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5:44 AM yesterday Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What's Allowed In His Spank Bank?.
Maybe that's what it amounts to.
3:24 AM yesterday Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What's Allowed In His Spank Bank?.
BDF @71
You'd have to have a photographic memory for this to actually be feasible, I think.

No photographic memory needed, I'd say. You'd just have to remember enough salient details to become aroused, the rest can stay vague.
Jan 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Round-Up.
@13, thanks, that makes sense.
Jan 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What's Allowed In His Spank Bank?.
For what it's worth -- if I [have this experience/feel this way] I usually assume something like "lots of other people [have this experience/feel this way], because I am not special", not "all people like me have this experience/feel this way]".
Jan 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Round-Up.
This is why the instructions for collecting a urine sample at the doctor's office (when looking for infection) include cleaning the urethral opening first and collecting the urine mid-steam. These two steps prevent the urine sample from being contaminated with bacteria from the urethral opening or skin/surface.

Huh? When I had to provide a urine sample for STD testing I was specifically told that they wanted the first part of the urine stream. This makes a lot more sense than what this LW is saying. They want to test for bacteria in your urine, so they want the part with the most bacteria and not the part where all bacteria are flushed away and "and the urine coming out is once again sterile."
Jan 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What's Allowed In His Spank Bank?.
Funny. My masturbation fantasies only involve basic sexual acts with real people, either recollections of actual sex, or fantasies that could be realized without too much trouble (which may or may not happen at a later time).

Takes all kinds indeed.
Jan 19 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What's Allowed In His Spank Bank?.
HBTB @46 That only works if the arrangement is actually safe because the people in charge do restrain and police themselves. See the catholic church and its priest-led boys' boarding schools for a "non-safe" example.
Jan 18 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What's Allowed In His Spank Bank?.
What a silly letter.

I don't communicate with these people because that'd be creepy. [...] I just wondered if [...] I should ask for permission to wank to selfies of these "girls next door."
LW already answered his own question. Was he hoping to get permission from Dan to share his wanking habits with these "girls next door"?
BTW, iseult @5, I don't think jerking off to people's Facebook pics (or to fantasies about people you know in real life, for that matter) is in itself particularly "ugh" as long as you keep it to yourself.
Jan 13 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Ex Was Wrong For Me But The Sex Was Perfect.
Fichu @55
The guys who were bad in bed were the ones who somehow had the idea that they were supposed to be sweet and sympathetic and adore me and not objectify me. They treated me like I was going to break if they touched me, and when they touched me, they'd check if touching me was okay even as I was gasping and sighing. If anything, they'd hear a gasp or sigh and check that I was alright because they seemed sure, deep down, that they were hurting me. It was like the were convinced that sex was wrong, their own desire was wrong, and they'd heard so much about feminism, well who knows what they thought.

Are we talking about men who where born in the 1960's, came of age in the 1970's, and who are now in their early fifties? Because I recognize this mindset. It's more or less what made me a sexual failure in my first (and only) relationship, decades ago. The thinking is something like: sex is wrong, unless the man does his utmost best to make sure that it is good for the woman. So a man should not follow his own desire, but ask the woman what she wants and make sure that she is okay with what he is doing. Otherwise, he is behaving like a Neanderthal, like the men from previous generations.
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Jan 6 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
BDF @66 Well, the LW is looking for someone to have casual sex with, which goes somewhat further than just "telling someone you find them attractive". The proposed friend may very well have a "oh, so you have just been faking a friendship to get into my pants?" reaction.

I don't know if my friendships are flimsy but I would find it pretty uncomfortable if someone I saw as a friend propositioned me for casual sex.