Aug 25, 2012 Beguine commented on Dream of the Fisherwoman's Husband.
@10- I don't know where you work, but where I work nekkid women making out with cephalopods are also considered NSFW.
Aug 4, 2012 Beguine commented on The Saturday Morning News.
@39: Why should they have to clamor publicly for respect in the first place? What does their health have to do with whether or not they deserve respect? I'm in health care, and believe me I'm aware that we're getting more type II diabetes, for example, in much younger patients. BUT I think all my patients deserve my respect, not just the ones that acquired their disease through morally sanctioned channels. My point was that there's a difference between the health risks of obesity and the cultural factors that come into play in regards to publicly acceptable bullying of fat people. You want to talk about doing something about increasing obesity and obesity related diseases? Let's talk about increasing high quality food in poor areas, incentivizing exercise and employer support for time to exercise, mandatory calorie postings in restaurants and encouraging restaurants and food producers to cut back on preportioned sizes. Let's talk about the cheap low quality high calorie crap that goes into publicly funded school lunches. Let's talk about what structures and approaches support and incentivize long-term dietary changes. Let's talk about studies to figure out which interventions work, and which don't. In other words, let's talk about this like an actual public health crisis and not an affront to puritanical values. You want to sniff at other people and say 'well, I just don't think they're trying to be HEALTHY," and you're just looking for an excuse to feel better about yourself by looking down on someone else.
Aug 4, 2012 Beguine commented on The Saturday Morning News.
@6: We can distinguish between not healthy and not okay. Adults are allowed to take risks with their own health, and sometimes circumstances force them to do so. It's important that everyone has access to healthy, nutriant dense food and a way to get regular aerobic and stength-training exercise. It's also important to make sure that people are aware of, for example, how many calories they're consuming vs. how many need and how much they should be exercising.

Judgement and cruelty, however, are counter-productive. Weight gain shouldn't be treated as some sort of moral failing. First off, you don't know why the person is overweight; you can't tell by looking if it's a medication side effect, or if they don't have easy access to healthy food, or if they're horribly clinically depressed, or if they've successfully adopted a healthier life style and lost some but not all of the extra weight. Even if it's simply a result of unhealthy eating habits, as others have pointed out there's plent of unhealthy habits that don't show so easily (including a poor diet if you happen to have a fast metabolism), and people shouldn't get a pass on sneering at people because of how they look in a bathing suit under the pretense of lecturing them about their health.
Aug 3, 2012 Beguine commented on Pro-Pit-Bull Activists Win!.
@7: In particular I would be surprised to see a male activist being told he's 'too old and ugly' to be politically active, though some of the other comments might have been levied against a man in her shoes. I agree that the internet breeds vitriol in general, but I do think people seem to think they have permission to let their id do the typing even more when the target is a woman.
Aug 3, 2012 Beguine commented on SL Letter of the Day: 50 Shades of Grey Syndrome.
It sounds like you guy really need to work on your emotional dynamics now that the stress of high intensity child-rearing is over. The resentment of your wife just OOZED out of your letter (she's manipulative, crazy emotional, etc.). Considering the comments you mention from her about you being a perv or the complaint that you don't measure up to an erotic fantasy character, I'm guessing that's a two way street. You didn't have a single positive thing to say about her or the relationship. Maybe this letter was written in the heat of the moment, but if it reflects how you really feel about each other than you have a problem that extends beyond your sexual connection. You may still love each other, but if you like each other I couldn't tell from what you wrote.

In parallel to the relationship counseling and figuring out what you want from each other sexually, I'd work on finding non-sexual activities you enjoy together (travel? cooking or dining out? sporting events or concerts?) and renewing that side of your bond as well. Basically, you need to start dating/hanging out for fun again. It's going to be a lot easier to navigate figuring out the terms on which you're going to interact sexually if you're each negotiating with a friend rather than the bitter enemy you've tolerated for the last twenty years.
Jul 17, 2012 Beguine commented on Every Child Deserves a Mother and a Father.
@15: Actually, studies say kids from lesbian households do best of all in terms of emotional stability, etc. If we're trying to send kids to ideal households, we should favor those that have doubled down on the mommies over those who have mix and match genitalia. Besides, how does keeping kids with parents like these seem better than letting them be legally adopted by someone like Terry and Dan? The fact is, there are more kids than there are stable loving homes full stop, leaving aside only recognizing families with two parents of the opposite sex. Would you really say these opposite sex parents deserve more legal recognition as a family than a loving gay couple who provide a stable home for their children, or that it would be better for this girl to go back to her psycho stepmom and dad rather than being placed with a lesbian couple with who are raising other happy, well adjusted kids?
Jul 3, 2012 Beguine commented on SL Letter of the Day: Tabasco Surprise!.
So first you need to go on a hike and find a smooth rock...
Jun 5, 2012 Beguine commented on Brave Republican Blogger Uncovers Secret Obama Plot to Give White Kids Asthma.
@1 Yup. Poverty also increases the chances kids are exposed to mouse droppings, mold, and most especially second hand smoke, all factors that can exacerbate asthmatic symptoms.
Jun 5, 2012 Beguine commented on SL Letter of the Day: She Wasn't Fine—And You Knew It.
If she was talking about how dirty and wrong SHE FELT, rather than how dirty and wrong IT WAS, then she doesn't even owe him an apology for that. She should consider DTMFA.
May 14, 2012 Beguine commented on Uh, Marijuana Is Never Harmful?.
"...and it's pretty close to it's natural state in terms of processing, unlike, say, hash. similar to opium versus heroin. or coca leaves versus cocaine." Apologies if I'm failing a sarcasm detection roll here, @23, but last time I checked opium and coca were both still drugs.