Lady of Eagle Lake
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Jul 3, 2014 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on Rachel Lark's "Warm, Bloody, and Tender".
Feeling liberated! Screw blowjob week, screw shaving.
Apr 28, 2014 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on SL Letter of the Day: Friendly Fire.
I was wondering how he knew that it was a guy and a gay guy, so I went and checked out

Now I have a question. Do you think that gay guys are as uncomfortable with straight girls looking at naked pictures of them as straight guys are uncomfortable having gay guys look at them?
Apr 26, 2014 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on Bi-sexual But Hetero-Amorous.
That it is ridiculous!!!!! There are plenty of people that hook up and have no potential for a relationship. Not attractive enough, not rich enough, not the right race or religion or 1000 other lifestyle choices or because they are married and in an open relationship. Dan is being a hypocrite for saying that you need to disclose this. Dan has explicelty stated that you don't need to disclose information that isn't relevant tot he boundaries that have been agreed to by both parties. Additionally, consider for a moment that the heteroamorous line was just another excuse to soften the fact that he just wasn't that into him. It could have been numerous others. When you break up with someone, you have to give a reason and this was probably the kindest one that the dude could come up with. And even if he felt that that was the truth, there is still no way of knowing that he won't find someone who is just the right guy and fall in love and live happily ever after (really if that is how you define success for a relationship - I guess that lofty goal only applies to bisexuals with a questionable ability for love). Gee, I thought Dan was getting on top of this bisexual thing, but I think he still has a way to go.
Apr 15, 2014 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on SL Letter of the Day: Go Somewhere.
why isn't there a like button on board? There are so many reasons that people stay...looks, money, lifestyle...they are all ok if that is what you want..there is no problem with the reason that you want to be with someone. The problem is when you don't leave when there is a problem. From first hand experience, I can say that no matter how much you like one aspect, darned people come as a package deal.
Apr 14, 2014 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on Eighty-Six Sixty Nine!.
I think that I am on the wrong side of this argument, but I happen to think that there is some truth in this. Why the hell do you think women fake it so much. He wants a blowjob and only wants to do lip service to reciprocating. If a guy is following a ladies come first policy, then he probably isn't too into 69. IF it is more of, there's something wrong with you if you don't get off with minimal incidentally secondary stimulation then there must be something wrong with you.
Apr 2, 2014 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on Savage Love.
I didn't read all of the thread but wanted to share my personal experiences. If I just into bed with a guy and he has a small dick, or is missing a testicle, and they pretend like nothing is different, it is super uncomfortable. For me, the conversation has to be had in a trusting environment or I am going to start having a panic attack. If this happened and the guy had a vagina, I would similarly freak out. I can hold my own with a vagina, but I would still need to make a connection with what that means to the owner. I wouldn't want to pretend that it was a dick.

This situation would be unbearably uncomfortable for me. I would feel an enormous amount of stress and anxiety followed feelings of shame for not dealing with it in the most kind and appropriate manner. I would feel painfully shy and betrayed by the person I was building trust and intimacy with. I would feel bitter that my partner did not see me as a person to safely disclose these things.
Jan 25, 2014 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on SL Letter of the Day: What You Got, Slog?.
I think that modern medicine does a terrible job with the hormonal issue. Maybe a naturopath. Maybe a vacation. There has to be some reason.
Dec 6, 2013 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on SLLOTD: Judgment Day.
@15 that was very hard to follow, and at some points it made me concerned that you were trying somehow to condone date rape type interactions. Then I got to the end and it seemed that liking to pretend to be a rapist makes you a closet rapist. Many of our fantasies may be wrong by your standards. Do you feel the same way about sadists or tickle fetishists? What about spankings? There are plenty of people who might try to escape from a spanking if not held down and yet who would be very disappointed if they weren't. Also, the great thing about BDSM is the idea of consensus (i.e., enthusiastic participation) at one side of the consent continuum with acquiescence or resignation on the other side of the consent continuum. There are plenty of women who have sex because of being pressured by their partner or for fear of the consequences if they don't. I would suggest that consensual rape play is far more removed from real rape than the type of coercion that is a very common experience for women.
Nov 6, 2013 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on SL Letter of the Day: Like, Say, DTMFA.
Is it really her girl friends responsibility to assess whether her needs are being met and put her out of her misery. I thought that being consenting, capable adults, that is a decision that she needs to make for herself.
Jul 15, 2013 Lady of Eagle Lake commented on SL Letter of the Day: That Sucking Sound.
How about asking her why she isn't feeling the love. I would suspect that he has let himself slide physically or there is some source of resentment interfering with the intimacy.

I am not really sure what one would do about these problems though. Talking seems like a good idea, but on the other hand, why not just start over with someone else?