commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mutually Intoxicated Destruction
" Part of being a hetero man (especially a young man in America) is accepting the fact that it is never a good idea to have sex with a woman who is drunk."
That ultimately is my answer. In addition to the potential for dealing with the very real possibility that she'll regret it in the morning, there's also the very real possibility that one or both of us wasn't being smart about pregnancy and disease prevention. And I know I miss out on some good sex because of it, but better that than making a mistake I'll be having to deal with for the rest of my life.
And for what it's worth, I have friends who have been raped. Statistically speaking, there are probably quite a few more who have been raped who I don't know about. LW's partner doesn't seem like she's been on the receiving end of that, and I think he's in the clear. It's true that women sometimes lie about it. It's also true that sometimes men lie about it. What's definitely true is that Republicans have no understanding of the issue.
commented on I Can Die Now
I thought "traditional marriage" died when somebody decided that each man (presumed straight) should have only one wife. Or the point at which they decided that people getting married, especially women, should have any say whatsoever in who they were marrying.
And yes, there are some people that still practice that kind of marriage. I've kind of wondered what it might feel like to experience: "Jane, this is William. He'll be your sole sexual partner, your legal guardian, and your sole source of income for the rest of your life. Have fun!"
commented on Savage Love
For CALI: In Plato's Symposium (in addition to Socrates making lovey-dovey with cute teenage boy), Aristophanes tells a story about why people want love, and he argues that men who love men are in fact the manliest men, because their "other half" is also a man, whereas the men that love women are half-feminine themselves.
So yeah, it's all there in ancient Greece.
commented on The Fight Against Small Apartments
It's really perfectly clear to me what's going on, as someone who lives very far away from this whole controversy: When the NIMBYs describe the people they're worried about as "sketchy", "transient", or "criminal", what they actually mean is "black".
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mr. Wonderful
To add to the DTMFA chorus:
A few years ago I met a sweet little old lady who was part of a discussion group I was participating in. Over the course of the discussions, it came out that her husband of many many years was an alcoholic who treated her the same way this guy is treating VAG. She's still dealing with the challenges of that relationship about 30 years after she was able to leave him.
So don't walk, run to the nearest exit.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Most Beautiful Woman On Earth
@21 nailed it: The cardinal sin here isn't the fact that he may well be banging his "ex" and at least half of his "friends". It's that he's being completely dishonest with the LW.
You may love him, hun, but he only cares about a few of your body parts. If you like a few of his body parts, feel free to enjoy them, but you'll never be his #1.
commented on Great Moments in Minority Outreach at CPAC
" #5,6 - nope, this is the Stranger, so it's 'all white men'. We all have 'privilege', or something,"
As a white guy, when I get pulled over by the cops for a minor traffic violation, I know that whether or not I get a ticket, I will not be imprisoned or killed and my car will not be searched without good reason. My non-white friends and coworkers, on the other hand, have been pulled over for violations that never happened, ordered out of their car, frisked, and had the car searched illegally. And my city's cops are currently under federal investigation for sending 60 cars chasing after a black couple that doesn't seem to have committed any sort of crime and firing 143 rounds at them.
White friends report cases of companies turning down highly qualified candidates for jobs because those candidates were black. In the place I work, an owner categorically stated that he'd never hire an Indian under any circumstances.
So yes, I'd say I have some privileges other people don't, solely because I'm white.