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Sep 22 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Daddy Issues.
@Lavagirl, "Are these men kind, healthy, and rich?"

I know you are probably being facetious, but just in case this kid doesn't realize that: Kind, absolutely! "Healthy," well, hopefully, but that is not always under their control. Requiring "rich" is just tacky (and unkind), and nobody should take that seriously.
Sep 22 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Daddy Issues.
I don't know why so many gay people are so invested in the "born that way" idea. Inborn, or environmental, or because you woke up and chose it one day, what does it matter?

As Dan so aptly said, why spend even a second of your life worrying about how to defend your choices from assholes, never mind adapting your entire self-image, identity, and behavior for their sake? Assholes will be assholes. Living the way you want is gay liberation. Caring about what assholes think is the opposite of gay liberation.
Sep 18 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love.
And Colby Keller appears in a hot sex scene in the new HBO show "High Maintenance."
Sep 18 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love.
@90, SophieX,

When I bottom, I hate it when the top uses a condom. Personally I find that condoms chafe my insides and I can definitely feel the difference, above and beyond whatever psychological turnoff it may have. A bare penis just feels so much better, to the point where if someone wants to use a condom, I totally lose any arousal and just prefer not to have sex with him at all. But that's me; I'm aware that many bottoms (male or female) don't feel a difference.
Sep 15 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Skip That White Wedding.
Do you have any friends who are not white? What would be their take on your attending the wedding, and could you still face them if you did?

I can sort of understand the argument to go because they are family and otherwise good people, but when I even think about running it by my non-white friends, there is no justification I can imagine speaking out loud without utter shame. They would be hurt and alienated by my association with such family members - which makes attending the event unethical in my opinion.
Sep 15 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Bitter Pill.
Most depression/anxiety medications make you asexual and make orgasm impossible.

But there are some that are less bad than others, so I would talk to the shrink first.
Sep 15 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love.
And yes, condom porn is a complete turnoff. And the legislation is greatly outdated in the time of PrEP.
Sep 15 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love.
Some of us gay guys also like watching straight porn for the men, and I can totally sympathize with the LW's complaint. It's not easy to find good straight porn that shows the men but it's out there. There used to be a straight porn for gay men site but I don't know if it exists anymore. Amateur sites can sometimes turn up some really good stuff.
Sep 15 cockyballsup commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: He Wears Short Shorts.
Shaved legs are quite common on straight gym bunnies and bicycle enthusiasts, for example. Almost nobody shaves anything anymore in the gay circles I run in, but then, I don't run in twink circles.
Sep 9 cockyballsup commented on The Election Is Tightening—Don't Waste Your Vote.
@88, Solk, when has wooing anyone by threatening them ever worked out well for you? Are you the toast of the local dating scene?