Mar 22, 2011
Tom Winter commented on Times Paywall: What He Said.
@9 - The difference with cell phones and airline tickets is that those industries don't offer many alternatives to complex pricing. I shopped for a new cell phone recently and didn't find anything that seemed simple -even in the pay-as-you-go phones. I think people do like simple airline pricing when discount airlines offer it, but the discount airlines don't fly everywhere people need to go. For example, if I want to visit my parents I have to fly United or Delta and deal with their bullshit because those are the only airlines that fly from here to there.
There are thousands of sources for news on the internet and most of them are free. I do think the NYT is better than most of the competition, but you need to be MUCH better and simple to compete with free.
There are thousands of sources for news on the internet and most of them are free. I do think the NYT is better than most of the competition, but you need to be MUCH better and simple to compete with free.
Dec 15, 2010
Tom Winter commented on Savage Love.
My local art store sells 50lb boxes of clay for $22.50 and I've seen clay for as little as $15 for a 50lb box, so $50 worth of clay could have been 100lb or more.
And you definitely don't want to send that much clay down a regular household drain. That leads to nasty nasty plumbing problems.
And you definitely don't want to send that much clay down a regular household drain. That leads to nasty nasty plumbing problems.
Nov 18, 2010
Tom Winter commented on SL Letter of the Day: Nuts and Chews.
I'm monkey reversed. I like nuts in brownies and cookies, but I hate chunky peanut butter. I'm also versatile.
Oct 8, 2010
Tom Winter commented on SL Letter of the Day: Don't Listen To Your Mother.
Threeways are a good idea. And is there a lesbian equivalent to a bathhouse?
Sep 1, 2010
Tom Winter commented on SL Letter of the Day: Ex'd Out.
I'm with Lynx.
There's got to be some real separation and distance after a breakup. No living together, no hanging out, no asking about the ex's sex life. Some people can be friends again after some time apart and some people can't, but the time apart is crucial to let both parties move along and heal.
There's got to be some real separation and distance after a breakup. No living together, no hanging out, no asking about the ex's sex life. Some people can be friends again after some time apart and some people can't, but the time apart is crucial to let both parties move along and heal.
Aug 31, 2010
Tom Winter commented on Omaha World-Herald Update.
"Why would couples in Massachusetts and Iowa be looking to advertise their marriages in Nebraska?"
Look at a map. Omaha is directly on the Nebraska-Iowa border. The Omaha World-Herald is the big regional paper for western Iowa and there are plenty of people who live across the border in Iowa and commute to work in Omaha. Iowa doesn't have a residency requirement, and gay Nebraskans looking to marry can and do just drive ten minutes to Council Bluffs, IA. They are saying that they will print announcements of Nebraskans who get married across the river in Iowa.
Look at a map. Omaha is directly on the Nebraska-Iowa border. The Omaha World-Herald is the big regional paper for western Iowa and there are plenty of people who live across the border in Iowa and commute to work in Omaha. Iowa doesn't have a residency requirement, and gay Nebraskans looking to marry can and do just drive ten minutes to Council Bluffs, IA. They are saying that they will print announcements of Nebraskans who get married across the river in Iowa.
Aug 31, 2010
Tom Winter commented on Omaha World-Herald Update.
This is great news. Don't forget that Omaha is on the Iowa-Nebraska border. It's not hard for gay folks in Omaha to drive across the bridge and get married.
Aug 24, 2010
Tom Winter commented on SL Letter of the Day: Sounds Like the Beginning of a Beautiful Friendship.
Understand that the age difference is seriously working against you here: it's entirely likely that he was brought up in an environment where it was drilled into him that "nice" girls don't really want this sort of thing, and it's not at all impossible that he's starting to hit the male middle-aged sex drive decline. You're quite likely going to have to drag him kicking and screaming into the 21st century: expect to have to employ teaching aids and possibly some viagra.
I have to disagree with this. 40 is not that old if you're making even half an effort at eating right and getting a bit of exercise. I'm 39, just a year younger than this guy she's dating. I'm having more sex, better sex, and far kinkier sex at 39 than I did at 29, and 29 was still way better than my barely existing sex life at 19 which was super-duper extra vanilla.
What happened? I've got a partner (going on 3.5 years together) who's a great match in the sack and hornier and kinkier than anyone else I've ever been with. I'm not a hardcore kinkster, but I ramped it up considerably (light bondage, role-plays, talking dirty, sex toys, sex outdoors, visits to sex clubs, and a bit of non-monogamy) at the ripe old age of 37 and I've been loving every minute of it.
This is a bad match, not an age problem.
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I have to disagree with this. 40 is not that old if you're making even half an effort at eating right and getting a bit of exercise. I'm 39, just a year younger than this guy she's dating. I'm having more sex, better sex, and far kinkier sex at 39 than I did at 29, and 29 was still way better than my barely existing sex life at 19 which was super-duper extra vanilla.
What happened? I've got a partner (going on 3.5 years together) who's a great match in the sack and hornier and kinkier than anyone else I've ever been with. I'm not a hardcore kinkster, but I ramped it up considerably (light bondage, role-plays, talking dirty, sex toys, sex outdoors, visits to sex clubs, and a bit of non-monogamy) at the ripe old age of 37 and I've been loving every minute of it.
This is a bad match, not an age problem.
Dec 18, 2009
Tom Winter commented on SL Letter of the Day: There Are Enough Flakes and Liars Online Already.
@51 - I don't want to be mean, but I think the problem was your approach not the online dating sites. It sounds like you were trying to literally "date online" as opposed to using the internet to find people to date in the real world.
I had great success using online sites, but I never bothered with people who live more than an hour or so from my house because those people are just not realistic prospects for dating in the real world. And anyone who seemed interesting after a couple of messages was invited to meet for a beer or a coffee - that's a great fake/flake filter, someone who won't agree to meet you for a cup of coffee is not serious, so you move on.
I had great success using online sites, but I never bothered with people who live more than an hour or so from my house because those people are just not realistic prospects for dating in the real world. And anyone who seemed interesting after a couple of messages was invited to meet for a beer or a coffee - that's a great fake/flake filter, someone who won't agree to meet you for a cup of coffee is not serious, so you move on.
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The second letter writer might also want to reevaluate her attitude to exes in general. There is this notion in the culture that it's somehow good or noble to be friends with all of your exes. It's nice when it works out that way, but often it doesn't. And if being friends after the break-up doesn't come naturally then both parties should just walk away and not try to force it. Don't forget, they call it a break-up because it's broken!