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Apr 14, 2013 purplescarves commented on SL Letter of the Day: Kiddie Porn Catch 22.
I am hoping that Dan or this woman turns it in rather than destroys it. Please help the children. I know it's scary and you would rather not walk into this potential mess. But think about how the children in these videos feel. Think of how scared they are. As a survivor of that hell, I'm begging you. If you ever wanted to send the message to children and youth that 'it gets better', now is a great opportunity. Now is the chance to be brave and stand up for what's right. Now is the time to be the adults that protect, rather than look the other way.
Sep 8, 2011 purplescarves commented on SL Letter of the Day: Delete As You Blow.
Dan's response does seem a bit off. I would have thought that he would have encouraged her (still young at 26) to see what affect this might have on her long-term relationship. Two years isn't really long-term. I think if you're going to consider your relationship serious, you have to have some serious conversations.

Also, why assume what your boyfriend might think? You live with your boyfriend, he seems pretty accessible, so ask him. Does your boyfriend think this is horrible? Does your boyfriend want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't think it's horrible? Shit people, give your partners a choice. I'm all for fulfilling our sexual desires, but if we say we're in a relationship with someone (especially someone who is "awesome") then be in a relationship and communicate those desires, your humanity, your mistakes and triumphs. Be authentic.

Cowardice masked as "I don't want to hurt their feelings" is still cowardice. You called it a mistake, own up to it, discuss the mistake, and figure out how to move on. Consider this practice for if/when you or him really F up in the future. At least you will have laid some groundwork.

Damn Dan, my favorite part about your advice is usually that you encourage people to explore who they are, be who they are, love who they are, and all the while live with integrity.
Aug 10, 2011 purplescarves commented on Man Charged with Impersonating a SPD Officer Also Accused of Raping Teenagers Listed on Backpage.com.
@ 2 Thank you for pointing that out, the "legalize prostitution" crew seems to forget that there are buyers who are just interested in children
Aug 2, 2011 purplescarves commented on Blacks Don't Tip?.
@25 Completely agreed. Quite honestly, who does NOT deal with multiple personalities, sometimes negative, at their job? I know I do and there is no opportunity to make tips. In fact, I would be fired as an educator if I took tips. I'm not saying that we shouldn't tip waitstaff, but the argument/whine "we make minimum wage and have to serve grumpy people" could be used by a lot of people. So should we just tip everyone that has a hard job and makes a low wage?
Jun 25, 2011 purplescarves commented on Racist Queers.
@144 What was your response?

@ 46 Sorry that it's not about white women this time?
Jun 13, 2011 purplescarves commented on Anthony Weiner Might As Well Resign.
Jun 13, 2011 purplescarves commented on Anthony Weiner Might As Well Resign.
@48 I am with you! That last paragraph hits the nail on the head.
May 16, 2011 purplescarves commented on SL Letter of the Day: Anti-Social Lubrication.
For those of you with very sensitive tissue, what lubes do you use? I am looking for something organic.
May 8, 2011 purplescarves commented on Dear Florida Gun Owners.
What is wrong with being a pussy? Pussies are GREAT! Just ask all the men and women that want to caress, stroke, lick and fuck them. Why are we dissing pussies because gun nuts are crazy?! Leave my pussy out of this!!
Apr 28, 2011 purplescarves commented on What If Everything Undergrads Thought They Knew About Porn in 1987 Turned Out To Be Wrong?.
@ 18, 24

This is what Dan wrote: As a sex researcher I spoke to earlier this year put it: "Lots of guys who might otherwise be out committing sex crimes are sitting at home now in front of their computers. Want to cut the number of rapes? Make sure everyone has high-speed internet access, a laptop, and some privacy."

The sex researcher is clearly stating that access to porn decreases the number of rapes. SLOG commenters are, rightly, questioning this logic if it's merely based on the numbers presented.

Could it be true? The numbers don't tell us that. The numbers do tell us that there wasn't an explosion of sex crime, so porn wasn't the villain that everyone expected it to be. You are definitely right about that and I completely agree with that. I just don't agree with the sex researcher. I'm thinking this researcher should actually try researching instead of implying causality by meshing two numbers together.