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Mar 14 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
SHHH's letter reads like a female and kink-oriented version of the Madonna-whore complex. The suggestion above to leave out the humiliation from the beatings is good, but might not work if the boyfriend's main kink is the humiliation.
Mar 10 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Lonely Unicorn Looking for London Ladies.
Any way for this woman to get in touch with BiDanFan?
Mar 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
MM @45 Ah! That makes sense.
Mar 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
SNJ-RN @23
She suggested that I [...] have my partner use a "natural skin" condom over a latex condom

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Strange advice. I always hear that using two condoms over each other is a very bad idea because they'll tear more easily. Why not use just a "natural skin" condom instead of a latex condom? (assuming a "natural skin"-condom = a latex-free condom).
Mar 7 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: When Should She Tell Her Date She Wants to Bang?.
BDF @32 Well, the LW did ask a man (Dan) for advice...
Mar 6 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: When Should She Tell Her Date She Wants to Bang?.
She may be ready and she's been waiting for you to make the first moveā€”the move being an ask, WAIT, not a lunge

It seems that Dan is now a proponent of the "ask for verbal consent before doing anything physical or it's sexual assault"-school of thought? If that is indeed the new normal then I'm glad to be "retired from romance", to steal a phrase from mr. Venn.

The various "start making a move" scenarios described by various commenters above (@11, @13) sound much more natural to me. (Start making a move, not lunge; non-verbally asking for consent, so to speak.)
Mar 3 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Longest SLLOTD Ever Posted.
Speaking of classic SLLOTD letter writers, anyone remember "Pretty little hippie"? the original letter and the SL column where the letter was reprinted and the LW joined the comment thread (a thread which went on for 365 comments .... those were the days).
Mar 1 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Straight Uncle Offers Trans Nephew A Summer in the City (But Mom Says No).
It sounds like this "cool uncle" wants to take over the parental role from his nephew's actual parents. A whole summer? Having your 16 year old kid out of the house for three months? I can understand the mother refusing that request. A week (or something) sounds more reasonable. That's assuming the kid is even interested in staying with his uncle. I note that are no cousins of the same age ("We have two very small kids").
Feb 22 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
AZ @92
Akio/Lithsexual Person- A person who experiences sexual attraction but does not wish for it to be reciprocated.

What does this mean, exactly? A person who experiences sexual attraction but does not actually want to have sex, or a person who has sex but does not want their partners to feel attracted to them?