Yeah, it's a copy of that.

Jan 10, 2013 Rach commented on Savage Love.
Maybe it's a regional thing, but everyone I know who has been in a three partner relationship calls it a triad.
Sep 19, 2012 Rach commented on Savage Love.
I swallowed exactly once. It stuck in my throat, coated the back of my tongue and made me gag. From then I let lovers come in my mouth, but I either let it run out like saliva, or spat surreptitiously; in dim lighting no one could tell I wasn't swallowing. They got what they wanted, I got what I wanted.
Aug 30, 2012 Rach commented on Savage Love.
A former lover was a sexsomniac, and would initiate missionary sex in his sleep semi-regularly. As long as his sleeping self remembered a condom, or I woke enough to put one on him, I actually quite enjoyed it most of the time (exceptions for being too tired, or him waking up and deciding he was too tired to finish what he started). Waking up halfway to orgasm was not a terrible way to be awoken for either of us.
Jun 22, 2012 Rach commented on Cover Up.
This is silly. Of course she COULD wear a top, but if she doesn't have to, why on earth would she? She no longer has the parts that are supposed to be covered.

People have the right to feel offended by whatever they choose, but that does not obligate the rest of us to go out of our way to shield their delicate sensibilities.
Oct 20, 2011 Rach commented on Savage Love.
If my wife started playing with her phone while I was going down on her, she would never get another blowjob.

If I were with a man and he did that, I would bite down.
Jun 28, 2011 Rach commented on Bisexuals.
I identify as bisexual, but I am in a same-sex marriage, so probably the assumption is that I'm a lesbian in spite of my having mostly dated men previously. Since neither of us would be cool with an open relationship and we have really low risk factors for divorce the odds of me ever having sex with a man again are effectively null. For all practical purposes, I've rounded up to lesbian.

Maybe it's because of where I live, maybe it's because I'm married, maybe it's because my friends and acquaintances could not give less of a fuck, but my sexuality never comes up in conversation. Ever. I'd talk about it, but not since high school has it seemed to be relevant. As others have mentioned, the only people who it seems really would care are the Choicers and I have no interest in fanning the flames of their nutcaseness with my marriage.

Short of introducing myself like a 12-step participant "Hi, I'm Rachel and I'm a bi-sexual," or having all my clothes silk-screened with my sexuality I can't imagine how I would be visibly bisexual.

Since you yourself sometimes talk about how rounding your sexuality is sometimes both sensible and useful, you should accept that when someone tells you that they are bi, that they are. You can't reasonably have it both ways. Simultaneously telling people that you don't believe they are bi and telling everyone who is bi to come out doesn't work. Maybe those 16 yr old self-identified bi boys who write to you are 90% gay. That's enough for you to round them up to gay to prove your point, but bisexuals aren't just the middle line, the people who are 50% hetero and 50% homo. Bisexuality just means having an attraction to both women and men, how much and how often you bat for each team isn't part of the definition.

So, Dan, unless they are simultaneously claiming that they are bi and that they think one gender's genetalia is gross, let them keep their label.
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Jun 28, 2011 Rach commented on Bisexuals.
I identify as bisexual, but I am in a same-sex marriage, so probably the assumption is that I'm a lesbian in spite of my having mostly dated men previously. Since neither of us would be cool with an open relationship and we have really low risk factors for divorce the odds of me ever having sex with a man again are effectively null. For all practical purposes, I've rounded up to lesbian.

Maybe it's because of where I live, maybe it's because I'm married, maybe it's because my friends and acquaintances could not give less of a fuck, but my sexuality never comes up in conversation. Ever. I'd talk about it, but not since high school has it seemed to be relevant. As others have mentioned, the only people who it seems really would care are the Choicers and I have no interest in fanning the flames of their nutcaseness with my marriage.

Short of introducing myself like a 12-step participant "Hi, I'm Rachel and I'm a bi-sexual," or having all my clothes silk-screened with my sexuality I can't imagine how I would be visibly bisexual.

Since you yourself sometimes talk about how rounding your sexuality is sometimes both sensible and useful, you should accept that when someone tells you that they are bi, that they are. You can't reasonably have it both ways. Simultaneously telling people that you don't believe they are bi and telling everyone who is bi to come out doesn't work. Maybe those 16 yr old self-identified bi boys who write to you are 90% gay. That's enough for you to round them up to gay to prove your point, but bisexuals aren't just the middle line, the people who are 50% hetero and 50% homo. Bisexuality just means having an attraction to both women and men, how much and how often you bat for each team isn't part of the definition.

So, Dan, unless they are simultaneously claiming that they are bi and that they think one gender's genetalia is gross, let them keep their label.
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