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Jan 7 Kevin_BGFH commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Reader Advice Round-Up.
I was going to say that Prosopagnosia has got to be pretty rare and the odds of it being the case here has to be unlikely. But then I looked up the stats and it sounds like as many as 2% to 2.5% of people may have it, so there's a good chance I know someone who has it. That said, Occam's Razor and all, I have to agree with @3 that it's probably much more likely that the closeted trick was trying to pretend not to know the gay guy on the street. That really does happen all the time.
Dec 12, 2016 Kevin_BGFH commented on Congressional Leaders, aka Republicans, Call for Investigation Into Russian Hacking.
One of the questions is whether McConnell (and Ryan) are going to back the independent 9/11-style Congressional investigation or more like the Banghazi-type?

If it's the Benghazi-type, then it would go through existing House and Senate committees (probably Intelligence or Homeland Security, who already have security clearances and received preliminary briefings). In this scenario, Republicans control the shots and have the ability to make the hearings be a sham. They control the power of the subpoena. They can prevent Democrats from doing any subpoenas they don't want. They control who does and does not testify, and whether it's public or private. In short, they control whether this Congressional investigation is legitimate or a fa├žade.

If it's a 9/11-style commission, then it's a joint commission including equal numbers of Republicans and Democrats, Senators and House Representatives (usually 12 members -- three Dems and Reps from the House and three each from the Senate). This has a much greater chance of being conducted fairly and having the public's trust afterwards.
Dec 7, 2016 Kevin_BGFH commented on Savage Love.
As someone who has struggled with weight most of my life (to the point where I am on prescription weight loss medication because I was on the verge of a medical emergency), I really endorse the gym -- but not (specifically) for weight loss or getting in shape or getting a sexier bod. For the endorphins. Nothing has made me feel better than when I start to exercise on a regular basis. And when I get into a funk (as I have been since November 9) and get out of the habit, not exercising just compounds things. I'll take this as a reminder that instead of thinking that I'll go back to the gym when I get out of this funk, I need to remember that I won't get out of this funk until I go back to the gym and get those endorphins back.
Nov 19, 2016 Kevin_BGFH commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Loneliest Flip-Flopper In Seattle.
Seattle is the gayest city in America?

I'm sure it's plenty gay enough and I've had a great time in gay bars there, but I'm skeptical of the study that calls it the GAYEST city in America. Just as I was skeptical (and debunked) "The Hill's" study claiming Washington to be the bluest state. No offense, it's plenty blue, but superlatives should be backed up.
Nov 19, 2016 Kevin_BGFH commented on Savage Love.
The other morning as I was writing a card to Hillary Clinton, I made three donations. The first was to Planned Parenthood. Originally it was going to be in honor of Mike Pence, but at the last minute I decided to make it a positive contribution in honor of the Presidential candidate who had given the strongest, most full-throated endorsement of the right to choose of any candidate in a presidential debate ever: Hillary Clinton. The second was to the Children's Defense Fund. You can probably guess who inspired that donation and in whose name it was in honor. The third was to convert the monthly donation I had been making to Hillary's campaign to be a monthly donation to the national ACLU, because they are going to have a lot of First Amendment battles on their hand with this incoming Administration's stated vow to try to make it easier for the sitting president to sue the media. (First step of many a dictator trying to dismantle democracy.)

I wish I could give more to others right now -- the Trevor Project, the Environmental Defense Fund, and so many others whose work will be sorely tested these days.
Nov 15, 2016 Kevin_BGFH commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Strep Right Up.
I had strep six times in five years in the mid/late 1990s. My doctors never recommended a tonsillectomy. They said that every time I got strep, I would develop immunities to that strain. It used to be that most people only encountered a few strains in their lives but with modern travel, that's changed. Even so, they said that eventually I'd be exposed to enough strains that I'd probably stop contracting it. At least, that's how I remember how they described it. (Memory can be a funny thing.) For what it's worth, I haven't contracted strep throat in over 15 years now.

First time, though, it went undiagnosed for a long time. By the time it was diagnosed, it was so bad I ended up losing 15 pounds. That same year, a coworker's best friend went into the hospital for strep and ended up dying. Deaths are rare but they do happen, so do take it seriously.
Oct 29, 2016 Kevin_BGFH commented on SL Letter of the Day: Let Me Be a Part of Your Pissing Experience!.
Seriously (and most of you have already commented on this), how does she know he pees in front of other guys? Because he walks into a multi-use restroom with other guys? Maybe it's one of those old-time SF SOMA gay bars with a big trough and a mirror along the back, but probably not. If he's really pee shy, maybe he uses a stall, or at the very least, the urinals probably have dividers between them so people can't peek. Lots of pee-shy gay guys like myself have figured out how to navigate around peeing in public without thinking we're being watched by other guys (because it's more about thinking we're being watched than actually being watched).
Sep 28, 2016 Kevin_BGFH commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Too Good To Be True.
@1 - I interpreted the interpersonal skills bit coming from the LW saying he was fit but a virgin who had trouble meeting people. I don't think Dan has a thing against online dating. He probably give that advice for that LW comment even if it wasn't an online dating thing.
Awww, super sad! "SF" is on the ad, which I assume means San Francisco, but there aren't tour dates for our lovely sex-positive City. (And may I nominate St. James Infirmary if you do come and need a local sex worker group to donate to? They offer free, confidential, nonjudgmental medical and social services for sex workers (current or former) of all genders and sexual orientations. They say they are the first occupational safety and health clinic for sex workers run by and for sex workers.)
Sep 22, 2016 Kevin_BGFH commented on Hillary's Poll Numbers Are Improving (But There's No Improving the Electoral College).
I used to think that the national popular vote was the way to go. But here's my concern.

Remember how contentious the 2000 election was in Florida, with all of the fighting over every last hanging chad and butterfly ballot? The vote was so close and every vote counted, so both sides challenged every single ballot they could, hoping to toss out the ones against their side and get accepted the ones for them. And this was on top of the voter purging and vote suppressing that led up to election day.

That was all in one state with a lot of electoral votes that was expected to be close and was. But in a national election, that's going to happen in every reasonably close election in every precinct in every state of the country, even ones with a 90% registration favoring one party or the other, because it won't matter where they pick up a few votes here or there. They could lose San Francisco by 75% and still be fighting over contested ballots because it might make the difference nationwide.

I am all for perfecting our voting systems. But as things stand now, I think we'd be opening a Pandora's Box if we dove into a national popular vote election and then had to fight over 200 million hanging chads.