commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Ex Files
Wait, am I the only one here who not only disagrees with comment #1, but also that Dan gave horrible, heartless advice in the first place? (Dan, you're usually spot on, but I thought this time... Ug. Advise fail. )
Miscarriage is a pretty traumatic experience -even if the woman doesn't know she's pregnant. Rush of hormones? Yep. Life flashing before your eyes as an almost unexpected mother? Damn right. Grief? That too. And everyone grieves differently. Her grief includes talking to you about it. Want to be a nice guy (and you should be lauded for wanting to be the nice guy) then suck it up and be there for her. After all, you almost fathered her child (regardless of whether she would've had an abortion, which is often traumatizing as well). The least you can do is listen and help her grieve.
commented on SeaTac Mayor Invites Bundy Sympathizer from Spokane Valley to Advocate Against Taking Free Money for a Park
Please Please Please Tell me Shea accepted an all-expenses paid trip -first class flight from Spokane, a suite in SeaTac's finest hotels, five star meal from SeaTac's finest eating establishment- all paid for by the City of SeaTac, aka The Government. Did he? Did he? Did he? Cause no fool, especially anti-government legislator fools from eastern Washington, pass up a free meal paid for by the government, cause there's nothing worse than the government! And hey, Shea's also white and not poor, so such expenses are justified, right?
Point being: this sort of extremist rhetoric is best seeped in strong hypocrisy.Can't wait to watch him get exposed!
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Licensed Massage Practitioner Takes License
Aren't there other LMP readers here?
Can't a fellow professional chime in with their two cents?
Cause my gut is screaming "EEEWWWW!!!!"
His actions -second visit, alone in the clinic (???) were predatory. I've seen porn videos of nearly the same thing, but that's porn.
Also, just for the record; I like to have sex with women, and I like giving massages. Even when I'm massaging a girl I'm seeing at the time, I'm actually giving a massage. I know where that line is, and I'm so focused on the massage, I forget that this girl actually likes it when I touch her erotically.
He knows where the line is and he crossed it.
commented on Savage Love
I have an idea to screen the pyschos from the dating pool: an app where you rate dates, like a cross of Tinder and Yelp.
Examples: "Bob is a nice guy and fun in the sack" and "Sally is who she says she is, and lots of fun", and finally: "Brian is a complete douchebag with probable undiagnosed mental illness. I feared for my life"
Seriously, I'm a guy and I too want to know the women I date are not psycho, and I really like women I'm dating know that I'm not psycho.
Someone do this now!
Nov 5, 2015
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Not a Rescue
Dude, I admire your ability to recognize someone in trouble and your intent in helping her out (that's yes, be a homewrecker... actually you won't be wrecking homes at all so don't worry about it) but be aware what you're getting into. There are lots of services out there for young adults (huge caveat: Depending on where you are) but knowing them, contacting them, and navigating them aren't always easy. Best of luck and hope you keep us updated.