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Oct 7, 2015 adam.smith commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Taking It Easy on Sherman Alexie's Birthday.
" The boyfriend is an engineer so when I said I wanted to be tied up and fucked, he said to get him a book. "
Is one of the most charming sentences I remember reading in a SLL.
Oct 6, 2015 adam.smith commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: She Can't Unread That.
yeah, I don't journal, but reading someone's journal seems virtually guaranteed to let you find something of this nature.
I'd assume figuring out your feelings, venting frustrations and dark thoughts is the major function of writing only for yourself. So no, I don't think that what's in a journal should be taken at face value (I know my initial impulses certainly can be way off, especially when I'm upset) and yes, the gf definitely has herself to blame. Karma is a bitch. And she doesn't like snoopers.
Oct 1, 2015 adam.smith commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Does a Lesbian Bridesmaid Have to Suck Dick?.
yeah, fuck all that gendered wedding crap, but that's not really her choice here, so...
I'd say this is your buddies wedding, and you should make sure this doesn't affect you nor your relationship to his future wife, so avoid creating drama of any kind. E.g. I'd definitely not send a en e-mail of any kind to the MoH.
I'd go to the dinner and then leave with some excuse. That's what I'd do for a strip club bachelor party, which I have no interest in attending.
Sep 22, 2015 adam.smith commented on SL Letter of the Day: Take a Lover or Two.
Yeah, assuming #14 is indeed the LW, they did the right thing: end the relationship, then get laid. Assuming that an open relationship/permission to sleep with other folks wasn't an option for one or both of them, I don't see why this situation would allow for cheating.
Cheating is a shitty last resort in a situation where ending the relationship isn't a viable option. Clearly that wasn't the case here.
Jul 23, 2015 adam.smith commented on Teenagers Having Less Sex, Popping More Morning-After Pills.
While I completely agree with Dan that using Plan B is smart and that it should be encouraged and not stigmatized (and it should be free, at least for teens--that's the case in France, e.g.), I strongly disagree that contraception with a failure rate of over 10%--higher for overweight women--is an acceptable plan A for anyone who really, really wants to prevent getting pregnant.
Jun 2, 2015 adam.smith commented on School Kids Visit Sex Toy Store.
yeah, the nature of the school would seem to matter quite a bit. This is not your run-of-the-mill school. If you send your kids to a democratic school, you know (or should know) that weird things can happen. I don't know Gaia, but in a typical democratic school, the field trip would have been agreed on and planned together with the students.
If you don't want those kinds of surprises, 99% of other schools will do. As several people have pointed out, most other schools will run through a whole bureaucratic field-trip maneuver.
Apr 28, 2015 adam.smith commented on Savage Love.
OleSharBones @5 -- Dan is talking about the world population, and .15% of a bit over 7 billion is indeed about 11 million.

.15% of the US population, is 480,000 -- the US has about 320million inhabitants.
Apr 8, 2015 adam.smith commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The End of the Affair(s).
Finally, TMA, if the married woman you're with now—the married woman your with now—

Is this a grammar joke I'm not getting or Dan being tired after reading that letter?
Mar 27, 2015 adam.smith commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Complicated Threesome.
@12 (and 18, 20) - I was just looking at stats and Plan B is much less effective than I thought it'd be. People say about 95% in the first 24 hours, but they don't seem to trust their own studies a lot.
Feb 23, 2015 adam.smith commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What Comes Up (Or: A Question From Someone Who Couldn't Follow My Advice to #FuckFirst on Valentine's Day).
I know it's just in a throw-away phrase, but since Jesse is a professor for science communication, I'd have hoped for him not to make his colleagues in history and classics miserable by repeating the myth about the Romans vomiting between courses because it is, well, a myth (based on a rather amusingly misunderstood word (vomitorium)): see e.g.… among dozens of sources.