Paul in Mesa
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Apr 17, 2014 Paul in Mesa commented on Savage Love.
TIREDS' boyfriend is not an asshole. He had Borderline Personality Disorder, or BPD. His behavior is classic BPD. In general, if your partner started out as your biggest fan, pressed quickly for a commitment, then after you were committed, began criticizing your past and being overly suspicious of your present behavior, with frequent tantrums and odd demands, your partner has BPD and a need for a psychiatrist. P.S. Alcoholism often co-displays with BPD but 12-step programs won't cure that alcoholic because BPD is the underlying issue.
Nov 8, 2012 Paul in Mesa commented on Savage Love.
I just thought I'd mention, Dan--after, GREAT COLUMN!!-- that the majority of the world's religions, such as Confucianism, Daoism, Hinduism, and Buddhism--do NOT claim to have the "only truth". Even Jews believe their truth is for them only, and not you or me.

And for the guy who said reincarnationists are lazy: No, sir. We are VERY BUSY ENSURING WE DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS CRAP AGAIN. We do it by performing good works and trying to change the world for the better, like Dan does. So, in terms of reincarnationist belief, Dan is already "saved" (a misnomer, because souls CAN'T "give up") and he doesn't need to believe in or change a thing.
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Apr 13, 2011 Paul in Mesa commented on Savage Love.
I'm a gay guy who was married to a woman for 20 years; we had 4 children. I'm sure I was a crappy lover to her (I had to pretend she was a guy, or that I was some other, straight, guy) but I LOVED our babies and I loved helping take care of them. I fed and changed and bathed them whenever I wasn't at work. We took turns getting up at night, too, when one of the kids cried. I know my early involvement with their development aided their acceptance of our divorce, my coming out, and finding a gay partner. And I'm still friends with their mom, too.

Anyway, my point is, she LOVED having sex and didn't mind initiating it...probably because I helped out with the kids and the house enough to prevent her from being exhausted.