It's not very popular.

Jun 11 Keey commented on About That Hate Crime I Committed at University of Chicago.
@ 232, Sometimes we have to realize that our personal damage or illogical terrors are our own burdens to deal with, and it's not the responsibility of others to protect us from them by burdening their own discourse to the point of absurdity. There are matters of degree in such things, and while Dan shouldn't "rush" to judgement, I think it's okay if he walks slowly towards it and then stands his ground when he gets there. Compassion is important, but 'right' and 'wrong' have to matter too.
Jun 9 Keey commented on About That Hate Crime I Committed at University of Chicago.
@ 204

It may have been a single word, but it was the one word that was most critical to specific point he was trying to make. It's a bit like saying "I don't mind you talking about your heritage, but please don't say the word 'Italian,' because I was raped and beaten by an Italian."

I suppose there are times when someone's feelings are rightfully dismissed, and to me this seems like one of them. We have to stand up to bullies, even ones with hurt feelings.
Jun 9 Keey commented on About That Hate Crime I Committed at University of Chicago.
How does Cousin Itt feel about all this? I'd trust that amazing being to have something wise and kind to 'say.'
Jun 9 Keey commented on About That Hate Crime I Committed at University of Chicago.
@ 181

Point taken, but any courtesy can be abused and become a manipulative indulgence. I think common courtesy has to go the other way as well: if you ask a guest speaker to not use a word in a historical context, and they politely decline to oblige, you can either stick around and hear what they have to say for themselves or you can choose to leave. Losing your shit impresses no one and achieves nothing.
Jun 9 Keey commented on About That Hate Crime I Committed at University of Chicago.
Indignation rapidly becomes its own reward sometimes, just as some people who go through an actual illness later begin to 'seek out' the role of the patient for psychological comfort, sympathy, and as a way for avoiding life's existential agonies. I've noticed that in [various other marginalized groups], an activist earns their credibility by various conspicuous demonstrations of indignation against an acceptable target. And usually, the target is mostly expedient, typically someone who is sympathetic enough to be close by.

It seems like trans activists have fallen into the old trap of caring about the *concept* of people more than *actual people.* And so, they treat themselves and others as abstractions, without irony or the idea that someone can fall short of your personal ideals in many ways, and yet still be a good friend.

No one will ever approach you if they feel that you are just looking to make a lesson out of them for your cronies, and that you are too weak to tolerate the transgressions that are the very soul of friendship.
Nov 20, 2013 Keey commented on SL Letter of the Day: Look But Don't Ogle—And Don't Blow Kisses!.
@81 - it works if you're scary-looking like this guy might be. Even if it doesn't work right "then and there" and you get in an argument, people take notice. The next time you're in the locker room, people will be better behaved.
Nov 20, 2013 Keey commented on SL Letter of the Day: Look But Don't Ogle—And Don't Blow Kisses!.
Gay here, and somewhat sympathetic to the writer.

First: Dan's borrowed definition of homophobia sucks. I'm willing to bet there are MANY homophobes who are pious, uptight fuckwads who are so sex-phobic they would never leer at a woman. And let's not forget half the fucking population: heterosexual women actually can be homophobic. Following the definition provided, how do we know that THIS man mistreats women? Does his own behavior towards women mirror that of the men in his locker room? Guilt isn't a colony creature, and someone else being worse (e.g. straight men who harass women) does not make gay men who harass straight men 'less bad.'

Second: there's a world of difference between checking someone out on the street (which this man doesn't object to) and winking at them when they are butt naked. Both CAN be creepy, but one ALWAYS is.

@ 76 - what makes it YOUR locker room? It's a Men's locker room, and that's it. Everyone should try and be decent, not just the gay guys 'invading your space.' That means we shouldn't blow kisses at you, and you guys shouldn't tell fag and pussy jokes. Sure, mistakes will happen, but you gotta get off your high horse.

To the writer: sadly, you probably look like a porn star and people treat you as if you are some kind of giant novelty item. Unlike some people on here, I don't recommend challenging people to stop looking - all they'll do is give you some kind of lecture about how you're being homophobic by objecting to their oafish behavior. A lot of gay guys feel weirdly entitled to be obnoxious because 'people were mean to me [us] in the past.' Instead, put them down. If a guy winks at you, just say "not a chance, ugly." Or "try the make a wish foundation." Men get that kind of thing.

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Jun 11, 2013 Keey commented on NSA? No, You Should Be More Worried about the Person Sitting Near You.
Stupidly arrogant versus recklessly indignant. Two extremes on electrofuckbagmagnetic spectrum.
May 16, 2013 Keey commented on SL Letter of the Day: Insane Demands.
Please seek professional psychiatric help immediately.
 
 

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