Mar 27, 2015
commented on Terry Teachout on the Greatness and Limitations of Philip Glass
Sounds like my father talking about Mahler (and don't get him started on Bach).
I somehow think the lack of embrace from the more staid musical establishment is more a result that the Phillip Glass Ensemble exists and it's easier to book them than to rehearse the piece in house. As for virtuosos eschewing his work, Jennifer Koh was kicking ass an taking names in the title role in Einstein on the Beach, and I'm delighted to have been able to see her in it. Thing is, for most Glass pieces, you need an ensemble of virtuosos to pull them off.
Thinking about the Beckett connection, I've seen LOTS of bad (or even worse, mediocre) productions of Beckett (honestly, I got through two degrees in theatre not getting what all the fuss was). Then I got to see performers from the Abbey Theatre do Godot. I walked out saying, "Oh, that's how it's supposed to be done." (See also Ian McKellen and Patrick Stewart's recent rep tour.)
Feb 18, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Eat and Run
@6 Dead on.
NWATB the other, easier way is to not be available once or twice. I presume he's texting before he comes over. Tell him not tonight and see what happens (not responding at all seems outside the campsite rule boundary).
Feb 11, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Pups
Thanks to everyone (5, 6, 7) for jumping in to mock someone's sexual expression.
Yes, multi-partner relationships are complicated.
Yes, puppy play is a highly specific kink that, while not my cup of chai, is becoming a lot more widspread (or Mr. S wouldn't be releasing new styles of puppy hoods every few weeks).
I think puppies get so much shit because they have the temerity to have FUN with their kink instead of being drearily serious about it all the time.
To the letter writer, reread what you wrote. You said it yourself, he uses this distancing to avoid dealing with his own stuff. That should have been a huge red flag to you without any of the other surround.
I partially agree with Dan, but from what you've written, I think he's liable to regret dropping out of what he had with you in a few years (and may try to reconnect at such time whens he's sorted through his issues). Hopefully by that time you, your handler, and any other pack members will be in a much better position to decide if you want him back in your life or not. (Or you'll be in a different space completely--most of the pups I've know tend to age out of it.)
Feb 6, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Enthusiastic BJs
@11 Wrong answer. Chlamydia is practically airborn (okay, I exaggerate slightly, but not by much; a very little saliva is all it takes). It's easily treated and no more than an annoyance (assuming you don't ignore the symptoms and you're getting regular STD checks), but if he hasn't already picked it up, eventually, he most likely will.
All that to the side, why is everyone so anxious to label this guy? Is gender the only thing you get self-determination on? He says he's straight and he likes blowjobs. That pretty much lines up with the straight guys I know, including the ones I've blown.
Dec 19, 2014
commented on FCC Rejects Proposal to Make "Redskins" an Obscenity
Who they're fooling is Google. Having profanity, especially in headlines, adversely impacts placement in search algorithms. John Aravosis at Americablog has written about it fairly extensively. In short, it's capitalism at work.
Dec 9, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Accidental Discovery
There seem to be a lot of people asking "how'd that happen?" who don't use tumblr a lot. All it takes is one image, and you can suddenly stumble into a kink category you didn't realize existed. (Hands up, who knew about furries before someone committed a terrorist act at one of their largest conventions this weekend?)
I'm on team "Hey, bro, I was browsing the internet for porn this weekend, and if you're blurring the faces, you should probably blur the jewelry, too." And then NEVER mention it again. It is continually amazing to me that people don't realize digital is forever.
Nov 10, 2014
commented on Republican Calls Net Neutrality "Obamacare for the Internet"
I never realized the depth of Obama's cynicism until now, and I can't but admire the way he uses it. That sense of deja vu you may be feeling is the drubbing that North Carolina took in 2010 when they passed an amendment barring same sex marriage. The fucking day after was when Obama's "evolution" on the issue began. Now, a few days after the 2014 elections, he does the same thing with an issue that only techies and the under 30 crowd even realize is a major issue setting up a youth stampede to the polls in 2016 (assuming Hillary and the rest of the Democratic braintrust don't fuck it up).
There is now no way for a Republican to win the nomination in 2016 without opposing net neutrality.
Sep 26, 2014
commented on Facebook Fails to Explain Its Discriminatory and Dangerous 'Real Names' Policy
Does anyone remember a while back when Facebook announced there were now something like 200 gender identities available and (mostly) everyone cheered? This whole "real name" thing is a bit like they turned around and changed it to two checkboxes:
Do you have a penis?[ ]
Do you have a vagina?[ ]
That's all the input we need. We'll decide what your gender is from here.
I was put in the slow reading group when I was in first grade because I couldn't find my desk the first day. It wasn't because I couldn't read. It was because the name tag was my legal name, which no one had ever called me since about the second week of my life. I'd never heard it. I can hide from virtually anyone who knows me by using my legal name.