commented on SL Letter of the Day: In The Neighborhood
Letter aside, I've realized something. I really don't mind these reruns for SLLOTD, but it'd be nice if there was at least a handful of comments from the original thread that Dan thought were also solid advice to at least create a new discussion. The only thing that might be better is an actual followup from the original LW.
A simple repost of the letter and response is just lazy, especially when it's a letter recent enough for readers to remember reading it. But lazy seems to be The Stranger's MO these days.
commented on Why Our City Should Embrace Passive Aggressiveness
A person who puts their bag on the adjacent seat? Asshole.
The person who chooses to write the equivalent of an angsty teen's bitchy Tumblr post about it for the paper they work for rather than asking the previous asshole to simply move their bag so someone can sit there? Also an asshole.
I guess we're just a city of assholes now.
commented on The NIMBY, Part One: Why a Sense of Community for Homeowners Is the Same as Prostitution
The headline alone reeks of clickbait nonsense and tells me that this isn't worth reading.
The fact that it's a Mudede piece only confirms that it's not worth reading.
Prostitution is the only thing that's the same as prostitution. People (primarily women) who are so desperate for money that they sell their bodies (or, more likely, have other people selling their bodies for them) for sex has absolutely nothing to do with owning a fucking home or being part of a community. Fuck you for diminishing the pain and struggles that so many go through just to make ends meet.
Oh Stranger. You've lost so many talented writers over the past few years and have failed to attract suitable substitutes, yet you keep Mudede on staff after all this time. I've gone from checking Slog multiple times a day to maybe once a week.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Meat the Wife
So let me get this straight. SHE decided to be a stay-at-home mom, forcing CLAP to work 70-hour weeks. SHE decided because of the reduced time spent together that CLAP "didn't love her anymore and that the marriage was over." SHE "decided to start responding to ads on CL" and expose CLAP to risk of STIs without his knowledge. But when the issue of opening up the marriage is broached, SHE gets insecure and denies CLAP the ability to get his needs met in order to salvage the marriage?
Fuck. That. She's already forced you into the same insecurity she's afraid of. She's continuing to betray you by expecting you to live your life without sexual pleasure. And I'm willing to bet dollars to donuts that she will cheat on you again. You haven't been sexually assaulted, but you have been emotionally abused by this garbage can of a human being who chose to use sex as her means of abusing you.
The marriage is over. Don't stay together for the kids. They deserve to grow up seeing what an *actual* happy, healthy relationship looks like, and you can give them that (while she probably ends up repeatedly cheating on the next dude unfortunate enough to end up with her). Start talking to a divorce lawyer. Hope for the best, but plan for the worst. This woman is a vile, manipulative piece of shit, and you would do well to cut her out of your life.
commented on Ten Pregrets for 2016
If the past 5 years have been any indication, one should ALWAYS wait for the full Block Party lineup to be announced first.
Nov 22, 2015
commented on I, Anonymous
Sounds like a transplant to me. Sorry it took you another 30 seconds to get to Amazon.
Oct 15, 2015
commented on Why Do Bands Break Up?
Was this article really necessary? To me, it read like the author wanted to plug a bunch of defunct bands that he liked but never went anywhere for totally valid reasons.
Whatever the case, being in a band is hard work. It's always been hard work. Most of these bands broke up because they either didn't have the drive to succeed, they weren't good enough to draw (despite the author's insistence otherwise), life changes, or because of personal differences. Some no-name band got a bunch of radio airplay? All that tells me is that someone in the band knew a couple of DJs at those stations, especially since nobody showed up for their shows. Your bandmates were assholes? Kick them out and get some new ones or ditch the band and start fresh.
The only interesting point brought up in the article itself is Seattle's relative geographic isolation. I've seen countless tours skip Seattle because the only other "big" cities to play up this way are Vancouver and Portland. That's a lot of time and money to blow on a crowd that won't even make up for the gas costs. Same goes for Seattle bands traveling elsewhere. It's hard to make sense of spending more money than what you'll make. But you travel, you build relationships, and next time you won't need to stay in a motel because you'll have friends there whose floor you can crash on, you won't need to pay for dinner because the bar manager liked you and hooked you up with a meal.
If you love playing music, you'll find a way to make it work. If you love listening to music (and don't have small children), you'll find a way to support local bands. I went to a show on Tuesday and had a blast. Was I hungover as fuck on Wednesday? You bet! Was it worth it? Totally.