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Mar 26 UtterEast commented on Savage Love Episode 335.

Income worrying guy: as the above poster said, learn how to say no. I too would feel really uncomfortable pooling my finances with another person.

Bring this up with your girlfriend. Tell her that you are struggling to meet your expenses and you can't afford all these nights out and vacations. If she wants to continue doing those things, she will either step up and pay a larger fraction, or y'all can find some less expensive alternatives.

Mar 13 UtterEast commented on Savage Love Episode 333.

Micropenis guy: there also exist straight women who are not interested in penetrative sex for various reasons (illness, injury, don't like it) who would love to see someone who is *not* at all times desperate to use his boner.

Gay father with angry daughter: I'm sorry, but she gets to decide how much she wants you in her life. She'll come to you when she wants you in her life. Disengage. Imagine if you weren't related, the gifts and the text messages would be *stalking*.

Feb 27 UtterEast commented on Savage Love.

I had severe menstrual symptoms as a teenager that prevented me from playing sports, swimming, and made me leave school early in tears several times, and I was 18 before someone finally took me seriously and I got on BCP. I take them pretty much continuously and don't bother with their "fake period" phase and have never had PIV, so no, it's not silly to figure out your birth control/reproductive health options extremely early.

I set several alarms to ensure that I always take my BCP before I go to bed since I'll get bleeding if I miss a day.

Sep 19, 2012 UtterEast commented on Savage Love Episode 308.

Wow, I wonder if Dan had interviewed a man, would there be so many comments about "chihuahua yips" "narcissism" and interrupting. I do agree that Gallup should work on her interview skills, but...

Anyway, as a young person who was turned off from sex entirely for many years due to dissatisfaction with the usual "script" expected by prospective partners, this is a hugely important idea.

Sep 12, 2012 UtterEast commented on Savage Love.

First letter: Personally, at 14, I would have found this sort of interest from a relative incredibly inappropriate and scarring. Hopefully this aunt knows her niece a little better, but I think just the sex-positive book (would suffice/be awkward enough. And this may just be my biases talking (I don't do the vaginal penetration thing) but to me a vibe is far superior and less invasive as a beginner's toy.

Jul 10, 2012 UtterEast commented on Savage Love Episode 299.

Man, all those reasons for vaginal pain at the end of the call had me raging at the poorly organized nature of the universe. I glare daggers at people who like to wax poetic about the perfections of the human body. If by some vast cosmic joke there is an "intelligent designer" for humans, I'ma walk up and kick them in their poorly designed genital area.

Jul 10, 2012 UtterEast commented on Savage Love Episode 299.

Try the singular "they", Dan!

Jun 26, 2012 UtterEast commented on Savage Love Episode 297.

I'm glad those callers brought the rebuttal re: penis pictures-- but, tellingly, both of those callers enjoyed seeing pictures from *their boyfriends*, not random dudes. Kind of an important distinction.

Apr 25, 2012 UtterEast commented on SL Letter of the Day: Where's My Gold Star?.

To the people curious about the "why" of pedophilia, I've heard theories that all humans are "pedophilic" to some extent-- that is, many humans are attracted to neotenic individuals: clear skin, large eyes, young age, sparse body hair. Humans as a whole all express neotenic traits compared to other primates.

The theory is that human appearance has evolved because of a thread of "pedophilia" in human behavior leading to a preference in mate choice for neotenic individuals. When that thread is overexpressed, the result is someone who is not just attracted to young-looking adults, but to actual children.

*Obviously there are exceptions to this, plenty of people are attracted to mature-looking adults, people with a large amount of body hair, etc.

Mar 13, 2012 UtterEast commented on Savage Love Episode 282.

Furries are hard to categorize but for the vast majority of erotic furries I would say it's a paraphilia-- they like humans with fur, tails, animal heads, etc.-- and they're quite harmless. Unfortunately they do harbor a minority of zoophiles.