Apr 17, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Coming To Blows
I'm also really puzzled that a guy claiming to be straight would boast about this to his new college buddies. Unless we're missing some important details, that just doesn't add up. I can't help but wonder whether COCK is being set up for something. I suppose it's possible that they just want to have some fun, but it's setting off alarm bells for me.
Dec 28, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Sound Counsel
I think Dan got it wrong here. Asking them to keep it down a bit is perfectly reasonable. Sharing an apartment means compromise from both sides, and if my roommates couldn't meet me halfway on a reasonable request then I'd consider looking into other living arrangements.
Oct 5, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Time to Choose
Lena, in your shoes i think my choices from best to worst would be:
1) Having an abortion
2) Keeping the baby and sharing custody
3) Letting this guy raise the baby alone. I get the impression that your gut feeling is that that would be a bad idea, and I think you should follow that instinct.
Good luck with whatever you decide. Abortion is never a fun or easy choice, but it sounds like it may be the best option in this situation.
Sep 22, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Big Ask
Oh man, PHM, I'm so rooting for you. I agree with Dan: your first stop should be getting a therapist. You need to sort out what's going on inside your head before anything else is likely to change. (Which is not to say you can't start exercising & eating better today, just that you're going to need a lot of support if you're going to turn your life around.) It sounds like there's a lot of depression in the mix as well. Please tell your sister how you feel if you haven't already.
People of all shapes and sizes find love, but it's impossible to find love as long as you hate yourself. I absolutely believe you can do it. Don't get overwhelmed by it, just take it one step at a time. Good luck.
Aug 31, 2011
commented on Ear Labia
How is it bigoted to find something unattractive? We all have our turn-offs.
I'm with you, Dan.
Aug 31, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Employee Relations
Ok, FIS, you're reading these comments. Can you please explain *why* you want to pursue this girl? How can you describe a potential cheater with a crappy work ethic as your ideal?
Apr 13, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Have At It, Gang
Haven't read the other comments yet...
I don't think she should be punished. She's already furious with you, and trying to punish her at this point will pretty much guarantee that she won't talk to you again until she's at least 30.
The poor thing was in shock, furious and devastated, and reacted in the heat of the moment. Yes it was a nasty, juvenile way to handle it, but what do you expect from a 15 year old?
Even if you do have good reasons for cheating, no teenager is going to be mature enough to understand the subtleties of that moral debate. As far as she's concerned, cheating is 100% wrong, and you've betrayed her mother.
I'm not condoning her behaviour, but I don't see how punishing her could do anything but devastate your relationship with her even further. The aftermath will certainly be more than enough "punishment".
The best thing you can do now is focus on how you're going to salvage your relationship with her.