't know. And by being a preachy wannabe hyper ethical asshole you sound like a right winger, like Sphinctorum! Check yo self fool!"

You then have to ask yourself: 'what was he doing that provoked her to behave in such a way?' I think you more supported the case for him being a CPOS who brags about cheating on his wife. You also sound bitter.
Nov 9, 2011 Frederica Bimble commented on Savage Love.
Dan's answer to the first letter? BRAVO, sir, bravo!!
 

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