commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An Easy Call for a Former Call Girl
This is an abusive relationship. This is what emotional abuse looks like. Even if you can get him to lay off the sanctimony about your sex work, he's going to come up with a new reason that you're a terrible human being. The comments directed at making you feel shameful are not a temporary setback on the road called love, the proclamations of love two months in were what was temporary, and designed to justify isolating you with him.
I'm sure there is something that you feel you owe him, or maybe you just fear being alone, but I can assure you that you don't owe this asshole shit. Not money, not a place to live, not your understanding of that he is just it a really weird place right now...
People like to say there are plenty of fish in the sea, and there are, but when you are getting out of an abusive relationship I think it's better to think about all of the better things about being single. You get the whole bed, pick your music, hangout with friends and family you haven't seen in a while, not have to check in with anyone before you make plans. Because you are going to need some time to unpack the bullshit before you are ready for relationships again. And if you can do that you have a much greater chance picking a good one and building a healthy relationship in the future! Good luck! DTMFA!
commented on I, Anonymous
I can't believe no one has pointed out that there are studless snow tires that actually perform better on ice and don't fuck up the roads. You still have to take them off when it gets warm cause they can melt (supposedly) if it gets too hot.
commented on Eight Easy Steps to Help You Break Through the Dreaded "Seattle Freeze"
#3 is probably most important on the list. If a Seattlite says they want to get coffee, that means they are open to hanging with you if they run into you again or you take the initiative. If a Seattlite says they want to get coffee with you next Wednesday then that is a "plan" that you have "made" with them, but might still require a follow up text closer to to confirm.
I don't know how many times a transplant has complained that a Seattlite said they wanted to get coffee but never followed up and therefore snubbed them, when in reality all the Seattlite really said was that they were open to hanging out sometime in the future. And to be real, you didn't call them either.