May 6, 2015
commented on Florida Couple Faces Jail Time, Lifetime on Sex-Offender Registry, for Having Sex on a Beach
This can't be real. Can it? I mean, really, it can't. I mean, these are the same folks pressing to ban Sharia Law, yet they're the ones enforcing Sharia Law. Can't we get some right-wing nutso to defend them on those grounds? I mean, where's Rand Paul on the issue? I can't wait until he's asked.
"Seriously" though, I saw this late, and hope there's an uproar. Dan, any chance you can post the contact information of the people to whom we'd like to vent our rage? Thanks.
Apr 28, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Sail Away
When I was in my 20s I was a basket-case. Ok, not a certifiable basket-case, but I had lots of emotional baggage that I didn't even realize needing unpacking. So though I could get women into bed with me, sex -or the prospects of sex, the post sex- left me in all sorts of emotional wreck . I'm going out on a limb here, but for a significant part of the American population, childhood and adolescence results in substantial emotional baggage, and not nearly enough people get the counseling that they need.
Or you could take #3 scientific angel.
Regardless, one thing that kills a boner in the long-term is panicking about no boner in the immediate term. As Dan said, don't fret it, take a break, give a boy time to breathe, and that boner will probably appear. And if it doesn't, it was never meant to be...
Jan 21, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Closure
@23 She wrote Dan, an advice columnist, his advise on this matter (which I think is sound). His column has comments, he told her to avoid the comments. But if she didn't want people's opinion on it, she wouldn't have asked it.
Sometimes, when you have an experience, you tell other people -friends, strangers- about that experience to get their perspective. Some people on comment boards are callous, but honestly these comments aren't that callous.If
she didn't want advice/perspective, she wouldn't've asked Dan. If she doesn't want to see other people's perspective, she won't read the comments.
Personally, I really appreciate when LW read the comments and respond, cause despite the trolls, I think they're more helpful ultimately than harmful.
And I hope this woman gets the help she seeks and serves.
Nov 26, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Profile & Courage
Larsadin, are you still reading? Cause I have something really important to tell you. As a fellow poly guy trying to date in the greater Seattle area, I urge you: STOP IMMEDIATELY! There's no way girls are going to date me with you as competition.
With that in mind, let me also suggest you keep the profile pic, as it's kinda boring. Folks on these sites judge people pretty quickly by their profile pic, so the boringer the better, at least for me.
Also, it's best that you tell, not show. Better not display your wit, humor, personality as
again, better that women don't find that you're interesting at all, cause in case they don't find your pic boring and actually look at your profile.
Finally, the dog is a drawback. Chicks dig dogs, and it shows you're compassionate. How about a pic of you playing video games or watching sports?
The best option for you to puruse polydom is move to Portland. Lots of interesting, hot chicks there who don't care if you're married or not.
But if you insist on staying in the area and being poly, maybe we could work out a deal. There's a "Seattle Poly Professionals" group on Meetup; join them and the women you meet who don't do it for you, bring them to the group. I can be your remora and it could be a win-win situation for all.