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Jun 24, 2011 BiAndProud commented on Bisexuals.
No one's buying it, Dan. Maybe the ones who haven't seen the lovely piece of advice you gave a lesbian woman who felt insecure abt her girlfriend's bisexuality (''Dump her and find a real lesbian girlfriend''). She didn't seem to have any reason to think her gf was going to leave her or cheat, so that was basically the old ''bis-are-slut'' or ''bi girls are really het'' stereotype that was bothering her. Did you tell her sexual orientation doesn't make one more likely to cheat? No. You played along with that hurtful myth and told her to dump a woman she probably loved. Cause that's no point in trying to make a relationship work with one of those filthy bisexuals, right?

Maybe the ones who didn't see how you reacted to bi women complaining how lesbians won't date us because ''we're gonna leave them for a man'' and men will date us, but a lot of them will think we're automatically up for a thressome because we just can't get enough of men and women, right? Your lovely advice? ''There seems to be a lot of you out there. Go fuck each other.'' Why adressing the fetishization of our sexual orientation and the invalidation of our identities when you can pretend we're just whining abt not enough ppl wanting to fuck us?

And, for future reference, you don't get to decide at what age smn earns the right to have their identity respected. When you tell a kid who identifies as bi that YOU know better than them what they are ''really'' feeling, how their sexuality ''really'' works, what they ''really'' are, that's insulting, demeaning
and patronizing. You don't get to do it just because they're young. In fact, it's WORSE to invalidate someone's identity when they're at a vulnerable age.

You wanna be biphobic? Go ahead. You already showed you don't care how much harm you're doing or how wrong you are. Just don't insult our inteligence and try to pretend you're not a bigoted, close-minded individual.
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Jun 24, 2011 BiAndProud commented on Bisexuals.
@35: Yes, because issues like aceptance of other ppl's identities and basic respect don't matter when you're older than 30, right?! Oh PLEASE! Just take a look at this comment section or go read any book abt bissexual ppl, and you'll see many bis well past their 30s or 40s or 50s. And, just so you know, just because YOU know some bi ppl who no longer identify as such (and you can bet at least one of them only changed the way they self-identify because of the rampant biphobia we still have to face) it doesn't mean a bi teen won't feel invalidated, erased and slapped in the face when smn tells them ''I know YOUR identity, YOUR feelings and sexuality better than yourself.''
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Jun 24, 2011 BiAndProud commented on Bisexuals.
@35: Yes, because issues like aceptance of other ppl's identities and basic respect don't matter when you're older than 30, right?! Oh PLEASE! Just take a look at this comment section
or go read any book abt bissexual ppl, and you'll see many bis well past their 30s or 40s or 50s. And, just so you know, just because YOU know some bi ppl who no longer identify as such (and you can bet at least one of them only changed the way they self-identify because of the rampant biphobia we still have to face) it doesn't mean a bi teen won't feel invalidated, erased and slapped in the face when smn tells them ''I know better YOUR identity, YOUR feelings and sexuality better than yourself.''
 

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