commented on SL Letter of the Day: Closed Door Etiquette
Sounds very hot, actually, except for the gag. I have suffocation fears (and don't breathe out of my nose very well). No way I'd let someone gag me even if they were with me the whole time. The rest, though, is hot. I'd find it difficult to just leave the room without at least taking the opportunity to touch him here and there. I'd even consider letting someone do that to me if they really, really, really wanted to -- but without the gag.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Skip the Scum
@1 - Of course they treated you like a princess. That's a big part of the problem.
I realize that every relationship is different. I know of a May/December gay romance where the younger guy had to be the mature one to make sure their bills were paid (with the older guy's money, of course, but the older guy was too busy wanting to snort coke and fuck younger guys to bother with acting like an adult). But the vast major of 40+ with <25 romances I've seen, the older guy spoils and infantilizes the younger guy and treats him like arm candy, a trophy wife.
I'm 45. Yeah, I'm totally attracted to younger guys in their early 20s. I tip the cute ones when they go-go dance. But they are not relationship material, not for me. We're in totally different places in our lives. No matter how mature for his age he might be, or how midlife-crisisy I can sometimes get, we're just not long term compatible. Great as friends, even as a casual affair, but there's no long term potential with such an age gap. +/- 10 years seems about right.
commented on Frothy Mix 2016
Republicans don't nominate failed VP candidates, at least not historically. (Sorry, Ron Paul, history is not on your side.) They tend, in modern history, to nominate whomever came in second the primary before. Ronald Reagan lost the nomination to Gerald Ford in 1976, but won it in 1980. George H.W. Bush came in second in 1980 and, after serving as VP for 8 years, won the nomination in 1988, beating Bob Dole who came in second. Bob Dole won the nomination in 1996, the next election without an incumbent. Although Pat Buchanan came in a very distant second in 1996, he dropped out before the first primary in 2000, clearing the way for an outsider, George W. Bush, to beat McCain -- who then went on to get the nomination in 2008, beating Mitt Romney, who then got the nomination in 2012.
So if history is any indicator, Rick Santorum is the frontrunner.
Of course, these trends are predictors only until they're not. No President had ever previously served in the Cabinet ... until Thomas Jefferson. No U.S. Senator had ever been elected President ... until Monroe. No President became married while serving as President ... until John Tyler. No President was ever elected without first serving in Congress or the Continental Congress ... until Zachary Taylor.
So while modern history suggests that Santorum will get the nomination, I strongly suspect this is another example where precedent is broken.
commented on "Jinkx Monsoon is the only gal qualified to call herself a queen."
@10 - I can accept (very sadly) that many gay men have never heard of Little Edie. But when you are a drag queen -- especially one competing on national television to be the next drag superstar -- you should be steeped in Gay Camp Lore.
But more appalling was not that they didn't know Little Edie but that they didn't seem to know the Snatch Game, either. This was now the fourth time they've done it. Don't they know by now that the Snatch Game isn't a runway competition? It's not enough to look the part, you have to act the part. Almost everyone was shockingly unprepared.
I wish Honey Mahogany had last long enough for next week's singing competition to show them how it's done.
commented on Savage Love
I think Helvetica Bold is a fantastic drag name. So much better than Comic Sans. I definitely want to see those pics.
Also, my drag queen friends call those guys "clown fuckers."
commented on His Life Had Purpose
I am so grateful that I live in a city with a good public transit system where I don't need to own a car, I live super easy walking distance from at least a dozen fun bars (and an easy cab ride away from many more if I want variety). Even though I don't always get drunk when I go out, I can't imagine wanting to drive after even one drink (at least, not with the happy hour double-sized heavy pours that are almost universal in my neighborhood).
commented on Savage Love
Totally love @16's idea of a not-hidden elopement followed by a nice reception at home.
Also, agree with @21 one hundred percent. Pre-marital counseling is so important. Doesn't matter what your sexual orientation or religion or anything is, or how long you've lived together, or anything else. People have different expectations about what it means to be married and how that changes the relationship. Which is fine, as long as you're both on the same page -- which is the whole purpose of pre-marital counseling in the first place. It's not about telling the couple "Person X" believes/wants/assumes this and "Person Y" believes/wants/assumes this other thing, and then figuring out in advance how to come together on any differences.