Well, he did talk to her:
And yes, I have talked and fought with her countless times.
So I can't blame him for writing to Dan. Dan's answer was pretty good, too. If you don't want to masturbate while looking at porn, learn to use just your fantasy. Your fantasy can be much better than porn anyway because it's all under your control. The women don't have to have fake plastic nails!
(I don't think that this LW is looking for a "get-out-of-monogamy-free" card, BTW.)