this guy I know in Spokane
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Jan 17 this guy I know in Spokane commented on Seahawks Season Goes Careening Off The Road In Atlanta, Is Now Over.
@11 - you mean like the name of that guy from "Guns And Roses"? ;-p
Jan 17 this guy I know in Spokane commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Lifelong Straight Guy Wants To Recreate Magical Gay Sex He Once Had With Smooth Guy Whose Queeny Ways Appealed to Him.
@30 etc. --- "What you don't seem to realize, though, is that society's expectations of gay men is that they are feminine. "

As a naturally masculine (I guess) gay man, I see your point. Ever since I first came out (in 1982 - dear god), I've gotten "but you don't seem gay at all" on a regular basis, from people who have gotten to know me but didn't know I was gay. In that sense, I feel like I've done a bit of mind-opening over the years.

HOWEVER.

Just going around being who I am doesn't increase my chance of getting my ass kicked by total strangers. My homophobic-by-default family didn't confront me when I was a teenager and ask me what was wrong with me. I took care to hide my sexuality, but didn't have to alter my nonsexual behavior much, if at all, to avoid suspicion. Just being myself takes a lot less courage on a day-to-day basis thanks to my naturally "masculine" demeanor than it would if I were effeminate: the most I'm risking is that some devout Christian at work might not want to be friends with me any more. In other words, simply being my natural self might help break down stereotypes in other people's minds, but it is not an act of "rebellion" in the sense that @9 meant.
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Jan 16 this guy I know in Spokane commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Lifelong Straight Guy Wants To Recreate Magical Gay Sex He Once Had With Smooth Guy Whose Queeny Ways Appealed to Him.
@9 - every time I read something else by you, I like you (your writing, that is) more & more. Please keep contributing.
Jan 15 this guy I know in Spokane commented on Seattle Congresswoman Pramila Jayapal Won't Be Attending the Inauguration.
@8 - political fantasies don't usually give me a boner, but that one sure did :-)
Jan 14 this guy I know in Spokane commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Stamping Out "Just My Preference" Gays.
@97 - the schoolyard "fight" chant caught me totally off guard. I'd forgotten all about that, but... I know the second half of it! What's the word for when it's like nostalgia but horrible?
Jan 13 this guy I know in Spokane commented on Every Person You Know Is STILL Sick as Washington State Faces Flu Epidemic.
At the hospital where I work, we have apparently started taking flu patients from the west side because all y'all's hospitals are full (the number I was told was 50% of all patients currently in the hospital over there are flu patients). Apparently this year's flu shot is pretty effective against this year's flu virus.

That's what I've heard, anyway. I dunno. That's what people are telling me.
Jan 13 this guy I know in Spokane commented on Attorney General Cracks Down on Landlords Who Ban Felons, Citing Disproportionate Impact on Black Renters.
@1 - agree. Some bullshit marijuana charge from back in the day, vs repeated aggravated assaults on apartment neighbors from a few months ago. Not the same thing.
Jan 13 this guy I know in Spokane commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Tsunamis, Dream Jobs, and Other Reasons Not To End a Relationship Prematurely.
@2 - I think you have to phrase your question in terms of sex & relationships. E.g. "I just started dating this amazingly hot stockbroker. The sex is amazing and we really click. Now she wants to invest my money for me, but I'm not sure if I should just let her peg me instead. What do you think?"
Jan 4 this guy I know in Spokane commented on We Still Get Great Comments (From Great Commenters) Here On Slog.
Something that would be a welcome addition to the Slog comment system would be a "block user" option. My local paper uses Disqus for comments on blog posts by staff writers, and Facebook comments for regular articles; with both, the individual reader can block all comments from any individual commenter. You don't have to report them or anything --- you just don't see their posts any more. I've done it to 3 or 4 people, and it makes life a lot pleasanter.