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4:06 AM Registered European commented on SL Letter of the Day: Asexuality-It's a Thing..
BDF @24
An asexual is "missing out" on STIs, unintentional pregnancy, heartbreak, and untold drama. Sometimes I wish I'd been lucky enough to get to "miss out" on all of that.

BDF, I love you. I have thought the exact same thing. In my case, add to the things I'd rather "miss out on" the ridiculous amount of money I spend on commercial sex.

As an aside, the comparison between sex and "food I don't like" doesn't work, in my opinion. With a particular food it's reasonable to say "try it and see if you like it". With sex it's different. You are sexually attracted to someone or you're not. If you don't feel any attraction, it does not make sense to say "have sex with that person and see if you like it anyway". People know their sexual orientation long before they actually have sex.
Aug 20 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Quick Hits.
For a while I had underwear with a horizontal fly. Very convenient. But a bit too expensive and difficult to find. These days I just use the standard flyless things and pull the waistband down.
Aug 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Blown Opportunities.
Eh, sorry, KR @53/54 I mean.
Aug 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sexy Business Tips.
This link: http://www.thestranger.com/archive/savag… contains both the main Savage Love column and the SSLOTD.
Aug 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Blown Opportunities.
KR @51
the LW said he can't have sex.

No, the LW said [he] cannot currently engage in intercourse.
Aug 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sexy Business Tips.
CT @17
No unaccompanied men makes sense for a swingers party. It makes less sense for a class style environment, and no sense for a retail style environment.

Where I live there used to be (late seventies/early eighties) a feminist bookshop where men were not allowed, accompanied or not. A male writer who was researching feminist history at the time had to ask a female friend to get books from that shop.
Aug 18 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
WF @59
Why would you subject your wife to mush dick instead of just taking a viagra or cialis? That makes about as much sense as dying from syphilis instead of getting a shot.

The boner pills aren't without their problems. My experience (with sildenafil = viagra and its variants) is that they work, but get less effective the more you get used to them. So using them all the time might not be a good idea. Also they tend to cause headaches and a "hangover"-like feeling.

I tried Cialis once and it did nothing for me.
Aug 18 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sexy Business Tips.
maeggyn @11/12 Strange. A "no unaccompanied men allowed" policy I could understand to a certain extent (see also the discussion about swingers' clubs) but this is weird. Or were these shops maybe lesbian-oriented?
Aug 17 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
venn @33
I take "has to be the performer" as a self-imposed restriction, not partner-imposed

I'd say that it is culture-imposed. By the way, being expected to "perform" with a body part that isn't really under your control can be stressful.