Nov 16, 2012
Kathy23 commented on This Story Reminds Me: It's Time to Polish the London Silver.
Dan
Can you post contact info for the hateful John Metz so we can tell him why we won't ever ever ever go there again, even if we are really drunk at 3am.
Can you post contact info for the hateful John Metz so we can tell him why we won't ever ever ever go there again, even if we are really drunk at 3am.
Jan 31, 2012
Kathy23 commented on I'm So Tired of Waking Up on Monday Mornings and Punching My Radio In the Face.
Okay, one important objection: The Mother Jones mag you reference implies that these institutions are only bound by the Health Care Coverage mandate because they take tax dollars. I think this is incorrect. Everyone is required to provide this coverage. Even if Catholic University wasn't accepting any tax dollars, it is still required to provide the coverage, including women's health. There are very narrow exceptions for actual Churches, but otherwise the rule applies to everyone. So it's not really accurate to suggest they have an 'out'. That's why the Catholic heirarchy has their panties in a bunch. Mind you, I disagree with them, but this might explain why they are so upset. No exemptions available to them.
Dec 25, 2011
Kathy23 commented on SL Letter of the Day: It's Christmastime In the Shitty.
Dear HISC
I'm so sorry for all of your pain. In addition to some of the practical suggestions above, please also consider talking to a doc or doing a screening for depression. (www.depression-screening.org). Sometime life-altering pain (Like the loss of your wife) leaves in its wake a depression which convinces us that life is worthless, we are worthless, and we can't ask for more. And the worst part is that depression makes all of that feel absolutely true even when it isn't. Sometimes a short course of medication can make a WORLD of difference and give us back the feeling that there is something to look forward to and something to believe in. And it gives back the energy to make our lives a place we like to be again. It certainly did for me. Good luck. You aren't alone.
K
I'm so sorry for all of your pain. In addition to some of the practical suggestions above, please also consider talking to a doc or doing a screening for depression. (www.depression-screening.org). Sometime life-altering pain (Like the loss of your wife) leaves in its wake a depression which convinces us that life is worthless, we are worthless, and we can't ask for more. And the worst part is that depression makes all of that feel absolutely true even when it isn't. Sometimes a short course of medication can make a WORLD of difference and give us back the feeling that there is something to look forward to and something to believe in. And it gives back the energy to make our lives a place we like to be again. It certainly did for me. Good luck. You aren't alone.
K
Dec 19, 2011
Kathy23 commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Change of View.
I always appreciate Dan's supportive and compassionate responses. But I also want to say that I think skipping over the abuse as an issue involved in his sexual behavior might be a disservice to our friend. I am a psychologist and I have also encountered folks like our writer whose sexual abuse affected their adult sexual behavior in the ways he describes ( shame and erotic strongly tied together, at odds with his other sexual preferences, and somewhat compulsive). If he hasn't done it, he may want to consider going back to therapy to specifically explore if the stuff that happened to him in the abuse is replicated in these encounters. IF so, it's possible that this is a trauma reaction which can be healed. I'm not saying he can't be Bi. Of course that's possible. But if this is an abuse based sexual compulsion, I think he will be much happier healing the core issue rather than just accepting it as is, and may find the desire for the behavior changes. (I've seen this happen). Or he may not, but the behavior will be clearer to him. It just seems like an important perspective to add.
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Dec 12, 2011
Kathy23 commented on "She was raised, and remains, a devout Catholic.".
Dan, do you think maybe Republicans re-defined "devout" (kinda like you and your readers re-defined "Santorum") so it means "insufferably self-righteous but leading the very double life that you publicly condemn?" (Ted Haggard) or "Using the appearance of religiosity to pander to voter blocks"? If so, kudos to them on a very successful campaign! It's like people think it's the original definition now....
Sep 22, 2011
Kathy23 commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Big Ask.
Dan- Wow. What a compassionate response. Thanks
Sep 13, 2011
Kathy23 commented on Savage Love.
People people people.... let's not get all hysterical about Sex Offender registries.
16 is the age of consent in most states (with a few exceptions) and most states specifically state that if you are within a certain peer-age frame (say 2 years) that sex is legal if consensual, even if younger than the age of consent. See: www.ageofconsent.us/
There's a lot of reasons for her to slow down and rethink this, but legal consequences are probably not one of them.
16 is the age of consent in most states (with a few exceptions) and most states specifically state that if you are within a certain peer-age frame (say 2 years) that sex is legal if consensual, even if younger than the age of consent. See: www.ageofconsent.us/
There's a lot of reasons for her to slow down and rethink this, but legal consequences are probably not one of them.
Sep 13, 2011
Kathy23 commented on Savage Love.
Oh Honey, I just wanna say. "Probing leads to f*@king. Probing leads to f*@king. Probing leads to f*@king." The pregnancy risk is that one of these times, he's just going to go for it and turn 'fooling around' into 'your first time'. And that's a great way to spend the rest of your life feeling anxious about sex. Either go ahead and decide to have full on sex, or talk to him about the fact that he is pushing the boundaries and has to stop. And if he continues, Dump Him!
Aug 2, 2011
Kathy23 commented on NPR: Debate Rages Over Whether Gays Can Go Straight.
Love NPR. Hated this piece. Thanks for flagging this, Dan. I missed the report, but I found it online and wrote a letter objecting to it. I suggest others do too. The link is www.npr.org then at the bottom, click on "Contact Us". There's power in numbers people!
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