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Apr 11 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Safe Play During Moresomes with Strangers.
I'll bet my bottom dollar that he brought the booze with the premeditated intention of using it to remove or inhibit people's ability to say 'no' to him.
Mar 8 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
Yeast infection note: Might also try the next batch of oral sex while using one of those vaginal dams or plastic sheets or whatever is used for totally 'safe' oral sex.

Also be certain that 'yeast infection' is accurate. A urinary tract infection could be the cause of her discomfort instead and you (or she) has the wrong term for it. Not everyone is an expert on these matters. I've used the two terms incorrectly.
Feb 23 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up.
When I filed for divorce seven years ago in the state of Oklahoma, the judges in Tulsa county would not grant a divorce unless both parties consented. Period. One party could object merely on the 'I don't want to get divorced' grounds and the divorce would not be granted. A divorce that was not granted meant that the terms of the temporary separation decree stayed in full force, which in the state of Oklahoma forbid cohabitation and imposed a number of onerous burdens on finances and child care arrangements. If you violated these arrangements, then the other spouse could have you charged with contempt of the temporary decree, and you would lose custody of the kids (and perhaps other penalties as assigned by the judge) for the remainder of the temporary decree. Which could be forever.

I was sitting in the waiting room at one point with three couples who had been attempting to get divorced for 5, 9, and 17 years. I consider myself very lucky that as the breadwinner of my family, I was able to keep my salary to myself during the separation and eventually my spouse went broke. At that point, the only way he could get more money was to accept the terms of the divorce (a 50/50 split). With the greatest of vitriol, he did.

It's all well and nice for Dan to say someone doesn't need their spouse's permission to get divorced, but according to the way many judges enforce the law, you actually do.
Jan 11 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Germaphobe Couldn't Be Into Piss, Right?.
If he is a germaphobe, then it just heightens the intensity of the disrespect he intended by directing others to urinate on that particular bed.
Jan 5 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
I'm not looking for anything all that exotic - vanilla, penis in vagina sex with a man 20-30 years old who is not overweight, doesn't smoke, and whom I can accept or reject without regard to their feelings. (ie, I don't have to protect myself from a potential stalker, rapist, social censure, or random bad-mouthing because I turned them down.) One whom I can dictate condom use without having them complain that they can't get it up or keep it up. One who is capable of orgasm.

In the half dozen or so partners I've had in my life, I've never had the pleasure of having one like that. The live-in boyfriend I have now, and who is more than happy to be sexually available at any time, is 40 pounds overweight. I want, at some point in my life, to have sex with a man I can hug and wrap myself around, someone who doesn't outweigh me by half again or a third. Said boyfriend is fine with the open relationship we have, though having him in my bed has considerably slowed me down on pursuing the dream of, at some point, bedding someone closer to the physical ideal.

If I can afford it, it isn't going to create problems for me, and it's available, then I want to try it.
Jan 5 Gamebird commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Marathon Man & Woman.
I strongly doubt they'll be having marathon sex for five days. A lot of sexual hijinks sound like the coolest thing ever when fantasizing, less intriguing when actually doing it (especially when doing it for the fourth or fifth time).
Jan 5 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
Great! Thanks!
Jan 4 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
@PattyH, 32 - yes, that's the article I read. But it doesn't give me any information about which social media sites currently support escorts. I am wary of contacting non-professionals due to the weeding out process I think I'd have to do with non-professionals. My attempt at getting sex on Fetlife by openly advertising for it netted me thirteen respondents, not a single one of which was willing to meet in a public place. So I figured the next step was to find a professional and pay them, but I've been stymied with not knowing where to find such an individual.
Jan 4 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
@EmmaLiz, 26: About a week to be certain I was feeling effects beyond placebo. With the estrogen, I felt like crap the very first day, the first full day after the first pill, to the point that I thought at first I had coincidentally come down with a flu or similar that would explain the nausea, fatigue, bloat, and lethargy. All the testosterone gave me was the feeling I normally had on a really good day. But then I had that feeling every day, day after day with only slight variation, for as long as I've taken it. It's like instead of having some days where I'm dragging at 10% and others where I'm at the top of my game with 90%, suddenly all my days were 75% or higher.

But, ya know, results may vary, I'm not a doctor, etc. I can only speak to my experience with it.
Jan 4 Gamebird commented on Savage Love.
So now that I've read the article Dan cited on, what's a good, safe way for a woman to go about finding a male escort? I guess I could go back to Fetlife, but all I found there was a bunch of weirdos who wanted to sext me but not actually meet for sex.