commented on SL Letter of the Day: Jacked Around
The LW is sensitive and that's sort of understandable. But I get a sense she still doesn't quite get the part where he's Bi and men are important. I told my wife BEFORE we are married that I was gay and her response was, "Well, as long as you don't go running around with any woman, okay!" She didn't get it. She and the LW seem similar to me. They think that guy who want to suck dick will be converted "by the right woman". Oh, the misery I could have avoided if that were true. The chaos! The embarrassment! The expense! The distrust!
LW, dear. Men masturbate. Period. I'm gay as a goose and I still watch straight porn and my husband of three decades could care less. I guess I fail to understand what the problem is.
commented on Help a Visitor Out, Slog
Advice from a dad: Study for your bar exam!!! No farting around! Save your money! No dating, sightseeing or lolly gagging until you pass the bar. Hit those books!
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Queens of the Retail Stage
I remember back when I was dating the GM of a Wards store. He hired the most delicate guy I'd ever seen to work in the jewelry and cosmetics department and I remember thinking how this was going to be a major disaster. Two years later that sweet guy with the perfect hair had eight Employee Of The Month honors under his belt and he was the assistant manager of the store. He was snatched from Wards by Neiman Marcus. The dude could sell water to fish and I swear he was the catty stereotype the LR mentioned.
So when I met my friend Terry, years later, I didn't have to go through this second guessing. Terry is a stereotype of the effeminate queen, there's just no doubt about it. He was that way from birth. He was a hair burner for about 10 years then, on a whim, took a temp job working for Tiffany. The guy was the lowest on the totem pole of 12 people in his division when he started there and in three years he was the ONLY person working in that division because he could work circles around everyone else. He was daily walking into the homes of the most famous movie stars and Hollywood talent and he spent 22 years prancing through that environment selling jewelry worth hundreds of millions of dollars. He just had that elegance and refinement about him that was natural and, at the least, I think all of those people and customers recognized him as a man who was genuinely himself. I'm telling you, that guy would make a lot of people cringe even today but, god damn! He was/is fucking amazing! And there simply wasn't any difference in personality in his working and private life. To this day (he's 68 now) he gets invited to birthday parties and wedding by Hollywood elites who kept in touch with him after he retired from Tiffany. I LOVE this guy. He has been one of the most enriching and valuable friends in my whole freaking life. You just have to open you eyes and your heart and let people be what they are.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Just Out
My friends, a gay couple who had been partnered for 54 years, surprised me when I asked them where they met. They just blurted it out - GLORY HOLE!
Then we joked and devised this rule of thumb about dating: If guys aren't living up to your standard - lower your standards!!
I wonder where gaybro lives. I was living with two gay guys; renting a room from them because I **wansn't** attracted to them. And one day, Mr. Wonderful come over to visit them. It's now 31 years later and Mr. Wonderful is sitting at the dining table reading every single square inch of the newspaper. He's 91 years old and I'm his second time around (he's my first) because his first partner OF 32 YEARS was older than him and konked in his mid-70s.
I've know couple who met at truck stops, rest stops, bars, parties, work, in jail, at the VD clinic, walking their dog, while sitting in the barber's chair, at the grocery store, at a bus stop, at church, on a business trip, at drag shows, at Kmart. Little Bro - we are everywhere. Come find us. No matter what you are interested in doing, you're going to meet a gay guy who like to do that too. At sporting events, rodeos, stock car racing, even in the emergency room at the hospital. Go sell real estate. It's full of gay guys. Hang out at the garden center at Home Depot if you're into gardening. Pretty soon someone will walk by and give you a long look. And, of course, you'll own lots of plants from doing this.