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11:10 AM yesterday Xian-Qi commented on Rightwing Anti-Gay French Activist Commits Suicide at Notre Dame Cathedral.

Anyone who would traumatize innocent people, including children, by committing such a violent act in such a public place is truly heatless and godless.

Mar 13 Xian-Qi commented on Savage Love.

Why did the boyfriend in letter #2 choose a 10pm time for his meds? If he's so concerned about his schedule, what about breakfast, when he's far less likely to be at movies or social events?

Jan 21 Xian-Qi commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Failure to Communicate.

Regarding the answer to Question 1, many jurisdictions (all of Canada, perhaps some states in the US) consider sexual advances on co-workers to be sexual harassment even if they happen off hours and off work premises. If the co-worker goes to HR with a complaint, you might find your whole office in the boardroom getting a day-long HR lecture and video presentation on harassment in the workplace.

Dec 22, 2012 Xian-Qi commented on Responsible Gun Owner: Twenty Dead Children a "Drop In the Ocean".

When Dan said "They're all fucking nuts," I took that as all the nuts who are justifying the Newtown massacre and wanting to add more guns to solve the problem, or minimizing the massacre by saying "people die all the time, so what". I don't think he was talking about all gun owners ... hunters, sport shooters, etc.

Dec 22, 2012 Xian-Qi commented on Responsible Gun Owner: Twenty Dead Children a "Drop In the Ocean".

To take Morgan's argument one step further -- if he had a radical Muslim neighbor who he thought might be a terrorist, Morgan would be just fine if the neighbor had a basement full of semi-automatic machine guns. And if the guy eventually shot up the neighborhood and took out Morgan's children, well, what can you do. Cancer, ice cream, car accidents, Americans of any religion or political persuasion shooting his neighbours ... well, what can you do? Right? Shit happens.

Funny how there's been this whole "war on terror" thing going on for over a decade, doing battle with brown-skinned people with weapons killing Americans. But when white-skinned Americans mow down other Americans with guns, it's not terror, but just Americans exercising their rights.

Dec 6, 2012 Xian-Qi commented on The Wheels On the Bus Go Round and Round.

I think Dan's point was that it's not an orientation for all people. Some people may feel that their certain desires, practices, etc are an innate orientation. But you can't say that BDSM or whatever is an actual orientation when there are others who can choose to participate in those activities, or may desire them only temporarily. It's not the same a sexual orientation, where one or the other is attractive or repulsive, permanently, for a lifetime.

For instance, a person can be sexually attracted to another race and not their own, and call that an orientation. But others can be open to having sex with a variety of races, including their own, and might have a white boyfriend then an Asian boyfriend. So, is it an orientation? For some, maybe, but you can't say it's an orientation for all as a blanket statement.

Jul 10, 2012 Xian-Qi commented on Hey, We Got Ellen and JCPenney and Oreo Cookies....

The "melting pot heritage" is actually the opposite of what the redneck says. It doesn't prove that differences are strengths... the melting pot "melts" differences into one big indistinguishable Americana Soup of conformity. Differences become strengths in a mosaic, where not everyone is made to feel inferior if they don't speak English or eat at Denny's.

Jun 5, 2012 Xian-Qi commented on SL Letter of the Day: She Wasn't Fine—And You Knew It.

Mostly agree with you Dan, but consider this: What if he had called it off, then she blamed him for ruining *her* fantasy? She could have said, "Look, I kept telling you I was fine! Why'd you have to make assumptions about how I felt when I *told* you I was okay! Maybe I was cold at first, but you didn't give me a chance to warm up to it."

You're right that she owes no apology for calling it off. But it ain't called off until it's called off. Communication is essential in these arrangements. Give the guy credit for asking 20 times. Don't knock him because he took her words at face value.

May 19, 2012 Xian-Qi commented on SL Letter of the Day: Show This Woman Some Love.

What would Jesus do? He would do exactly what you're doing. You say you are a "broken" person, and you're taking in someone who is being shunned from his society for being who he is. Together you are building a loving family, and you will heal each other. God loves you for it. Jesus loves you for it. Without religion, you are doing the lord's work. Too bad your family does not and cannot see that.

I echo Dan's words. Forget your family. You have your own family now. You are better off. Thank god your nephew has your. Thank god you have your nephew. Look to the future. You all have a bright one.

Mar 12, 2012 Xian-Qi commented on SL Letter of the Day: Permission Slippage.

Just keep in mind that people talk, gossip spreads, and you'll get the reputation for being a CPOS ... just so long as you're willing for that to happen.