commented on Savage Love
I don't understand the lying. There are serious issues with how rape is handled in our culture, but so many of the people pushing the rape culture narrative insist on standing by blatant falsehoods.
There are police departments that simply don't bother with sex crimes, at all.
...But burglary is far less likely to result in prosecution. And victims are always asked about their security measures. That's victims of every type of crime. Why lie about that?
It's like making up a story about Hitler being a pedo. Why?
Or when the defence accuses the victim of lying. That isn't victim blaming, and it isn't unique to rape cases. It's criminal defense strategy number one for all cases. Accuse any witness against you of lying. That's exactly how OJ got off.
Saying that culture effects behavior is a tautology; saying our culture promotes rape is a value judgement. Both statements are useless.
OTOH, saying our culture is less tolerant of rape than ever before is accurate. As is saying that more can yet be done. I bet that pointing out actual problems along with practical solutions would get better responses from people like Hunter.
commented on Helen Fisher on Open Marriages: "They never end up working long-term."
An OPP doesn't have to be sexist, but when men are explaining why it's important to them that they have one, they usually say something sexist.
It's also associated with groan inducing, new to poly, unicorn hunters looking for a hot bi babe.
And I have yet to hear a currently unpartnered woman say she's looking for a one penis policy relationship.
Then there's the old "if you just don't want any other men, why do you need a policy?"
So it's not wrong, but it's at least a yellow flag.
Kind of like how only dating within your race might be racist, or just a result of it being easiest to relate to others with similar life experiences.
They are also similar in the way they draw attention. If you just date women, or just date within your race, no one is likely to care. Whereas a declaration that "the only dick allowed is mine" gets a similar reception to "white dick only".
commented on Seattle Times Editorial Board Member Defends Sex Work Editorial with Flawed Research
#6 Riding my bike to work at home depot, I started taking more and more risks. I stopped even bothering to look before running stop signs. Getting run down by a car was more appealing than another day in that shithole.
Does that mean it should be illegal to sell building supplies?
All sorts of jobs are harmful, sex work is just another job.