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Nov 5, 2011 LexTremendae commented on Muslim Writer Slaps Down NPR Host.
@ankylosaur:

Yes, I absolutely see what you mean about choice. I didn't want to go down that sliding scale in my first post... tend to ramble on enough as it is... All I meant was that the choice FOR the burqa (even by me, the atheist American feminist) wouldn't be much of a free choice, fueled as it would be by a wish to alleviate high ambient pressure. I know... it's a matter of degree: All choice needs some fuel, and that's going to come from a certain degree of ambient pressure. It's surprising to me how the choice from within is so influenced from pressures without, and, frankly, certain choices feel surprisingly unfree.

I use the word "surprisingly" because, although I'm not surprised that my choice of where I can live is dictated by outside pressures about how much money I have to spend and where I can get a job, I AM surprised about the huge deal that's made of a woman's choice of clothing (especially in relation to the tiny deal made of a man's choice of clothing), and so if my most vivid fantasy for escaping that scrutiny (of something that is supposed to not be important) is wearing a curtain, then that doesn't feel free, especially in the context of United States culture.
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Nov 5, 2011 LexTremendae commented on Muslim Writer Slaps Down NPR Host.
VEILS. There are many mornings when I wake up not rested from my over-worked schedule. At such times, I can handle taking a shower, brushing my teeth, combing my hair, and about not much else. I get my kid ready for school, and then I pick out an outfit to wear. It is at such times that I wonder if I could get away with wearing one of those head-to-toe veil things so that nobody can see my red eyes, my exhausted pale face, and maybe my old sweat pants, if that's what I end up wearing. I can't tell you the number of times that I've thought that. I've wondered how it would be to take my appearance, my sexuality, my physical realm out of consideration.

I'm a professional violinist. When I auditioned for orchestras, I got the luxury of a curtain to make sure that the hiring committee heard my playing only with their ears. A woman in the United States doesn't often get that. Women live under the scrutiny, The Eye. Sometimes it's unavoidable. For example, if I were a conductor, a curtain would be impossible because a conductor's craft exists so clearly in the physical realm. (Incidentally, do you know how few high-level female conductors there are?)

So I've imagined wearing the curtain. Forget for the moment what the public's reaction would be (OMG, look at that fanatic!)... I've thought that it would be somewhat freeing. I could be anything I want under that curtain. I could be like the world's most bad-ass poker face.

On the other hand, I would also be somewhat invisible. Yes, that would be freeing. I wonder if my behavior would change, like when you post something online under an alias... you tend to use a different tone than you might in person.

Or would the problem be that I would come to rely on the curtain? Couldn't it happen that I would feel way too exposed to be without it? Not to mention that it really does look cumbersome to move around in. And I would want to go swimming without it, obviously. (Remember the first time you ever went skinny dipping, how cool that sensation was? That must be like what veiled women feel like if they ever go swimming without all the clothing.)

So as I reflect, I imagine that there might be reasons for wanting a veil (including some reasons that I've considered myself). But for me, the main motivation would be so that I could feel as relaxed as men have it. I wish that I could slouch around in the crap that men wear and still be taken seriously and be considered hot, but not have to deal with being hot all the freaking time.

But I wonder... If the veil were a choice, like wearing a ponytail, then I'd expect women to wear it one day and not the next, depending on their choice that day. Or maybe not. I mean, some women never wear clothing that goes anywhere near their cleavage and others are more balanced about it (and then, like when Hilary Clinton's, oh I don't know, COLLARBONE was showing, the media had a fucking heart attack).

So if the thought process for veil-wearing women is anything like mine, if it's more to get the fuck away from the crunching tectonic plates hovering over women in this country, then it's not much of a CHOICE. If the veil choice is more of an exit strategy, then it's not so free.
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Nov 3, 2011 LexTremendae commented on What Does It Take to Get Expelled From Union-Scioto High School?.
THE ASSAILANT VIOLATED THE SCHOOL'S BAN ON SEX-BASED HARASSMENT. Think about it... If the assailant had been white, and the victim had been black, and the victim was out about his sexual preference for white women, and this infuriated the white assailant, causing the white assailant to harass the black victim and subsequently violently assault the black victim, would that be SEXUAL PREFERENCE HARASSMENT? No, that would be race-based harassment. Similarly, the reason why this assailant harassed and assaulted the victim was because of his sex. The assailant has no problem with people who have a sexual preference for men UNLESS THOSE PEOPLE HAPPEN TO BE OF THE MALE SEX. No need to press for a sexual orientation rule (not that I'm against one); apply the existing rule.
Nov 3, 2011 LexTremendae commented on Savage Love.
RE: the confidential vid
THE ASSAILANT VIOLATED THE SCHOOL'S BAN ON SEX-BASED HARASSMENT. Think about it... If the assailant had been white, and the victim had been black, and the victim was out about his sexual preference for white women, and this infuriated the white assailant, causing the white assailant to harass the black victim and subsequently violently assault the black victim, would that be SEXUAL PREFERENCE HARASSMENT? No, that would be race-based harassment. Similarly, the reason why this assailant harassed and assaulted the victim was because of his sex. The assailant has no problem with people who have a sexual preference for men UNLESS THOSE PEOPLE HAPPEN TO BE OF THE MALE SEX. No need to press for a sexual orientation rule (not that I'm against one); apply the existing rule.
Jul 12, 2011 LexTremendae commented on My Father Is an African Immigrant and My Mother Is a White Girl from Kansas and I Am Not the President of the United States.
I love this story! I immediately went to your website to see if you are performing in the NYC area, but no... Will the world hear about it if you do head out East for a few shows?

Anyway, congratulations on all your revelations. You write wonderfully.
May 6, 2011 LexTremendae commented on Savage Love.
Exactly, Suzy. Very well put.
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May 6, 2011 LexTremendae commented on Savage Love.
I feel pretty, oh so pretty, I feel pretty, and witty, and [gulp]...
 

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