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Jul 17 Registered European commented on Savage Love.
Mr Venn @113
Side note: I am really getting sick of the advertisements here. It makes it difficult to post things coherently, as I have to keep leaving the room.

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Jul 13 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: South Bi South West.
ncn @28 :) Thanks, but there is enough yelling on the internet as it is.
Looking back at it now, my impression is that that comment was an angry "lashing out" because what I said was perceived to be an insult to sex workers (which was not my intention at all).
Jul 13 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: South Bi South West.
BDF @23
RE @13: The idea of having sex with someone who doesn't fancy me is a turn-off.

I once said something like that in a Savage Love comment thread (that one of the unpleasant things about sex with sex workers is that the other person doesn't actually want to have sex with you) to which I got the angry reply You guys are NEVER going to get that feeling of being honestly, sincerely desired for your hot body, except in your dreams. Or with a man.
That hurt.
Jul 12 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: South Bi South West.
BDF @8 Ever considered going for a commercial option?
Jul 10 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Can I Book a Session With My Friend The Sex Worker?.
UF @42
Seems odd, and unfortunate, to me that sex workers would develop contempt for their clients.

A few possible reasons:
Some clients, especially those from more patriarchical cultures, have a low opinion of "whores". After having paid, they feel they can do with them as they please.

Societal opinion says: only a loser will pay for sex, because he has no other options. So a sex worker has to earn a living by having sex with "losers" who are often old enough to be her father or grandfather. And she has to pretend to like it.

The money. Sex work can be a kind of "golden cage": the hourly wage is much more than can be earned in most "normal" jobs. So even if you'd rather stop, actually doing so can be very difficult because of the substantial pay cut you'll have to endure. Many sex workers keep working reluctantly because they got used to the money.
Jul 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Can I Book a Session With My Friend The Sex Worker?.
I have been a client of sex workers for decades and I have been hanging around on forums visited by both clients and sex workers for 14 years. Sex work is legal where I live but it is not socially acceptable, not for the workers and not for the clients. It is a kind of underworld where there is a lot of mutual distrust and contempt between clients and workers. (Not always, but often enough.) I hardly expect things to be better in a society where sex work is actually illegal.

Wishing that it was all a happy-hooker scenario doesn't make it so. LW should tread carefully.
Jul 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Can I Book a Session With My Friend The Sex Worker?.
BDF @21
If you're a sex worker, I'm presuming you're quite used to dealing with requests and conversations most people would find objectionable.

Of course. But because of the tendency of sex workers to keep private life and work strictly separate, she might not appreciate a friend making a "professional" request, even a tame one.
Maybe the LW should first try to find out where his sex worker friend stands on the separation of work and private life before making actual requests.
Jul 9 Registered European commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Can I Book a Session With My Friend The Sex Worker?.
Maybe I am misreading American relationship lingo (wouldn't be the first time) but I interpret We dated very briefly as "we had a brief romantic relationship", not "we had dinner once".

Wrong interpretation?