Dec 10, 2015 DRF commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: My Fuckbuddy, My Cousin.
I wouldn't go that far, venomlash. One study showed that a fifteenth cousin is exactly the right genetic distance for maximum health in offspring. But yeah, reproducing with a non-first cousin shouldn't be that big of a deal so long as it isn't a multi-generational habit (check out the Hapsburgs).

But all that's about having healthy children. Who says that this divorced person wants children (or wants more children)?

Does anyone else here think that maybe it was the incestuous-but-not-really forbidden nature of this relationship that was what kept LW so interested?
Dec 10, 2015 DRF commented on Savage Love.
@47, it's the combination of sex with money that's the problem. Like I said, there have been psychological studies showing that people put action-for-money in one category and action-for-loyalty/other-emotional-reason in another. Maintenance sex would be in the second category, not the first.
@49, actually selling the work of one's hands is more common than selling the work of one's brain.
Dec 10, 2015 DRF commented on Savage Love.
Two amendments: "SpRankle," sorry.
Social conservatives probably engage in more wishful thinking than social progressives, but is that really where we want to copy them? "The world should work this way, so let's ignore how it does work" usually doesn't help, no matter whose red or blue mouth it comes from.
Dec 10, 2015 DRF commented on Savage Love.
Once again a social progressive says "Well we really shouldn't think this way, so let's pretend it's not true!" Spankle is engaging in a huge amount of wishful thinking. Prostitutes face violence and stigma because sex is different from other services and while I can't speak for this particular client, the whole culture is conditioned to believe that people who perform sex acts for money deserve to be treated like property ("I'm paying you, so you have to do X and Y and I don't have to show you any respect, the way I would if this were a favor or subject to prevailing etiquette"). Thousands of years of culture don't go away. Also, let's say that sex should just be considered just another saleable service: Consider recent psychological studies showing that people place emotionally motivated and payment-motivated services in two different categories. (Example: You'd pick up a friend at the airport for free, but you'd be insulted if they offered to pay you $2 for it.)

Like it or not, introducing money into sex or sex into money changes the experience, and telling SOTEMPTED to act like the stigma is solely a silly holdover is reckless and could do him considerable harm.
Dec 7, 2015 DRF commented on Trump's Lead Grows.
Absolutely not. While it's not illegal to game the system, it's not good either. In this particular case, every image of an American cheering on Trump's bigoted idiocy costs us what little goodwill we have left in the Muslim world and strengthens ISIS.
Nov 23, 2015 DRF commented on This Needs to Happen to Urinals All Over the Country.
Agree with @3. WHAT?! And yes it would still be offensive if some of them were men's mouths, but there are connotations here.
Nov 18, 2015 DRF commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: An Easy Call for a Former Call Girl.
I don't approve of prostitution, but it's clear that the fact that the LW doesn't disapprove of prostitution is a dealbreaker for her boyfriend, so he should stop being such a coward and say goodbye instead of passive aggressively begging LW to do it for him.
Nov 14, 2015 DRF commented on The Painful Fallout of the Mormon Church's Latest Attack on Gays and Lesbians.
@9 That is fascinating. I've got to tell my mom so she can bring it up at Bible study.
Nov 14, 2015 DRF commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Straight-On-Straight Advice.
I guess it's possible to read this letter as a guy celebrating the low bar but one could just as easily say he's complaining about it. Besides, the target audience of this message (people who have not yet realized that the bar is not insurmountable, let alone that it is low) are more likely to listen to guys like him.

But come on, he's related to JC! That girl is my khaleesi!
Nov 14, 2015 DRF commented on The Painful Fallout of the Mormon Church's Latest Attack on Gays and Lesbians.
Vilifying people just for inviting their kid to Thanksgiving? They should be happy that the "sinful" son is hanging out with his "more wholesome" relatives. This is meaningless cruelty.