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12:12 AM yesterday Registered European commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up.
CMC @31
For me the “smoking gun,” or lack of, was David’s fairly realistic small-ish penis typical for a youngster.

As far as I know (but I'm not an art historian) in classical and renaissance sculpture, all male figures who are supposed to be "noble" have fairly small penises. Not for reasons of realism, but because a large penis is considered "animal-like".
So David's small penis is there for idealistic reasons, not realistic ones.
Feb 12 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
B (NA) @105
Bi & I were talking about those times when one person wants more but refuses to be acknowledge it

I see. Bi referred to "situations like RE @78 describes" (by which I meant something else) in her post, hence the confusion.
Feb 11 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
BDF @101
Yes -- and you're damned if you do, damned if you don't in situations like RE @78 describes. A man is showing interest in you, inviting you to things, not explicitly saying "I'm attracted to you" but behaving in the ways attracted men behave. If you don't take the bull by the horns and say "I'm not attracted to you," you're a tease who's friendzoning him, and if you do, you're a conceited bitch.

Damned by whom, though?

Let's assume I'm showing interest in you, but I'm not saying "I'm attracted to you". That's because I like your company, but I'm not attracted to you.
You say: "I'm not attracted to you". Well, great! I'm not attracted to you either, so there are no romantic complications here.
You don't say: "I'm not attracted to you". No problem! There is no need to say that, I never assumed you were. The "friend zone" is the goal!

Do or don't -- as far as I'm concerned you are not "damned".
Feb 11 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Straight Guy Can't Win.
@24 the frustrating thing with "shy dick" (nice turn of phrase) is that you are aroused, but your dick still doesn't get hard (or stay hard).

This is the situation for which boner pills were invented.
Feb 10 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
BDF @79 Only if the other party believes your honesty.
Feb 10 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
BDF @76
Men can "respectfully" hit on us and we get that they're hitting on us, because they're men and we expect that when a man is being overly interested and attentive that they want to get in our pants.

The other side of the coin: as a man it's difficult to get a "just being friendly" date with a woman because the assumption is that you are trying to get into her pants.
Feb 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up.
Dutch "asexual" wants sex, but doesn't care about the person he is having sex with. Right. Sounds like most men to me, and hardly "asexual".
Feb 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
BDF @46
A bi female friend of mine recently created a Facebook group for bi women and every single one of them mirrored my experience. A post was started, "Share your strategies for pulling women," and only one reply was received (from me, so it wasn't much help), compared to 30+ replies agreeing with a post lamenting about how difficult it is to get women.

I'm not trying to be a smartass, but couldn't the members of that group date/"pull" each other? Or would it be "not done" to treat it as a dating opportunity?
SA @50
with absolutely zero work women can obtain all the cock they want.

Correction: woman can obtain lots of cock, but not necessarity the cock they want. See a considerable number of previous SL comment threads on this subject.
Feb 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Engaged to a Beard.
Funny how the opinions about the attractiveness of beards are all over the place.
Feb 8 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
Keif @34 Agreed about the Norah Vincent book. I loved it.