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Sep 12, 2012 sfguy commented on It’s Time to Freak Out About Climate Change.
The elephant in the room that is constantly ignored is population growth. If each person cuts their energy use by half, and the population doubles again, which it's predicted to, we've accomplished nothing.
Jun 27, 2012 sfguy commented on Savage Love.
If you're not into bars, there are still many other options, depending on where SAFF's brother lives: gay biking clubs, hiking clubs, gaming clubs, etc. etc.

As for not finding a connection right away, welcome to the club. I dated until I was almost 30 before meeting "the one"

Another thing that Dan didn't mention is DON'T COME ACROSS AS DESPERATE. To me, and I'm sure to others, there's nothing that's a bigger turnoff than someone who seems clingy and desperate to be in a relationship with me. I'm not saying to be an aloof a-hole. If you find someone intersting, by all means show them interest, just don't smother them or they'll view you as a controlling, smothering person and leave.
Apr 4, 2012 sfguy commented on Savage Love.
@4 is absolutely right. We've had the cat jump on one of our backs in the middle of sex, or head butt us, or some such nonsense. That's the nature of cats. When they want attention, they want it NOW.
Feb 23, 2012 sfguy commented on Savage Love.
LAME, not sure if this will help but you might be stuck in a negative feedback loop. Here's what happened with me. I'm a gay guy and have been with my partner for 10 years. I'm a traditional horn dog but he's more of a it's special/I want romance kind of guy. Anyway we got stuck in this loop for awhile where he withheld sex so I withheld affection so he withheld sex etc. Finally we both realized it was fucking up the relationship so we compromised and alternate between romance/massages etc and quickies/pure dirty sex. When I lost the mindset of "why isn't he a horn dog like most guys" and just accepted him for who he was and worked within that framework things got a lot better for us.

As for what people will and won't do there are always some things people don't feel comfortable doing. Unless that's your main fetish you've got to consider if it's a deal breaker or not. However, oral is pretty standard so thats a no brainier.
Feb 10, 2012 sfguy commented on Required Listening: Howard Stern on Ellen, JC Penney, Bullied Gay Kids, Rosie, Santorum, Bachmann, et al.
Howard Stern is like Dear Abby--both people work within the constraints of what their audience expects/will tolerate to nudge them along in the right direction. Good work Howard!
Oct 5, 2011 sfguy commented on Savage Love.
Keep the faith MUJ. Sex is about *much* more than body parts. When there's some connection or love, body parts, physical quirks, etc. fall by the wayside and, at the risk of sounding too new-agey, it becomes a spiritual/primitive thing. You may have a harder time finding someone, but you will find someone.
Oct 5, 2011 sfguy commented on Amazon's All-American Sweatshop Conditions.
I'd like to know more about this since I have patronized Amazon and if the working conditions are truly as bad as seattlegrrrl said then I won't do it again. Not to doubt your story, but my experience on the internet is that it's always easy to find a few disgruntled people. So...anyone reading this who works at Amazon...give us more info on what it's like so we can make an informed decision.!
Jan 30, 2010 sfguy commented on Savage Love.
... After all, in a homosexual marriage, there is no woman there to say "No" to sex all the time, so it should pretty much be a free-for-all, all the time. ... I wish it were that simple. Gay couples have to deal with all the same relationship crap, financial issues, job stresses, etc. and it's not always as easy as you would think to keep that out of the bedroom.
Dec 17, 2009 sfguy commented on Savage Love.
Switch from a mouse to a trackball, and get an ergonomic keyboard. I got the kind with the thumb roller and my carpal problems went away within a couple weeks.
Aug 6, 2009 sfguy commented on Savage Love.
I had T.C. and lost one of the "boys". I was really psychologically devastated about it, so I got the prosthetic and look normal in the shower, gym, etc. though it definitely feels different and you can tell it's not real. For awhile, I wore a cock ring for sex because then no one could tell, but finally just dealt with it. Long story short, have been with my partner of 10 years who could care less so it's all good.
 

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