Apr 14, 2016 Tag commented on Savage Love.
To the first letter, I'd be inclined to take a slightly different tack - I think offering the idea in the abstract first is good, but if he goes for it I'd suggest it would be better to say that you "have a friend" who would be interested in being the first customer.

Assuming this guy is genuinely straight (or just not into guys twice his age), he probably doesn't want to think about his older gay friend jerking off over him, and I think it would be hard to keep up the friendship if he did know that - which buying someone's sweaty clothes makes pretty obvious.

He may well see right through the "friend" façade, but let him maintain his wilful ignorance if he wants to.
Mar 7, 2016 Tag commented on SL Letter of the Day: Legal Guardian.
@14 Yep - first of all he needs to pull back, apologise, explain what he's trying to achieve (for which he needs to *know* what he's trying to achieve), and start again.

I'm not sure the boyfriend has done that much that's wrong - he's being a bit of a dick, sure; but again, this guy is the brother, not the parent. Grabbing your boyfriend's ass in front of his parents? Inappropriate. In front of his brother? Meh.

LW obviously doesn't like his brother's boyfriend, but frankly that's none of his business. "You can't see this boy, he drives a BMW" isn't a reasonable position to enforce.

Suggestions of "you can't do that in my house" - is it even his house? Or is it their house? If it was the parents' house, the 15-year-old might reasonably think the 25-year-old didn't earn it any more than he did.

The boys are a bit more lewd around the LW than he'd like - but how many other places do they have where they can be open about their relationship? I don't know what the place they live in is like, but I know when I was a gay teen I tended to be inappropriately open in the few places I felt safe to be, to make up for all the places where I didn't feel safe to be.

I think the LW needs to make this not be about authority, but about responsibility - because he barely has any authority - not morally, even if legally. If he thinks his brother is in danger, he has a responsibility to step in. If he just doesn't like this boy's attitude, I think that's his own problem.
Feb 5, 2016 Tag commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Object Lessons, Cont..
"we've bought and used pegging toys that allow him to (at least partially) experience his fantasy" - this sounds like his fantasy is to be topped by a trans woman. Are most trans women into that? I think I'd have assumed not, but can't pretend to have any expertise....
Jan 25, 2016 Tag commented on He Said It Like There's Something Wrong With Masturbating to Anime.
The people I know who jerk off to anime are among the smartest, most imaginative, and therefore most liberal people I know. (They're capable of getting off to weird magical worlds with talking animals and stuff - why would they be bothered about what gender, or how many, people someone else wanted to get off with?)

I'd imagined that Trump supporters were more likely to be the sort of people who actually buy hard-copy porn.
Oct 20, 2015 Tag commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Problem With My Gay Brother Isn't That He's Gay.
I'd have thought that an obvious nuclear option would seem to come out. The LW has been in a relationship with a woman; at the moment she rounds down to straight-ish; I'd have thought that rounding up to bi would be equally truthful.

She could pitch it as support for her brother (which it is - it's way easier for queer people to be marginalised when people don't realise how many of us they know) while simultaneously shutting down some of his crap.
Jun 17, 2015 Tag commented on One Way to Stop Israel from "Pinkwashing".
@21 They don't just vote for Hamas because they hate Israel; they vote for Hamas because everything else has failed.

They voted for Fatah for years. There were decades of talks; and Palestine remained just as occupied. Eventually they realised that Israel would never let the (relatively) peaceful solution work, gave up and voted for Hamas. Yes, it brings them misery - just as, for example, the actions of the IRA led to greater misery to the people of Ireland - but it's the only option they think they have left.

Newly-reelected Israeli PM Benjamin Netanyahu has said that he will never allow a Palestinian state to be formed. Given that, what reason do Palestinians have to vote for a non-violent option that is guaranteed to fail?

I hate what Hamas does, but I'm not sure that, if I lived there, I would be able to see an alternative.
Jan 19, 2015 Tag commented on Women's College Cancels Annual Production of The Vagina Monologues....
(It's worth noting that Campus Reform's big pull quote - "[W]e can't present a show that is blatantly transphobic and treats race and homosexuality questionably, when one of the conditions of getting the rights to the show is that you can't critique it or alter it" - is not from the students who cancelled the play, but from an anonymous internet message board. When you are basing your analysis of a situation on something a random person said on a message board, you are probably doing something wrong.)
Jan 19, 2015 Tag commented on Women's College Cancels Annual Production of The Vagina Monologues....
Mostly, what raku said.

Dan bases his comments on Elizabeth Nolan Brown's article, which in turn bases its arguments on an article from conservative blog Campus Reform (http://www.campusreform.org/?ID=6202); which is unashamedly transphobic (using the term "men who identify as women" for trans women), but nevertheless Dan and Elizabeth seem to take its analysis of the situation as gospel.

In the actual quotes from the students involved in making the decision, they don't say "because it isn't inclusive of trans women" (if they just wanted that, Ensler added a trans monologue in 2004) but because of a whole range of problems; some of which Elizabeth Nolan Brown recognises and agrees with, but nevertheless decides that the students couldn't be intelligent people making the same analysis she has made, but must be bandwagon-jumping bigots.
Mar 19, 2014 Tag commented on Savage Love.
I'm far from convinced that DOPE's son's inclinations are that rare or worrying. He's just a furry, with an inclination towards a particular kind of anthropomorphic animal.

(Not a plushophile, unless he's having sex with stuffed toys rather than just looking at furry porn.)

There are plenty of them out there; they have no problems forming relationships or having sex, either with each other or with non-furries. Unless there's some evidence not presented that there is a more serious problem, he's fine.

And yes, trying to mould him out of it would be damaging, if only to your relationship - I'd guess at 17 he's happy enough with his porn tastes that you're not going to put him off.
Feb 17, 2014 Tag commented on Kansas House Approves "Turn Away the Gay" Law Legalizing Discrimination Against Gay Couples—And Singles.
@58: Well-written? Really?

Here's one excerpt:

"Recently one (1) Army reserve officer prepared a presentation regarding discrimination. In a poorly (i.e. internet google search) researched powerpoint slide, she referred to Catholicism and Evangelical Christianity as “Religious Extremism.” Let me emphasize—this was one (1) person with their own presentation. Not Army Reserve documents. Not General Army documents. One person. Yet what does the headline read? Defense Department Classifies Catholics, Evangelicals as Extremists." [...]

Yep, that's pretty bad - what kind of person would characterise an entire body of people by the opinions of one individual?

Let's read on.

"And how does *the Christian community* respond? *This Christian’s* comment referencing the article states..." (my emphasis)


He then goes on to explain the difference between persecution and prosecution; concluding that killing Christians for being Christian isn't persecution, provided that you first offer them the opportunity to deny they are Christians, to worship the emperor and to curse Christ.


I think you may have mistaken "this is well-written" for "this supports my views".

(Incidentally, as far as I can tell this bill has died in Senate as Kansas noticed how it was making them a laughing stock?)