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Apr 14 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
BDF @104 82% of men want to have a threesome? I see in the NY Post article that the people in the survey were 18-24 year olds, so really young. I wonder what the results would be for older people. FWIW, I'm 53 and I'd rather chew tinfoil than be in any kind of threesome.

Apr 14 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Horny Feminist Seeks Porn That Won't Destroy Her Faith in Humanity.
EL @71
And this is what I mean when I said it's gross (when I think about it) to walk around meeting perfectly fine and normal men in the world and thinking about the fact that they are all jacking off to disturbing and humiliating pornography.

But you have no way to know what the men you meet are jacking off to. Maybe they are jacking off to porn with submisslve men being pegged by dominatrices. Maybe they don't jack off to porn at all, but only to their own vanilla-sex fantasies. Who knows?

I do agree that it is troubling that porn seems to function as a "sex manual" for many (younger) people today. So maybe more porn doesn't lead to more rape but it seems to lead to bad sex.

Mar 14 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
SHHH's letter reads like a female and kink-oriented version of the Madonna-whore complex. The suggestion above to leave out the humiliation from the beatings is good, but might not work if the boyfriend's main kink is the humiliation.
Mar 10 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Lonely Unicorn Looking for London Ladies.
Any way for this woman to get in touch with BiDanFan?
Mar 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
MM @45 Ah! That makes sense.
Mar 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
SNJ-RN @23
She suggested that I [...] have my partner use a "natural skin" condom over a latex condom

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Strange advice. I always hear that using two condoms over each other is a very bad idea because they'll tear more easily. Why not use just a "natural skin" condom instead of a latex condom? (assuming a "natural skin"-condom = a latex-free condom).
Mar 7 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: When Should She Tell Her Date She Wants to Bang?.
BDF @32 Well, the LW did ask a man (Dan) for advice...
Mar 6 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: When Should She Tell Her Date She Wants to Bang?.
She may be ready and she's been waiting for you to make the first moveā€”the move being an ask, WAIT, not a lunge

It seems that Dan is now a proponent of the "ask for verbal consent before doing anything physical or it's sexual assault"-school of thought? If that is indeed the new normal then I'm glad to be "retired from romance", to steal a phrase from mr. Venn.

The various "start making a move" scenarios described by various commenters above (@11, @13) sound much more natural to me. (Start making a move, not lunge; non-verbally asking for consent, so to speak.)
Mar 3 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Longest SLLOTD Ever Posted.
Speaking of classic SLLOTD letter writers, anyone remember "Pretty little hippie"? the original letter and the SL column where the letter was reprinted and the LW joined the comment thread (a thread which went on for 365 comments .... those were the days).