Whoop Di Doo
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Apr 24, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on Savage Love.
When I was in high school sex ed, our teacher did a thing where we could anonymously put a sex question - ANY sex question -on a piece of paper and put it in a hat and he'd answer it. Someone asked what "gerbiling" was. The look on his face...

He actually answered it, too, after qualifying that this is something that "very very few" people do. I remember being really puzzled at age 15 as to where my teacher would get this information.
Apr 17, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on Savage Love.
Was anyone else reminded of Annie Hall while reading BONG's letter? Or just me?
Jan 30, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on If Your Gay Kid Is Being Bullied At School And He Begs You To Homeschool Him....
I also get frustrated when suggesting that psychological help could help bullied kids means you're blaming them - like anyone is at fault for their particular mental chemistry. But no, I think it blames the school if they think that the high school years, when everybody is at their most emotionally and mentally vulnerable, is the time to scale back the psychological support and have their counselors just be there for helping kids get into college - like mine did.
Jan 30, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on If Your Gay Kid Is Being Bullied At School And He Begs You To Homeschool Him....
@31: Or maybe stop using your own bad experiences of therapy to make massive generalizations about the entire profession. First of all, therapists can't prescribe drugs; you have to be a psychiatrist in order to do that. Second of all, the notion that they give them out willy-nilly without regard for diagnoses is bullshit. They don't want to be sued for medical malpractice, which is totally possible when you're talking about drugs that play with your mind. Too much anti-depressant can make someone so lethargic they stop doing work, and they risk failing out of school or losing their job. Psychiatrists don't want to be responsible for that shit. In my case, even though I'd been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, my psychiatrist didn't put me on drugs until *I* felt therapy wasn't doing enough. He wanted to make sure therapy worked first.

Second of all, is it really so bad to put the kid on anti-depressants if it means the difference between a suicidal kid and a kid who is able to survive the bullying? Why do we always see psychiatric drugs as a negative thing? While the anti-gay bullying is what pushes them to the point where they commit or seriously contemplate suicide, the vast majority of people who have the POTENTIAL to be pushed to that point have a psychiatric condition. If a kid is suicidal, drugs and therapy may do more to help them than simply pulling them out of school would.

And beside all that, there's the fact that, far from just teaching them "coping mechanisms," counselors who are there to truly counsel kids on personal problems - not to just help them get into the best college, as most high school "counselors" are - are probably the best way to convince a parent that the kid really needs to get the fuck out of their awful school if that is the case. The parents might not listen to their teenager, but they would listen to a professional. Nobody who is certified in psychology or psychiatry wants to just teach a kid how to "cope" in an environment that is going to wreck them psychologically. They want to put them in a place where that isn't going to be the case.
Jan 30, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on The Problem with Polynormativity.
That "community" specifically being straight couples who are interested in threesomes with women, not polyamory in general.
Jan 30, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on The Problem with Polynormativity.
I mean, I'll admit that there are certainly some couples out there that are more respectful of boundaries, but the sheer amount of this shit that you get if you are a single bi woman on a dating site suggests it's not a fluke, but an attitude common in that community.
Jan 30, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on The Problem with Polynormativity.
@1: As a bi woman who has been harassed a lot on OkCupid by couples looking for threesomes despite making it clear in my profile I'm not interested, I would say no - because the mentality there is primarily that the woman's bisexuality only exists as a sexual kink, that it's not a legitimate sexual orientation on its own besides how it can please a guy's lesbian-porn fantasies.
Jan 30, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on Savage Love.
I agree with others who think the distinction should be less whether it's an ex or a stranger on the other end, and more if by "interactive porn" she actually means someone on the other end responding to his directions, or if it's an electronic game or something like that.

I think that if he'd posted an ad on Craigslist for a girl to cam with him, Dan would rightly call that cheating. I don't see how it isn't if it's an anonymous cam girl.

If it really is just a game though and there's no recipient on the other end, then it is just porn and not cheating and SAD needs to get a reality check.
Jan 25, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Married Bi Man Makes His Move.
@45: What data are you using? Not that I'm saying you're wrong, I'm just curious. Because for me, it's more than just a few anecdotes, but that this pattern seems to play out with just about everybody I know who is a child of divorce. People whose parents did it when they were young, are fine or at least used to it; people whose parents split up when they were teens or later, have major mental health issues or personal problems for at least a few years as a result.
Jan 25, 2013 Whoop Di Doo commented on Slog Poll: Choose the Abortion Graphic!.
I like the first one because it focuses on the "getting rid of an unwanted pregnancy" aspect, but something about that hot pink fetus that also has the most fabulous of the three party hats, makes it really hard to choose.