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Nov 12, 2016 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
@77 - @BiDanFan - she will not allow me to have sex outside the marriage. To her credit, she realizes it's important and will sleep with me because I want to, and the resulting sex is every bit as exciting as that sounds. She made it clear that she is the only one allowed to not have good sex with her. I should divorce (or keep a few CPOS incidents secret) if I need to have needs met outside the marriage.

Yes, I know, at this point it's my choice. But I don't wish this choice on anyone else who can avoid it.

(I had a quick Twitter exchange with Dan years ago, and he wished me luck when I talked to her!). She has made it clear that if I
Nov 11, 2016 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.

RUN! If you can't run, fly!! — Richard Pryor

@63, I respectfully disagree. After 20 years we're off one mind on money, child-reading, politics, travel - great partners and complements. We spend all our argument time, as we have since we got engaged, trying to understand and get past the fact that I like having sex and she doesn't.

Marriage will not make this better; contest to what someone upthread wrote, I've never met face-to-face anyone who'd had bad sex before marriage that improved. "Ever since we said, 'I do,' we don't." — Lucy Ricardo
Mar 4, 2014 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
Not relevant to PISSED or POOPCOMER, but a major step to salvaging our marriage, not to say our sex life, was when we stopped peeing in front of each other. I think the reminders that the nether regions double as piss and poop chutes took away some the magic.

Obviously not a concern for some of this week's LWs!
Jan 29, 2014 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
@30 - I'm adding "ladyboner" to mine. Who knew we'd get such an educational column this week?
Jan 14, 2014 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
Nice variety of letters, and actually about sex.

If it isn't already, UNCL's situation sounds like a movie trope. Like so many recent letters, "Use your words" is a good answer.

LW1 hasn't given us the whole story: how did No. 2 get conceived if she was lady in the Madonna box. Not that's it's fair, but if he's turned off because she still had 40 of first-baby fat, at least they can go forward from his true basis of assholery. As presented, this doesn't make sense.
Nov 13, 2013 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
How about slut which in Danish is pronounced something like slooot and means closed.

Or sløt which may not mean anything but has that unpronounceable vowel that looks cool.
Apr 23, 2013 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
I'm torn between my dislike of the idea that I can't start changing you for a few dates yet vs. my disgust at a mouth bouquet of ass hair.
Apr 9, 2013 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
You could have saved your Bishop in the Hole for a tougher question. Isn't "should I stay with my self-hating lover and his bigoted friends and religion?" a gimme?
Mar 1, 2013 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love Episode 331.
Your chances of getting properly lubricated increase if you squeak at your mechanic every now and then.
Feb 6, 2013 Steeeeverino commented on Savage Love.
My wife gives crappy blowjobs, not because of technique but because she's not into it-and the writer helped me see that it's because she won't take contrtol. She wants to do it in the dark, with me lying down. I want her on her knees, servicing me. Sneaking a finger up my ass would do wonders, too.

That I don't feel comfortable telling her this after 15 years of marriage might have something to do with it too, y'think?