Jan 6, 2015 Gus commented on SL Letter of the Day: Basic Bastards.
I'm as feminist as the next guy, but this chick sounds crazy impossible to please.
Jan 2, 2015 Gus commented on I, Anonymous.
On the off chance this happened as the douchenozzle who wrote in described (multiple dates, and an actual boyfriend rather than bumping into some other guy she was also casually seeing), then she really should have mentioned being poly before then.

Even in this case, he's still a misogynistic douchenozzle.

Dec 9, 2014 Gus commented on SL Letter of the Day: Accidental Discovery.
I think the LW has to ask herself how many times her brother traumatized her during childhood, and whether she wants revenge.

Printing out some screenshots and mailing them to her brother (perhaps at work) would certainly do the trick. Or maybe leave one in their mailbox at home -- don't mail it, make sure they know that whoever found this not only knows where they live, but has been there. Then start calling from a pay phone, and just breathing.

Or a nice note claiming to be from Mom, who found it, recognized it, and doesn't want to invade their privacy so she won't ever speak to them about it again, but she's worried other people might recognize them.

Or just shut up and mind your own business.

But there is the opportunity for epic revenge, of a level of cruelty that usually only children can manage.
Dec 8, 2014 Gus commented on Marky Mark Wants His Felony Assault Conviction Wipey Wiped.
I don't know, the last movie I saw him in was filled with him referring to an Irish man as "Lucky Charms."

Are we sure he doesn't refer to people by cereal based bigoted slurs all the time in real life? Froot Loops, Cocoa Puffs, Cheerios...

Best to leave his conviction in place, just to be on the safe side. He did screw up several people's lives, after all. And that's just the cumulative agony of people who watched that Transformers movie. What about the people he physically maimed?
Nov 13, 2014 Gus commented on Nine Employees Speak Out in Defense of Paseo Owners as Restaurant Files for Bankruptcy.
I'm a little baffled as to how they went out of business with the sheer number of sandwiches they sold. Was this one of those "We lose a little bit on each sale, but we make it up in volume" scenarios?

I hope the workers find good jobs soon. They made great food, and they were always working their asses off.

Nov 4, 2014 Gus commented on The Bowler Hat Is the New Fedora.
Also, you can definitely add a derby or bowler to a slovenly set of clothes and make it look great. Tom Waits does it.

Or it there an exception for people who have a name that is a sentence?
Nov 4, 2014 Gus commented on The Bowler Hat Is the New Fedora.
I really wish the unsavory people would leave my hats alone. I had to switch from a very nice diamond-top pork pie to a derby, because the pork pie looked too fedora-y, and I don't want to give up the derby.

Derbies are great. They were the most popular hat in the 1880s west, revisionist movies with their silly cowboy hats be damned. They are a good, solid, working class hat.

I'm not short, I'm not bald, I just want something to keep the rain off my head. I don't mind that people think I'm ridiculously pretentious with my affectations, I just don't want them thinking I'm a libertarian or a member of the he-man woman hater's club.
Nov 2, 2014 Gus commented on Comic.
It's funny because she got away with murder in the 3rd grade, and didn't even realize someone else was convicted of the crime?
Oct 20, 2014 Gus commented on SL Letter of the Day: Another Polyproblema.
This, and poor social skills, are why I will never go poly/non-monagamous-because-somehow-there-is-a-difference -- I hate drama, and this sounds like some of the stupidest shit ever.

But, LW, your feelings are valid! Don't let naysayers make you give up on the polypile of your dreams. You go guy! You need to express yourself and not let these people hold you back. If your boyfriend won't commit to sleeping with the proper number of other people, then you dump his ass and find someome who will!

God, what fucking stupid drama. But, seriously, LW, you want different things from your poliness/non-exclusivity and its going to make both of you miserable.

But, oh, the stupid fucking drama. All the stupid drama about fucking. Probably some stupid fucking too. And drama about the stupid fucking...
Oct 14, 2014 Gus commented on SL Letter of the Day: My New Girlfriend's Sister Is Dying.
I wouldn't go unless I had somewhere else to stay, and the general expectation that I would be spending the night there. Maybe even a list of museums and things that I want to see, which are carefully chosen to not be "going out seeing awesome things while she's suffering" while also not being "sitting around and waiting to be entertained or a burden."

The girlfriend is going to want support at some times, and distance at others, and to not feel responsible for anyone else's happiness. People don't respond rationally during these times, and they don't respond how they think they will. The entire situation is fraught with danger, and coming could make it less miserable or much worse -- Eesh.