Apr 12 Ricardo commented on Savage Love.
@ 47 - Not that I care much about diamonds, but were they false, it would be a good indicator of how gullible my BF thinks I am. Which is always good to know.
Apr 12 Ricardo commented on Savage Love.
Addendum to @44 - I can't tell the difference either, but not being naive, if a 20 year old gave me what he said was a diamond bracelet, I'd go to the jewellers the very next day to check.
Apr 12 Ricardo commented on Savage Love.
Still @ 8 and BDF @ 36 - It could be zircon. She does sound rather naive, so I'm not sure she could tell the difference, and the guy may be thinking "If she believes I'll never do this again, she'll believe they're diamonds". Assuming, of course, the guy is a POS and not just confused about his sexuality.

If they're real diamonds, from personal experience I'd say BDF hit the nail on the head.
Apr 10 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Horny Feminist Seeks Porn That Won't Destroy Her Faith in Humanity.
What if the kind of porn we enjoy is the one that's found on the various "tubes", i.e. homemade by people who don't look like they're made of plastic? I just can't watch professionally produced porn anymore, it's just not messy, sweaty, human enough.
Apr 5 Ricardo commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Hunger.
Lava @ 5 - The good old days of 2015, when we were still young and stupid.
Apr 4 Ricardo commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: After 15 Years, Her Husband Still Looks Like A Child & She's Not Into It.
@ 4 - Her husband has clearly demonstrated that he deserves better than a horrible, selfish, shallow jerk. That's why she should leave him.
Mar 31 Ricardo commented on Savage Love.
vab @ 106 - "Note that since I make it clear that I am poz friendly, a playmate would have no reason to lie"

I met the person I talked about in this thread (starting @ 4) online, and it took us about a week to actually get a chance to meet face-to-face. During that week, I told him about my previous experience with an HIV positive man, and insisted that I didn't regret a thing in spite of the tragic ending. That was (and still is) the way I tell people that I'm not opposed to a relationship with a poz guy, and that they can be honest with me.

And yet, he lied about it. For most of our relationship.

Sometimes people are fucked up beyond reason, and no matter what you do, they'll lie to you anyway. Not having any reason to do it does not necessarily mean that they won't. In my former BF's case, it simply was his modus operandi - a pathological liar, if you will. There's not much you can do against those, unless they're bad at it and it's easy to spot their lies. Unfortunately for me, he was an excellent liar.
Mar 31 Ricardo commented on Savage Love.
Vab @ 104 - I stand corrected. That said, the fact that they cannot prove it is sufficient for me to choose to always rely on latex protection.

Girz @ 90 - As they used to say in the 90s, the only way to be sure not to get infected is to act as if everyone else in the world already is.

One thing, though: to the best of my knowledge, spermicidal condoms may kill the sperm, but the don't kill the virus...
Mar 30 Ricardo commented on Savage Love.
Of course, I said "you'll never know if you are poz right now" meaning: even if your last test was negative.

People who've received a positive diagnostic obviously know that they are.
Mar 30 Ricardo commented on Savage Love.
Nocute @ 80 - But since so many people don't know their status (even if you get tested regularly, you'll never know if you are poz right now, as you're about to have sex), I think it's better to just assume that everyone has HIV and to take your precautions accordingly. No worries, no uncomfortable conversations, no one feeling rejected. In the end, it makes your life easier and, more importantly, it works - I and many other HIV- serial fuckers are proof of that.