Mar 5, 2014 gttim commented on Kshama Sawant Doesn't Support Phasing-In $15 an Hour Minimum Wage.
Why should she start negotiating with herself? Until counter proposals are offered, she should not start giving ground. This is an incredibly stupid story.
Feb 28, 2014 gttim commented on SL Letter of the Day: HOPE and Change and Second Opinions.
As Dan has said in the past, work on becoming the man who other people would want to date and sleep with. At one point in my life I had flunked out of college, become basically homeless and had to face my drug and alcohol issues. I was angry and bitter. Probably depressed and certainly suffering from a mild case of manic depression, which runs in my family, and which my alcoholism made only worse. So I sucked it up, worked shitty jobs, went back to school whenever I could, got a math degree, started a good job. Still, I was not getting laid or finding relationships that fulfilled me. I did not get laid for the first 5 years of that journey. Sometimes I did after that, but it was more out of luck. I pursued hobbies that I liked and met women, but just did not have my shit together.

I started looking into dating / pickup programs. (I may get hammered for what follows....) Most of them are garbage, but I found some that were interesting. They talked about working on yourself to become a confident guy. David DeAngelo had one "On Being a Man." It got me started on a bit of a journey. I had already done a lot of work on the outside- job, dress, taking care of myself- but I still needed to work on the inside. It was not a quick process, but in the long run it really helped me, not only with women but with life in general. I became a much better person and my life became better.

I never became a guy who picked up women on the fly- I did that as a drunken bartender. I did become a guy women were interested in seeing again. Many years ago I went on a first date with a woman, and she dismissed me as a dating possibility. She was hot, educated, made good money and lived a nice life. I had a good job, was living a fairly interesting life, but I just didn't do it for her. Two and a half years later we ended up on a date again, without realizing we had gone out before- absolutely true. She could not wait to go out with me again. We are coming up on three years together. After 4 months we finally realized that we had gone out on a first first date year before. The old me would have been pissed off that she did not think me good enough for a second date. The man I had become found it hilarious.

However you start or take the journey, work on improving yourself. Make yourself into a person others are attracted to.
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Feb 26, 2014 gttim commented on SL Letter of the Day: Haters Gonna Hate.
@36 Spelling the V club or V word is much easier!
Feb 26, 2014 gttim commented on SL Letter of the Day: Haters Gonna Hate.
I joined the V club a few years ago. My buddy is a lawyer and I used to hear all these custody and child support horror stories. Women were getting pregnant after a few dates, and lawyers and support payments were going on for a long time! I was getting scared to have sex with any girl I dated, because I had been pushing the odds for a while. I ran out and got one. So much less to worry about now! Girls love it! When my current GF and I had the talk, when she heard the V word, she said "right answer!"
Feb 25, 2014 gttim commented on Man Reportedly Shoots Self in Head While Giving Girlfriend Gun Safety Demonstration.
Of course the other question is while demonstrating said gun safety, did he ever say "Here, hold this beer."
Feb 25, 2014 gttim commented on Man Reportedly Shoots Self in Head While Giving Girlfriend Gun Safety Demonstration.
#11, Somebody killing themselves in a car while drunk will at least (supposedly) passed a test, been issued a license, bought insurance, and registered there car and bought a tag. World might be a safer place if we made people do that with guns! The government does attempt to protect us from cars. Drive drunk, get arrested. Handle a gun drunk... not so much.
Feb 17, 2014 gttim commented on Morning News: Seattle's Biblical Rainfall, "Tawdry Whores" on Ice, and NBC Made Bode Miller Cry!.
Bode is a douche-bag. I wish the reporter had kicked him in the nuts while he was bent over crying.
Jan 8, 2014 gttim commented on Savage Love.
SMO: I got the chance to get together with a woman I could not forget for over two decades. We met just for old time's sake. We dated briefly and slept together a few times. A lot of old anxieties resurfaced. I realized that as much as I wanted, we were not compatible. I moved on. After dating a few women, I am now about 2 1/2 years into a relationship with somebody very special and compatible. It could never be this good with the other woman.

Why did I crush on this woman for two years? Ego, like Dan said. Somebody else got her. They had a horrible time of it, but I lost and that hurt. All the relationships, or crushes, I could not forget or get over were all about my ego.

Funny, when somebody cuts in front of me while driving and I get mad? My ego again. If somebody pisses me off at work? Usually my ego. Funny how that all works.
Dec 17, 2013 gttim commented on The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo Rides Again.
Funny, somebody had briefly listed a new novel on Amazon using John D. MacDonald's character Travis McGee. It lasted a few days before the estate found out about it. It was quietly and quickly removed. One fan did get a copy and said she could not get past the 10th chapter. MacDonald's estate had made it very clear there will never be any new books in that series. They feel it would be a dis-service to the memory of the writer.
Oct 31, 2013 gttim commented on Savage Love.
I can no longer give blood because I keep popping a positive for Syphilis. Every time I go to my doctor who runs a more accurate test and tells me I do not have it. We have never figured why I keep getting the false positive. I have never had Syphilis. So yes, false positives can happen with blood donation. You could still ask.