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Jul 16 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Child Rape, Inc.—Still Open For Business!.
At least Francis is on record with some plausible number rather than the sort of 1/5,000 rate implied by previous Church statements about how it was just a few bad apples.

I ponder a "concentration factor" from the general population to the Catholic clergy. You're gay, closeted, and need to hide - you need a reason Mom will accept for why you aren't going to marry (a woman) and knock out a bunch of kids. Not surprisingly, there are many more gays, percentage-wise, in the clergy (and convents) than outside. Maybe 5-fold more? Likewise for pedophiles - where else are you going hide? And might the "concentration" multiplier be even higher? 10-fold? 50-fold? What other marginalized people would choose that particular closet versus being out in society? Cross-dressers? Trans people? I suspect the greater than discrimination in society, the higher fraction go into the Church.

Gone, centuries ago, are the days in which only the Catholic Church offered lodging, food and education - things once quite spotty in secular life - things appealing to mainstream members. Now, it's mostly a respectable closet for tortured souls. We need to eliminate the effectiveness of the church-as-closet: you're a Catholic priest and it is just assumed that, duh, you're gay, a pedophile, a closeted zoophile, etc.
Jul 10 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Nothing to Lose.
A simple explanation: Free cam girls are worth what they charge.

That addresses all of her questions, at least as regards this guy.
Jul 7 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Call the Open Question.
Maybe the girlfriend "brought up her own desire to have sex with other people" to get out of the relationship, but it gave him a boner. So she dropped that ruse.

Or, more charitably, a person can be very positive on a topic until their partner is even more excited about it. Then the first person typically drops back to neutral or negative on the topic. Almost anyone goes into open relationships with some trepidation and with the unconscious fear that two affirming people - no one being cautious or hesitant - will go scary fast and far.

The way to get what you want is to appear neutral about the outcome. The way to be happy with the outcome is to BE neutral.
Jul 3 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Smoke Her Out.
In case anyone else wondered the gender imbalance among 420Singles, I checked a tight range around my age and found 38 women seeking men and 149 men seeking women. So if he's in the top quartile of desirability among male potheads, he's golden.
Jul 3 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Smoke Her Out.
She doesn't want sex, is down on recreational drugs, and likes to demonize anyone who makes different choices?

She ought to hook up with a garden-variety, closet-case evangelical preacher. Minimal sex (with the wife), decrying drug use in others, pro-abstainance (with the wife), reproductive-health issues - it could be one of long-term stable, one-man/one-woman marriages that are so important for raising a dog. And profoundly unhappy for the humans involved.
Jul 2 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Crossword Spoiler Alert.
I'm going with "Michael" seeing as how he said that the motivation for female students who come from a private school to feed and provide services to the homeless is so they "can go in and get raped by them, because they seem to like the excitement of it...". An evil sex columnist, sure, but a sex columnist nonetheless.
Jun 16 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Youth Pastor Watch.
I love the passive voice, "I pleaded guilty to 2 felonies, am serving time in prison and will be a registered sex offender"

Not "I COMMITTED (more than?) two felonies*." or "I AM a sex offender and will always be labelled as such."

* You can't plead guilty to anything without swearing an oath (presumably with "so help me God") stating that you REALLY are guilty and not doing so for any other reason.
Jun 13 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Just Out.
He can go online, picking that 20% that seems like a theoretical match and strike up an email conversation. And one in every 10 people he connects with online might be worth a second date, once they meet IRL.

Or he can meet gay people in the real world (bars, sports, work), and 90% or higher will be discarded by glancing across the room. Then he's got to have a real-world conversation to weed out 3/4 of the ones who struck his fancy.

It's a sorting process. Only 1-2% of the gay guys out there are possible, compatible matches for him (true for any orientation). He can do his primary sorting online (and follow up in person) or he can do it in person (and followup on the first date or two). In person goes a LOT faster. You can discard people with a glance. But, yeah, that means the bar scene, or meet&greets of some sort.
Jun 12 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Fuck Off, Texas.
@45>"Did you know that the Texas Democrats don't run candidates for every ballot? They don't even bother to put candidates on the ballot for every county-level race, much less the district-level state offices in a lot of precincts."

I'll see your Texas and raise you an Alaska. The trick here is to throw up a Dem on every single race. Some (the rural-urban divide is reversed here) are naturally democratic. But for Governor and last time for US Senator (Stevens-Begich), sometimes the Rep nominee implodes between the primary and general election. There was one race for governor in which the Republican party itself was telling people not to vote for their nominee (the federal charges had already been filed) but to write in a different Republican. Dem Tony Knowles get the Governorship once that way.

It's tough to run and get 35-40% of the vote. But there's a 5-10% chance the organized-crime racketeer / campaign-finance felon / gay closet case / etc will get revealed between August and November. Then the Dem has a chance in the general election.
Jun 12 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: You Are Just the Sweetest Thing....
Yeah, have more sex sooner. But SAFE sex - barrier methods WHATEVER he says to the contrary and ESPECIALLY if he says anything to the contrary. No, actually, if he doesn't insist on using a condom for any sex (beyond hand jobs, maybe oral); DTMFA right there and then. And safe sex after meeting online includes a public meeting place, an exit plan, notifying others, notifying him that you've notified others, etc. I'd suggest building in an in-person reality check with a friend. Plan lunch or dinner for 4:30-6 pm, say, with your friend to meet you at the restaurant BEFORE you leave. You excuse yourself and they interrogate you about what you know, what you don't know, how you are feeling about it all, etc. And they are ready to be your wingman and give the guy your regrets (in that public place), if you need to pull the plug.

Is the LW a 16-year-old girl or a 22-year-old recently uncloseted gay guy? Wherever the naivety is coming from, please review Dan's "campsite rule" which details his responsibilities. If he's not acting like that, drop him. A man nominally "traveling on business" sounds like late 20s or older. Possibly in a relationship at home. Possibly married. Are you sure you have his real name, real-world contact info, employer? If not, you need that. If not given freely, drop him. Once you have that info, do your basic pre-date google searches to confirm home address, martial status (search wedding announcements), FB persona, that his photo is 3 years old and not 15 years old, sex offender lists, etc.

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