Sep 16, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Daily Caller
Hi OVERIT - two words: Restraining-fucking order. Seriously. If he's texting and calling you like this, keep those screen shots and VM's, and turn them over to the cops, just like Dan says. This is no bs. I'm scared for you and I hope he fucking knocks it off!!!!!! It's been months, you don't owe him SHIT!
Blessings, and I hope this dude moves the fuck on real quick!
Aug 21, 2013
commented on Savage Love
Hi @21/@22 - I'm glad to hear that you have cut the unhealthy ties to your family; dysfunctional family relationships are more harmful to people than the weight you recently shed (and CONGRATULATIONS for that - it is not easy!).
My parents set the example among our group of 5 siblings, that we are family first and we love each other, no matter what. We don't have to like every single thing about each other, but at the end of the day loving each other comes first.
When I hear about people whose families treat them like dirt for no reason other than they can, my soul just can't understand it.
I know someone who is the youngest of his family, and is disabled and lives with chronic pain and the siblings say shitty things like "you can walk, it's only a little further", never thinking that if he is sweating and pale and about to tip over from pain, maybe he shouldn't be walking!
I think of my own baby bro, and if he were so afflicted, I would be doing EVERYTHING for him, not telling him "suck it up" or "fuck you".
I hope you keep saying "NOPE" until they get the point. I hope you continue to heal. Blessings and peace on you!!
Aug 13, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Exing Out Exes
Hi ADD. If and when you have the conversation about speaking/having contact with your ex, if she reacts in an out-of-control manner (yelling, verbal abuse, unfounded accusations) or takes on body language that makes you fearful, please take the cue and get out. I hate to bring the spectre of violence up, but with control and manipulation, that is unfortunately a distinct possibility.
Good luck to you.
Jul 29, 2013
commented on SLLOTD: Better Off Than Michigan
Dear MM, you might love her, but she does NOT love you. If she can not only treat you so poorly, but a 7 year old, too? She doesn't deserve you. Please get out now (DTMFA!), before YOU get hurt any more than you have been already.
Stop telling yourself it's your fault - just because a person tells you something doesn't make it true. Start asking yourself why YOU deserve to feel so shitty? Answer is, YOU DON'T!!!
You are so concerned about her feelings, and her needs - she has NO consideration for your feelings and needs, however! You are obviously someone who is unselfish and giving - get out before this person rips those traits from you, and find someone who DESERVES all the goodness you have to give!
I had a BF like this in high school, and trust me, I wouldn't piss on him if he were on fire!
Do it soon, and don't look back. No matter how much you love her, you are going to feel relieved when you DTMFA.
Best of luck to you.
Jun 6, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: I'm Gay and Being Bullied By My Hyper-Religious Parents—What Do I Do?
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I always said if my kids were gay/lesbian, I would love them no matter what, and would give them any resource in the world to help them deal with the bigotry and intolerance they would face. they are straight, but I have raised tolerant adults who accept all people for who they are and I'm grateful I was able to manage it.
I will give one piece of advice which I have seen Dan give many times - that if you are being bullied by your parents, physically, emotionally or spiritually, and they won't let up, then tell them what they want to hear until you are able to move out and be financially independent of them. Once you are financially independent, the rest of your freedom will follow. Once you don't live under their roof, and don't rely on financial assistance (tuition, rent, bills, etc.), then come out again. As a full-fledged adult, you are your own person, and nobody has the right to tell you who you are allowed to be. You have 2 more years to fortify yourself while you protect yourself by unfortunately having to lie.
Once you are on your own, you can withhold the one thing they will need from you - your presence in their life. Either they accept you unconditionally and love you no matter what, or you just won't be around. That is hard, for you and them, but unfortunately it may be the only way for them to let go of who they think you should be, and accept who you ARE.
Good luck. Please use the resources Dan and the others have provided in this post and comments.
With much love,
Mom in CA
Apr 25, 2013
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion
I have a question for the LW - when your GF is blowing you, are you giving her obvious verbal encouragement? Such as "ohhhh yeah, suck it baby". "That feels sooooo good, keep going. I don't EVER want this to stop". "Your mouth is like wet velvet around my cock, I can't get enough". If you let her know how much you are into it, that may result in a turn-on for her. It seems to me that if she's only blowing you for 2-3 minutes, maybe she just needs to know you would like her to keep going.
Also, has she expressed any objection to blowing you? This wasn't clear from your letter. If I were you, I would start giving those kind of verbal encouragements. I think many women are givers - if they think you really like something, they will give it to you. And the positive reinforcement of sexy words like the examples above may turn her on, and this may result in more than 2-3 minutes of fellatio, without any kind of drawn out conversation about whether or not she likes doing it.
Something to think about. I hope the two of you can make it work. Good luck (good lick? :-)
Sep 2, 2011
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Sep 2, 2011
joined My Stranger Face
Sep 2, 2011
commented on The Mean Girl Panic Defense
I hope the prosecutors re-think the charges, and re-try him. He's too young to be tried as an adult, but he does need to go to jail (juvenile) for this. He murdered someone, and that is not the answer to harassment, sexual or otherwise.
If I recall, when someone is convicted as a juvenile, they can only be held until they are 25 (this may have changed).
This whole situation is tragic. Just terrible.