Jul 16, 2012
Los_del_Mango commented on SL Letter of the Day: Devoted Devotees.
Los_del_Mango commented on SL Letter of the Day: Devoted Devotees.
@30 - "I'd like to hear from a devotee or two about WHY they're attracted to a certain disability."
Then maybe go ask some gay guys why they're attracted to men, or why some people are attracted to blonde hair?
Then maybe go ask some gay guys why they're attracted to men, or why some people are attracted to blonde hair?
Apr 25, 2012
Los_del_Mango commented on Creeping On Straight Chicks.
Los_del_Mango commented on Creeping On Straight Chicks.
@58, 59, 71 - I was going to chime in on that one to agree with you from my own experience as a former idiot, clueless 'nice guy'* who really did mean no harm (and fortunately didn't actually cause any). The following goes on a bit but it's just to illustrate quite how useless a 'nice guy's' thinking can be without containing active malice or manipulation.
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Until a few years ago (about the age of 23) I would've appeared to be one of those 'nice guys', and also acted on a couple of cases which you could easily call 'creeping'. In my case I was so certain that I was elementally repulsive to women that my just going up and talking to an individual once I realised I was interested in them would yield a literal, 100% outcome of failure - that what I was waiting for was some extremely rare individual who didn't find me disgusting, and that people who thought that would be so incredibly rare that there was no point actually going and talking to someone, and that I'd just have to wait for someone to come along, tap me on the shoulder and say "Hey there!"
So I get to university (aged twenty) and found that there were plenty of females who actually wanted to talk to me - obviously they were only interested in me as a friend (the idea of any potential romantic interest was just inconceivable to me) - but in a couple of cases, the thought process was "Hang on, when we hang out she laughs at my jokes, she seems interested in what I'm saying other than in casual conversation, she... Hell, she seems to care about me... Holy shit. Fuck, is she... Might she actually, somehow, think I'm... Attractive?" So for me, those two occasions were it - the one in a billion shot of a woman who liked me (not rare) but also, maybe, didn't find me sexually repellent, so the first two girls I -ever- admitted an interest in would've come over as 100% textbook manipulative creeping. And I'm sure you could argue that on some subconscious level that's exactly what it was, but there was absolutely no conscious intent to be manipulative or to exploit a friendship - just the combination of being depressed and a head full of absolute aching bullshit. I'm in no way defending the way I was thinking - it's moronic, self-obsessed, self-indulgent and arrogant - but there was no intent to be manipulative.
Sorry if that was a little self-indulgent, but it's to say I'm in agreement, TheLastComment - that I reckon there's plenty of cases of the 'nice guy' meaning absolutely no harm whatsoever but inflicting it due to colossal, abject cluelessness and inexperience (as in my case).
*I'm now an idiot, clueless asshole.
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Until a few years ago (about the age of 23) I would've appeared to be one of those 'nice guys', and also acted on a couple of cases which you could easily call 'creeping'. In my case I was so certain that I was elementally repulsive to women that my just going up and talking to an individual once I realised I was interested in them would yield a literal, 100% outcome of failure - that what I was waiting for was some extremely rare individual who didn't find me disgusting, and that people who thought that would be so incredibly rare that there was no point actually going and talking to someone, and that I'd just have to wait for someone to come along, tap me on the shoulder and say "Hey there!"
So I get to university (aged twenty) and found that there were plenty of females who actually wanted to talk to me - obviously they were only interested in me as a friend (the idea of any potential romantic interest was just inconceivable to me) - but in a couple of cases, the thought process was "Hang on, when we hang out she laughs at my jokes, she seems interested in what I'm saying other than in casual conversation, she... Hell, she seems to care about me... Holy shit. Fuck, is she... Might she actually, somehow, think I'm... Attractive?" So for me, those two occasions were it - the one in a billion shot of a woman who liked me (not rare) but also, maybe, didn't find me sexually repellent, so the first two girls I -ever- admitted an interest in would've come over as 100% textbook manipulative creeping. And I'm sure you could argue that on some subconscious level that's exactly what it was, but there was absolutely no conscious intent to be manipulative or to exploit a friendship - just the combination of being depressed and a head full of absolute aching bullshit. I'm in no way defending the way I was thinking - it's moronic, self-obsessed, self-indulgent and arrogant - but there was no intent to be manipulative.
Sorry if that was a little self-indulgent, but it's to say I'm in agreement, TheLastComment - that I reckon there's plenty of cases of the 'nice guy' meaning absolutely no harm whatsoever but inflicting it due to colossal, abject cluelessness and inexperience (as in my case).
*I'm now an idiot, clueless asshole.
Apr 25, 2012
Los_del_Mango commented on Creeping On Straight Chicks.
Los_del_Mango commented on Creeping On Straight Chicks.
Just further (now I've taken a breath), it's significant to note what she's doing here - she's using binary patriachal gender roles to get sex. The hook she's suggesting is "men are emotionless, only interested in sex, don't care for feelings - I'm a woman! We're sensitive and emotional and talk about feelings!"
So, yeah, Ms. Chin's tongue-tickling depends on her stereotyping me as emotionless, and she stereotypes women as necesarilly emotionally sensitive. I know, it's 2012 and saying that one has to be politicised about sex and gender is rubbish, but there's something particularly troubling about it given that, as a lesbian, the women who fought so hard for Ms. Chin's freedom were fighting against the bullshit patriachy (women are soft and cuddly, they can't have short hair, tattoos and ride motorbikes) she's peddling to get her jollies.
This crap harms everyone, regardless of the configuration of their crotch, body or brain.
So, yeah, Ms. Chin's tongue-tickling depends on her stereotyping me as emotionless, and she stereotypes women as necesarilly emotionally sensitive. I know, it's 2012 and saying that one has to be politicised about sex and gender is rubbish, but there's something particularly troubling about it given that, as a lesbian, the women who fought so hard for Ms. Chin's freedom were fighting against the bullshit patriachy (women are soft and cuddly, they can't have short hair, tattoos and ride motorbikes) she's peddling to get her jollies.
This crap harms everyone, regardless of the configuration of their crotch, body or brain.
Apr 25, 2012
Los_del_Mango commented on Creeping On Straight Chicks.
Los_del_Mango commented on Creeping On Straight Chicks.
Hey, Sean?
"Watch for when he is late, or disrespectful, or inconsiderate. Casually mention that you would never treat a woman like that. Reinforce how she deserves so much better. Store the details. Then wait for him to mess up big. Then, you can tell her that you would never put up with that from a man. "
She's, subtly, trying to seduce women by making them hate men. Objeting to that isn't being 'sex negative', it's being offended because whoever the fuck Ms. Chin is she's doing down my sex and my sexual orientation to get her rocks off and I don't like that very much.
She's an asshole of the highest order. I'm dumbfonuded that the Guardian would print such tosh.
"Watch for when he is late, or disrespectful, or inconsiderate. Casually mention that you would never treat a woman like that. Reinforce how she deserves so much better. Store the details. Then wait for him to mess up big. Then, you can tell her that you would never put up with that from a man. "
She's, subtly, trying to seduce women by making them hate men. Objeting to that isn't being 'sex negative', it's being offended because whoever the fuck Ms. Chin is she's doing down my sex and my sexual orientation to get her rocks off and I don't like that very much.
She's an asshole of the highest order. I'm dumbfonuded that the Guardian would print such tosh.
Apr 24, 2012
Los_del_Mango commented on About Those Asswipes.
Los_del_Mango commented on About Those Asswipes.
@17
OK, if everyone's crotch is covered - COVERED - in crawling intestinal bacteria, how come I've never got an upset stomach from going down on a girl unprotected, ever? Should I bleach my dick before a girl sucks me off?
Seems strange that if touching your penis is so very very risky regarding dangerous bacteria not found anywhere else on the human body, yet sucking one isn't so much of a problem.
I'm with 14, my penis is clearly cleaner than my hands.
OK, if everyone's crotch is covered - COVERED - in crawling intestinal bacteria, how come I've never got an upset stomach from going down on a girl unprotected, ever? Should I bleach my dick before a girl sucks me off?
Seems strange that if touching your penis is so very very risky regarding dangerous bacteria not found anywhere else on the human body, yet sucking one isn't so much of a problem.
I'm with 14, my penis is clearly cleaner than my hands.
Mar 4, 2012
Los_del_Mango commented on Sorry About the Light Slogging.
Los_del_Mango commented on Sorry About the Light Slogging.
Oh my God. That was the best noise ever. That was fucking glorious.
Feb 9, 2012
Los_del_Mango commented on "The law at the time required a prosecution.".
Los_del_Mango commented on "The law at the time required a prosecution.".
Full quote (from Lord McNally);
"It is tragic that Alan Turing was convicted of an offence which now seems both cruel and absurd, particularly... given his outstanding contribution to the war effort,"
"However, the law at the time required a prosecution and, as such, long-standing policy has been to accept that such convictions took place and, rather than trying to alter the historical context and to put right what cannot be put right, ensure instead that we never again return to those times."
Personally, I agree with that. Same reason (on, of course, a massively smaller scale) nobody's pulled down Auschwitz - Alan Turing's prosecution and conviction is shameful and embarassing, and should continue to shame, embarass and remind the British government/judiciary/society of what happens when we stop thinking of humans as human. Alan Turing is the most public face of the suffering experienced by post-Victorian gay British men - overturning his conviction won't 'fix' anything (he's already dead as a result of this) - rather, his conviction should be remembered so others' aren't forgotten. #3? There are statues and memorials. Alan Turing is already a relatively significant figure in the British public consciuosness - he is remembered, he is recognised as the victim of disgusting discrimination. The failure to overturn the conviction in no way represents a failure to recognise the significance of Turing's life, prosecution, and death.
I'm also well aware of the tendancy of Europeans to make smarmy, smug, completely misinformed know-it-all comments about the US, and how annoying that must be, and how well all y'all do to hold your tongue. As such I'll show the same restraint and not reply to #6, #7 etc.
However, #10? That "weird un-elected anachronism" is presently the only thing stopping that smarmy little Thatcherite shit-bag Cameron from wrecking the NHS. I think I'd like to keep it around for a little bit.
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"It is tragic that Alan Turing was convicted of an offence which now seems both cruel and absurd, particularly... given his outstanding contribution to the war effort,"
"However, the law at the time required a prosecution and, as such, long-standing policy has been to accept that such convictions took place and, rather than trying to alter the historical context and to put right what cannot be put right, ensure instead that we never again return to those times."
Personally, I agree with that. Same reason (on, of course, a massively smaller scale) nobody's pulled down Auschwitz - Alan Turing's prosecution and conviction is shameful and embarassing, and should continue to shame, embarass and remind the British government/judiciary/society of what happens when we stop thinking of humans as human. Alan Turing is the most public face of the suffering experienced by post-Victorian gay British men - overturning his conviction won't 'fix' anything (he's already dead as a result of this) - rather, his conviction should be remembered so others' aren't forgotten. #3? There are statues and memorials. Alan Turing is already a relatively significant figure in the British public consciuosness - he is remembered, he is recognised as the victim of disgusting discrimination. The failure to overturn the conviction in no way represents a failure to recognise the significance of Turing's life, prosecution, and death.
I'm also well aware of the tendancy of Europeans to make smarmy, smug, completely misinformed know-it-all comments about the US, and how annoying that must be, and how well all y'all do to hold your tongue. As such I'll show the same restraint and not reply to #6, #7 etc.
However, #10? That "weird un-elected anachronism" is presently the only thing stopping that smarmy little Thatcherite shit-bag Cameron from wrecking the NHS. I think I'd like to keep it around for a little bit.
Sep 6, 2011
Los_del_Mango commented on SL Letter of the Day: Straight Up Ex-Lesbian.
Los_del_Mango commented on SL Letter of the Day: Straight Up Ex-Lesbian.
Guy sounds like an asshole.
As regards to 22-year-old-lesbian falling for a guy, Erika Moen's great and now finished comic 'DAR' might be worth a look to anyone who hasn't already.
http://www.darcomic.org/
Just suggests that to be in that situation you don't need to start fretting over lesbian/straight/bi labels and, more importantly, your past doesn't need repudiating.
As regards to 22-year-old-lesbian falling for a guy, Erika Moen's great and now finished comic 'DAR' might be worth a look to anyone who hasn't already.
http://www.darcomic.org/
Just suggests that to be in that situation you don't need to start fretting over lesbian/straight/bi labels and, more importantly, your past doesn't need repudiating.
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