commented on SL Letters of the Day: More On Gym Oglers
It appears it is in the genes and nature of Human Beings to react differently to the same situations. Some people enjoy being ogled, some don't. Neither is wrong, but the act of leering at a person one does not know is usually considered, by decent and respectful human beings, offensive and inappropriate. The few that enjoy it do not outweigh the many that feel objectified and uncomfortable by it.
tl:dr - don't be an ass. Treat people with respect.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Take a Pass On This Pastor
Dan didn't say gay men were or were not promiscuous, he said that they (shockingly) won't fuck anyone, anytime, anywhere. You can have standards and still screw around. But the religious closet cases are not usually even remotely attractive by anyone's standards and even if LW was gay, he likely wouldn't want his dick on/in/around the guy.
commented on SLLOTD: Fully-Clothed Fantasy
@26 - some of my enjoyment of gay porn might be that I'm not picking up on the "faking," but the clips that my (mostly straight) girlfriends and I share amongst ourselves are the ones where there is real affection as well as enjoyment being shown. I have never, ever seen a straight porno where both participants were attractive AND seemed affectionate towards each other AND were enjoying themselves while fucking. I don't even thing I've seen one with 2 of the 3. Plus gay porn actors are exponentially better looking than the straight porn actors. Call me shallow, but hot guy(s) fucking and having a good time is awesome to watch no matter who is on the other end of the dick. (which, now that I think about it, may explain the pretty women and ugly guys in straight porn)
commented on SLLOTD: The Anti-Choice Boyfriend
Agree with @33. He made his position clear, I respect that. I think she should have agreed to no penetrative sex if she wanted to stay with him.
Lying to get laid is WRONG! No matter what side of the fence you're on.
Of course, I think she should dump him for being a pro-life dumbass, but like previous posters have said, when you're in lurve it's not that simple.
commented on Savage Love
So no one else is going to laugh at PID's acronym? It's the medical abbreviation for Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, also known to ER employees as "Pussy in Distress"
Okay, I'll laugh by myself.
commented on SLLOTD: DTMFA! DTMFA! DTMFA!
AFinch - no, he's an abuser. Someof your points are right, he would probably not miss a beat if she walked out, but it's still abusive behavior. I got really uncomfortable reading that letter because I lived something similar. He's probably also narcissistic (in the personality disorder way, not the conceited way). God I hope she got out, that was disturbing.
commented on SLLOTD: Better Off Than Michigan
LW - when I finally made the decision to leave an abusive relationship with someone I loved (or thought I did), it was unbelievably painful and within days I wanted him back. So some practical advice for not giving in to that feeling - go buy notecards at the drugstore and on each notecard write one reason that you left her. A dozen of those reasons are in the letter, but I'm sure there are many more.
Then every time you get the urge to call or remember something sweet or funny she did, look at the cards and remind yourself why you left.
To those that haven't been in the situation, it seems obvious, but to those of us that have, we know it's really hard. You get conditioned to accepting abuse as the way love is and the tiny sweet things that the lover does seem so much bigger after all the awful things you deal with the rest of the time.
Good luck and stay strong! And of course DTMFA!!!
commented on Another Definition for "Clam Diggers"
Actually clam diggers and capris are different. Clam diggers are looser-fitting and wider at the bottom. Capri's fit snugly on the calf.
Fashion police out.