commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: How Can I Be a Good Ally to My Abusive Trans Ex?
I kind of have a much less serious version of this problem. I used to know an individual, who was a key member of a group of people I have a bunch of crazy stories about. We're no longer in touch, but a while ago I got a third hand semi-reliable report that this person was transitioning. Maybe. Now I'm wondering if I need to go digging to find out if it's true before I mention anything about those times to anyone.
Feb 6, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Enthusiastic BJs
I think we need recognize that just as someone can have positive or negative attraction to a gender, they can also have neutral attraction - that is, for this guy men can be neither a turn-on nor a turn-off.
Probably, in his head, getting blown by guys feels less like cheating, because he's not really attracted to them and he sees no chance of it becoming a proper affair.