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Jun 23, 2011 daharyn commented on Bisexuals.
"Come out... unless you're a teenage boy, and then, just like everyone who wants you to be straight, I'll tell you that it's just a phase." Damned if you do, damned if you don't, eh?

Out bi poly gal here, dating an out bi poly guy, among others. But of the two of us, I'm the only one with anything of a connection to queer community. I bug him about it, but he makes the very good point that most men don't believe him. He's in his late thirties, and he's still being publicly questioned about his identity by men like you.

Here's my point. If you question a teenager's identity, you make it easier to keep on questioning that same person's identity when they are an adult. It's like my aunt, forever convinced that I want to add "mother" to my identity no matter how many times I explain parenting isn't for me. If you can't accept someone's bisexuality, then you are acting in a biphobic manner in that moment. It doesn't matter how you justify it.

I'm lucky. The real people in my life now have stuck with me through a lot of radical changes, and they've accepted me at each step along the way. Whatever I said I was, they said, "OK. I love you for who you are." And that made it way, way, WAY easier to find and accept who I was. If the adults I trusted had exhibited less than acceptance, the way you do here, it would've just made it more difficult to come into my own.

Dan, you have such a big megaphone, a massive soapbox upon which to stand. I'm awfully surprised that you'd use it to tear others down, instead of building them up. This makes you no better than the bullies you've so publicly condemned. Not one whit better. To add insult to injury, your arguments are not only shortsighted, but completely unoriginal. If you were going to sink to that level, you might've at least done it with some decent material.
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Jun 23, 2011 daharyn commented on Bisexuals.
"Come out... unless you're a teenage boy, and then, just like everyone who wants you to be straight, I'll tell you that it's just a phase." Damned if you do, damned if you don't, eh?

Out bi poly gal here, dating an out bi poly guy, among others. But of the two of us, I'm the only one with anything of a connection to queer community. I bug him about it, but he makes the very good point that most men don't believe him. He's in his late thirties, and he's still being publicly questioned about his identity by men like you.

Here's my point. If you question a teenager's identity, you make it easier to keep on questioning that same person's identity when they are an adult. It's like my aunt, forever convinced that I want to add "mother" to my identity no matter how many times I explain parenting isn't for me. If you can't accept someone's bisexuality, then you are acting in a biphobic manner in that moment. It doesn't matter how you justify it.

I'm lucky. The real people in my life now have stuck with me through a lot of radical changes, and they've accepted me at each step along the way. Whatever I said I was, they said, "OK. I love you for who you are." And that made it way, way, WAY easier to find and accept who I was. If the adults I trusted had exhibited less than acceptance, the way you do here, it would've just made it more difficult to come into my own.

Dan, you have such a big megaphone, a massive soapbox upon which to stand. I'm awfully surprised that you'd use it to tear others down, instead of building them up. This makes you no better than the bullies you've so publicly condemned. Not one whit better. To add insult to injury, your arguments are not only shortsighted, but completely unoriginal. If you were going to sink to that level, you might've at least done it with some decent material.
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